Let’s Be Friends First

What it means when a woman says “let’s be friends first” and what you can do to cause her to want to be more than friends by moving a platonic relationship into a casual sexual relationship.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers who are either stuck in friends zone or going back and forth between being a friend with benefits or friend with no benefits with their ex girlfriends. The first email is from a guy who mistakenly believed he could have something romantic with a woman who was seeing another guy after she told him she wanted to be friends first, but that she really liked him.

The second is from a guy who was friends with benefits with his ex-girlfriend for the past year who he wanted back. Recently she told him that she has gotten serious with a new guy and can no longer have a physical relationship with him, but she wanted to still have the chance to have sex with him in the future before she got married. The third email is from a guy who is dating and hooking up with three different women. One of them who he really likes is cheating on her boyfriend with him. He asks what he can do to turn her into a girlfriend (bad idea).

“When a woman says “let’s be friends first” she really means that she is only interested in you as a friend. Women are emotional beings and tend to be more concerned with other peoples feelings than men, and will often say things that can be confusing to men in order to keep from hurting their feelings. It is important for men to be clear in their intent and not to prostitute their feelings, desires, needs and wants by going along with being friends first in hopes that a woman will change her mind later. You’ll only be setting yourself up for heart break by getting stuck on someone who does not feel the same way.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne