Is She Testing, Or Wasting My Time?

How to determine if your ex or someone who you used to date and want to re-attract is testing you to determine your strength and worthiness, or if they are simply wasting your time.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who got dumped by his ex. He has been applying what I teach ever since then and has been doing well with new women. Recently, he was out on a date with a new woman he was seeing. Earlier in the day his ex had been texting him trying to get him to see her that same night, but he said he could not because he already had plans. A few minutes later the parents of his ex sat down in the booth next to him and his date in the same restaurant. A few minutes later his ex texted him. A little while after that she showed up at the restaurant.

Needless to say, her attitude and behavior totally changed and she really started reaching out to him again. Then she abruptly canceled a date she asked him out on literally forty five minutes before they were supposed to meet. He wonders if she is just testing him or wasting his time. I discuss some subtle mistakes he made that opened him up to getting jerked around by her again.

“No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. If you allow someone to come into your life, start jerking you around and you continue to tolerate their bad behavior, you are asking them to do it to you again. By your tolerance of their bad behavior you enable and invite them to continue mistreating you. If it’s a lover you really want, a job you want, a business deal you want to close, a new friend you want to have, a rock star employee you want to hire, etc., you must have a point that if they push you too far, you will walk and never look back. In every negotiation in life, and make no mistake about it-life is a constant stream of negotiations, you must know your outcome and the minimum terms you are willing to accept before walking away from the deal or relationship. If you don’t, you will perpetually be disappointed, not get what you want and have people walking all over you. You don’t get what you deserve in life, only what you negotiate.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne