In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a female viewer who is a self described high achieving, successful alpha female who confirms the truth of what I teach to be accurate. She talks about how most men she has always met may appear confident at first, but shortly after meeting her, they turn her off completely by talking her out of liking them. They call and text too much, chase too much, start acting weak after only a few dates and generally try to force themselves into her life. She actually got to the point where she started to think she was simply incompatible. After reading my book, she realized why most men were turning her off. She became focused on trying to find a guy who embodied the qualities I talk about in my book. Even though she works with a lot of handsome and successful professional athletes, she eventually fell for an average looking successful guy with they kind of self-confidence I teach men how to develop within themselves. For the past six months, she has been in the kind of relationship she has always dreamed of.
First, I want to say that I am a great fan of your work! I am a 32-year old European woman, and I am a true Alpha woman. I am a doctor, and I work in the field of pro sports. Just like you, I followed my dream, and I fucking love what I am doing.
I just wanted to tell all the men that are reading your book and watching your videos that you are so right in everything! Guys, it is really all about confidence! I am a high achiever myself, and never wanted to settle for anything less what I thought I deserved. I always have guys chasing me, texting me way too much and forcing themselves upon me — something I walk away from directly. I came to the point of thinking I was incompatible, because all men I dated turned so weak after a few dates, and I stopped liking them after awhile. (Because these men lack confidence, they chase women and try to force things.) I never understood that really for myself, until I read your book and watched your videos.
I have dated really good-looking men, pro athletes and so on. Because I have to travel a lot for my work, and I work only with pro male athletes, most guys acted really needy and jealous — weak, so to say. It is a complete turn off, although I really was into them at first. It is true that you can talk us women out of liking you quite quickly — very quickly, to be honest.
Half a year ago, I met a man that is looks wise, quite average. However, I was attracted to his strength right from the start. (She is surrounded by successful, male pro athletes, but they’ve got no game with women.) He knows what he wants, and he just comes and gets it. That is such a turn on. He gives me all the freedom to follow my passion and only supports this. (Many men are intimidated by successful women.) I can have most men I want, but totally have chosen the most dominant and strong one — the guy who calms me down and keeps me grounded, because he is “the mountain.” Nothing gets him un-centered. That attracts me day in and day out. Nothing feels more pleasant than being able to be submissive and all woman in my private life.
So all of what you teach is so true. It is not about looks. It is how you present yourself, how you feel about yourself and what you radiate.
Corey, keep up the good work! I love it, and I have used all your wisdom myself and have found myself a real 3% man. I will give him my best every day to keep him, because they are RARE! (When you apply the things that I teach, you really don’t have any competition. Even if you’re not as good looking and successful as other men, the women will choose you, because most men don’t know how to act like men. It makes it easy for you to date women that are out of your league.)
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“Being successful in life and with women is really about the amount of self-confidence you exude, how you present yourself and how you feel about yourself. Self-confidence is doing what you know how to do and doing it really well. Time and repetition are the keys to becoming self-confident and an expert at something you may currently be a novice at. Confidence is sexy to women because it communicates a willingness to take risks, step outside of your comfort zone and a preference for choosing to fail instead of not trying at all. All women know on some level that a man who has self-confidence is a man who shows up in life and makes the effort despite his fears. Men who lack self-confidence are simply too timid, shy, weak and adverse to risk taking and failure to get what they want. Women know that if a man can’t or won’t do what it takes to get what he wants or to make himself happy, there is no way he is strong enough to make her happy.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne