What you can do to let go of your ex so you can move on, find better romantic options and create the life and lifestyle you’ve always wanted.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a guy who found my work after a bad breakup. He wasn’t focused on his schoolwork, was drinking excessively and postponing the healing process. He details how he completely turned his life around, studied abroad, made new friends and hooked up with beautiful girls from all over Europe. He came back to the U.S. a new man.
He’s got a great new job lined up and has bumped into his ex a few times since he’s been back home, but no longer has any desire to get with her again. He details what he did and said to turn his life around, and how he used the negotiation strategies I teach to leverage several job prospects into a highly coveted and prestigious job. He got hired in the first round of interviews. It’s another great success story of how anyone can recover from heartbreak and completely transform their lives for the better by applying what my book teaches in a directed and focused way. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
Like many of your students, I began following your work following an incredibly tough breakup with my ex-girlfriend. I was a complete mess. I wasn’t focused on my schoolwork, I was drinking excessively, I wasn’t dealing with my emotions, and was only postponing the healing process. In the fall, I spent a semester studying abroad in Ireland. Having the knowledge from your book, the time away from my old life to reflect on my shortcomings, and the opportunity to trace my genealogy changed my life. (So you went on a little personal discovery mission. That’s awesome. Good for you.) I made incredible friends, hooked up with beautiful girls from all over Europe and came back to the U.S. a new man.
I will be graduating from college this spring. For the first time in my life, I have straight A’s. I also have a job lined up to be a schoolteacher in New York City at a highly prestigious charter school. (That’s because it’s your fucking birthright. Think about all of the kids you’re going to be able to help, because you helped yourself become awesome first. You’re going to be dealing with kids in all kinds of situations, and just think of all the tools you now have to help them, in addition to your teaching skills.) I applied your negotiating strategies by leveraging the other job prospects I had and was able to receive a job offer after the first round of interviews. (Scarcity creates value. You’ve got to get multiple offers.) Most of my friends are still looking for jobs and have yet to find their purpose in life. I have truly embraced my inner alpha. You should see me when I play pickup basketball.
Here’s the cherry on top. Although I haven’t heard from my ex, I have bumped into her at different points this semester at the local bar near campus. I feel indifferent when I see her. Each time I’ve bumped into her, she goes out of her way to get my attention, twirling her hair, laughing loudly, and flirting with other guys to get my attention. (Well, you hooked up with all these beautiful women in Europe, so who wants to heat up leftovers when you get back home? She had her chance dude.) But, I’ve finally let go and have been able to move on. A part of me will always love her, and for that I will always be grateful. But she isn’t worth my time these days. (Because you’re fucking better and you deserve better. She had her shot, and she blew it.) She represents a chapter from my past. I’ve been dating several girls this semester, and even though I don’t have strong feelings for any of them, I know that I’m back on track and ready to fulfill my life’s purpose. (That’s because you’re fucking awesome dude, and you’re a leader. Successful repetition breeds confidence.)
I have nothing but immense appreciation and respect for you Coach. If you’re ever in the Big Apple, hit me up. It’d be a pleasure to talk about philosophy and self-improvement with you. (Congratulations on all your success. It’s your birthright. Keep being awesome, and send updates in the future. Let us know how you’re doing.)
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“You were born to be great and succeed beyond your wildest dreams. It is your birthright to be magnificent. What you do or fail to do will determine your trajectory and destiny in life. You are a magnificent, divine, human organic machine that can be trained, taught and finely tuned to become great at anything you relentlessly practice, love and obsess over. Being mediocre is for losers who are too lazy to do what’s necessary to move their lives forward, because they’ve mistakenly bought into false, limited ways of thinking and being. You become exactly what you think about and act upon day in and day out. Choose your thoughts and actions wisely.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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