Is She Relationship Material Or Friends With Benefits Only?

How to determine if she’s relationship material or friends with benefits only.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 24 year old viewer who was smart and paying attention to the red flags he saw when he met a really hot, but crazy woman. He shares the details he noticed right away that made it easy to determine she was only friends with benefits material and not a candidate for a relationship. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Is She Relationship Material Or Friends With Benefits Only?”.

Well, this particular email is from a 24 year old guy. He’s smart and he’s paying attention, vetting the women he dates properly. He doesn’t get all emotionally wrapped up in anybody. He doesn’t get hypnotized by the pretty face and the beautiful body. He sees reality as it is. And so he writes in because he had an experience recently. He met a girl she lives in a, I guess, a town near him, like 17 miles away, apparently.

And so they meet, they hook up, and then after that things go a little squirrely. It looks like she’s got a partner, apparently, or a boyfriend or a live in boyfriend. And, uh, on top of that, she’s got a chaotic family. She’s just got a whole truckload of red flags. He sent some pictures of her. She’s really beautiful. Most guys would want to date and hook up with her, but the average dude just can’t get past, I should say, they’ll look past the crazy, and make excuses because of her beauty and her sex appeal.

And guys that get into relationships with women like this wife em up, have kids with them. These are the guys that you hear the horror stories about. And you know the Red Pill guys jump all over it. But at the end of the day, Character is destiny. Did her dad do a good job or not? And clearly in this case, he did not. And I’m glad this guy wrote in because there’s just some obvious glaring things that show up.

And he admits in the past he probably would have just looked past all that. But since he’s a good student, he realized what was going on. He’s applying the book. She went kind of berserk already, So let’s go through his email because it’s a good email if you’re dating and you’re single, these kinds of women are out there. You got to vet properly. You got to vet for character. Character is destiny.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

My name is Bob I’m a 24 year-old guy living in a small town called Dunsmuir.

Dunsmuir? Dunsmuir? D U N S M U I R. I’ve never heard of it.

Located in Northern California. So a while ago I hooked up with a girl and another town up the road for me 17 miles or so. After chatting with her back and forth via Google messages and setting up a date getting off the phone afterwards, had sex with her the first day meeting up with her in person. The sex was great by the way.

Well, obviously she’s experienced.

But after that she started putting off many red flags and told me.

So here’s where they begin. This is again, just if you ask good quality questions, the women will just go. They’ll give you a verbal diarrhea and all the problems up front.

She has to take pills at 10:00 every morning and she also has an Only Fans.

How convenient.

But tried to justify herself by saying she only shows ass pictures and blocks everything else.

Sure.

And even showed me. She also can’t keep a job because she gets psychotic etc. And is on welfare and disability, she’s 25.

And again he sends pictures. He looks beautiful. I mean, just from the package you were like, wow, what a lovely woman. But she’s medicated. She gets psychotic, she’s on welfare, she’s on disability. She can’t hold down a job. It’s one of the things I say all the time. Does she have a clean car? Does she pay her rent on time? Can she hold down a job, a stable job? These are all basic things of competency that you just can’t look past and go, “Oh, well, she doesn’t have to work. I’ll take care of everything.”

Again, if the woman can’t take care of herself, how is she going to take care of you? Especially how she can take care of kids? It’s like, come on. But you can have some fun as long as you wear a raincoat. Until somebody that shares your goals and values comes along. So this is where it shows how he’s been a good student.

In my mind I was like, yeah, this girl’s automatically a friends with benefits type deal and nothing more. After being stuck with her for a couple days because I didn’t have a car, I told her to not contact me until she moves to my town because of her living situation etc. Her family is chaotic after trying to set up a date a week later. After that then she hits me up after she arrives in town we get together and then ask me if I would like to have sex with her in front of a guy she’s living with. I told her no, that ain’t happening and told her not to get in contact with me unless the situation with new partner doesn’t go well.

So in other words, she’s got a new guy, doesn’t respect him, basically offering to have sex with some other dude. Maybe she’s trying to get a rise out of this dude. I mean, can you imagine? Invites another dude over. Maybe he’s got a cuck chair. Maybe he’s okay with that man.

I told her no, that ain’t happening and told her not to get in contact with me unless the situation with new partner doesn’t go well. Fast forward a few months later I get a text from her new number and asked me what I’m up to I said nothing much and she asked if I can come to her house as a friend and I instantly declined friendship and told her I only want friends with benefits or to be sex playmates and that’s it she got mad at me and called me a prick for only wanting her for sex Coach I’m going to say this shit is hilarious because back then I would have caved in and agreed to friendship in a fact that she’s getting so mad over it despite her having many male orbiters and being insecure and making herself an object technically on Only Fans because Only Fans is basically online stripping is amusing to me.

Yeah, guys will see this and go, “But she’s so beautiful. She’s got such a great body. She’s so good in bed.” Never try to turn a hoe into a housewife. There’s a reason that that saying has been around for a long, long, long time.

Here’s some attached screenshots Coach. Did I do to right thing? Also it’s so interesting to see how mad a girl will get which she’s not used to guys who respect for themselves and know better than to put themselves in these type situations.

Yeah, you definitely roughed up her ego.

She also still has a current partner and told her like I said if it doesn’t work out get back in touch.

So she’s clearly cheating on the guy I guess, that she’s with. Let’s see. I’ll go through the, um. Kind of read this out.

“It’s Jessica what are you doing?”

“What’s up? it’s good hearing from you & nothing much you still in town? Would like to hangout if your still around.”

“Yeah I was going to ask if you want to come over as a friend to my house.”

“I have plenty of friends we can do friends with benefits but unfortunately I don’t do friends with people I’ve slept with.”

“K.”

“So if you’re open to being friends with benefits or sex playmates that’s cool but like I said if you if you want something only platonic I can’t offer you that.”

“I just need friends right now.

And I’m not allowed to have anyone over I’ve fucked so I don’t know.”

“I don’t need any more friends like I said I’m not open to anything platonic and since sounds like you’re still with somebody I think it’s best we stay out of touch like I’ve stated before if it doesn’t work out between you two and you change your mind about my offer get back in touch but any who got to run.”

“I definitely not changing my mind now have a good life. Kind of fucked to you only want me for sex prick.”

She’s not very good at English either. But yeah, most guys would look at her and go, “Oh my God. Yeah. She’s beautiful.” But. It’s like the town moped. It’ll get you to where you want to go, but you don’t want anybody to see you on it. No dice. Not good. No bueno. But this is how you’re supposed to handle it. You don’t get hypnotized by the hot face, the hot body, sweet voice. You just see reality as it is. So he spent a couple days with her, I guess. I assume she lives at home, so he got to see her whole family. He’s like, that’s chaotic. And on top of that, I guess there’s a guy she’s living with, a boyfriend or whatever.

Maybe she calls him when she’s trying to make the boyfriend jealous. It’s like some people that is just their normal life now. An average guy that doesn’t know any better and thinks, “Oh, I’m gonna take her away from this difficult situation. And you know that jerk that she lives with that doesn’t treat her right, I’m gonna be Mr. White Knight, and I’m going to take her away from all those bad things. And we’ll have a perfect life, like in the movies.” Well, what is it? What is the saying? You can take a girl off the streets, but you can’t take the streets out of the girl. Something like that. It’s like, can’t fix it, man.

That’s why it’s, you know, at some point, you’re going to meet her parents, hopefully. And at the very least, you got to say, what’s your relationship with your dad like? Do you love your dad? That’s that is one of the best questions you can ask a girl on a first date. Because if she’s like, “Oh, I love my father, he’s my rock. I go to him for everything. He and my mom, they have such a great relationship. I hope someday I can have a marriage or a relationship like theirs.” That’s the kind of stuff you want to hear. When you hear, “Oh, he’s an asshole. My dad’s a narcissist. He’s a jerk. I don’t talk to him. He’s terrible.”

And you hear that it’s like, probably the juice is not worth the squeeze. So good on you to the emailer for, I mean, you just saw it for what it was right away. And that’s my goal as a Coach. I want you guys to get to that point. I mean, to me, these things should be obvious. You go and you sit over there and you go and you look around the house and you’re like, “Holy shit, this is a mess. I don’t want to get involved with this.” And then you move on. But other guys, they get hypnotized by the beauty of the package and then until it’s too late, like the Members Only Email. This is a guy that saw all kinds of red flags, and now he’s got two kids and some pretty crazy things happen.

But that’ll be for the Members.

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