How to get to a place in your life where you can overcome a painful breakup and the end of your relationship, so you can recover emotionally, rebuild your confidence, meet and date the next great love of your life.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a great success story of how he used my book, videos and website articles to recover from the painful breakup of his eight year relationship. He was shocked to see how the woman he was with for so long was able to, seemingly so easily, meet a new guy and move on with her life, while he was still devastated and singing the blues. He shares how he started to slowly apply what he was learning from me to ask women out and go on dates. He describes his dating experiences and how some were good, some okay and some, the sex was terrible! Then, it happened. He met the next great love of his life. He was prepared because of all the practice he was doing prior to meeting her. He has some great career opportunities and says that he has never been happier.
Well what a mad year I have had since I first encountered your work on YouTube and began reading your book. Over a year and a half ago, I ended a relationship of nearly eight years. It’s fair to say that the period after that really offered some of the most difficult challenges of my adult life! How do you suddenly live on your own after all that time with another person? (Yes, your whole identity becomes associated with being in that relationship.) What do you do when that person who you fell out of love with seems to find it so easy to move on and meet new people, and you can’t seem to meet anyone? The biggest challenge for me during that time was my confidence and a complete lack of belief in the idea that I could ever attract a beautiful woman again. (She was ready to move on.)
Luckily, it was around that time that I found your work and slowly began to apply some of the things you teach. I contacted you several times and tried to follow your brilliant advice and ideas around what confidence really is, and how you can increase it. Of course, that means JUST DO IT and repeat! (Repetition is the mother of skill.) Over those following months, I managed to move from the guy who could barely keep eye contact with the women he was attracted to, to the guy who was going on a few dates and beginning to perceive himself as ‘a catch.’ Some dates were fun and interesting, some were so awkward and boring, and one was even quite scary and the worst sex EVER!
And after that? Well, that’s when it happened. That’s when I met, quite literally, the love of my life, and in those first few days, everything I’d learned from you came into play. (This is why I say you have to practice this stuff. If you aren’t prepared when you meet her, you’re going to screw it up.) It was amazing, beautiful, romantic, and beyond anything I could have ever imagined. Over the last seven months, we’ve spent a lot of time together, even though we are currently living in different countries, and in a few weeks I’m actually relocating to her city where I’ve managed to develop some interesting opportunities for my career. I really couldn’t be happier, and a large part of this I definitely owe to you Corey! I know I did the work, and I continue to try and do that work, BUT you showed me the way man! So basically, my life has completely changed. I’ve never been happier, and most importantly, I’ve never believed that I deserved to be this happy as much as I do now! It’s going to be an interesting story, I’m sure, when I arrive there, but I feel equipped for the challenge, and you only live once, so bring it on!
All the very best to you, and keep up the good work! I’ve already introduced your work to a few male friends of mine who have had difficulties recently, and we all take the piss out of you for always talking about American sports. Ha-ha we’re English – we don’t get them! All the guys I’ve shared the work with agree that you talk an AWFUL LOT OF SENSE and have found it inspiring! So I’ll keep sharing if you do! (Life is too short to spend it in an unhappy, loveless and a sexless relationship. If you aren’t have a great time together, you’re just roommates.)
Peace Corey. All the very best to you!
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“Success and happiness are a direct result of making progress towards achieving your goals, dreams, and creating the life and lifestyle you’ve always wanted. However, no one is immune to having to overcome challenges, setbacks, disappointments and obstacles in order to make their ideal life and lifestyle a reality. Very few people are willing to endure hardship and do the difficult things that are necessary to make their grandest goals and dreams a reality. That is why only about 3% of the worlds population makes most of the money, takes most of the risks, has the most desirable lovers and has the material things that unsuccessful people can only dream about. Everyone has the desire to be awesome and successful, but most people simply are not willing to pay the price and do the required work to make it a reality.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne