How to handle difficult situations with your family, friends and children that will inevitably arise once you start to live and speak your truth, when you have spent most of your life pleasing others and generally doing things that were always in the interest of others, but not yours or what you really wanted.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who decided to end his twenty year marriage so he could find someone who he really loves and who loves him back. He and his wife were really just roommates and good friends, but were never really passionately crazy and in love with one another. His relationship is pretty good with his son, but his daughter is still pissed at him. Most of his married friends have sided with his ex-wife to be, and want nothing to do with him now. She says he has ruined her life, he’s selfish, mean, etc.
Sometimes he feels lonely since most of his friends have abandoned him, but since he is dating three or four women per week now, his social life is pretty outstanding. He’s making new friends and is getting to experience an abundance with women he never got to experience when he was younger. He’s always been a pleaser and sacrificed his needs, wants and desires to make other people happy, but he only made himself miserable in the process. For the first time in his life he is getting to do what he wants and is putting his needs first. He feels amazing except for the grief he gets from friends and family about his decisions, but he’s having so much fun and enjoying his life for the first time that it really does not matter.
“You often will be attacked by everyone you know when you start living and speaking your truth if you have always lived your life by trying to go along to get along, and make other people happy at your own expense. People who are weaker or who generally don’t believe in themselves, tend to attack those who they perceive as being stronger and more successful than themselves. Tearing down others who are more successful and happy is simply a way that unsuccessful and unhappy people make themselves feel better about their mediocrity. The reality is that they are simply reaching out for leadership by questioning and attacking those who they envy or want to be like. Since they don’t believe in themselves, they are really looking for someone who is stronger to believe in. By not letting hatters or weaker people diminish you in any way, you communicate your leadership and infallible belief in yourself by your superior example. When they can’t tear you down, you then become the person they can believe in since they don’t believe in themselves.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne