Why being a jerk may get you laid, being a nice guy will only give you blue balls but being an assertive nice guy will cause women to helplessly fall head over heals in love with you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four different emails from four different viewers who are struggling to stand up for themselves, acting like too much of a nice guy to the point that they get walked all over and another jaded guy who tells himself that he has to be an asshole to women to have success with them. How to find the sweet spot between being too nice and being assertive, without being a jerk to women.
“The reason nice guys tend to finish last is that they are so nice to the point that they let other people, especially women, walk all over them. The nice guy tends to be approval seeking and constantly puts his own personal needs last, and never stands up for himself when other people try to jerk him around or take advantage of him. Jerks and bad boys are able to get women because they are assertive to the point that they can be mean, controlling and don’t apologize for it. Their relationships tend to be volatile, drama-filled, end in messy breakups and broken hearts. The assertive nice man who is a charming gentleman, but who stands up for himself and is willing to walk away when he is taken for granted or mistreated, tends to have effortless and drama free relationships. He knows what he wants and is unwilling to settle or compromise his values. He embodies what women really want in a man. He knows how to treat women and they love him for it.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne