Love Is Giving, Not Possessing

Why it’s always better to focus on extending invitations of romantic interest, instead of seeking to possess, control or lock someone you desire down to a commitment.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a woman who was dating a guy she ended up dumping after she found out that he was flirting with other women. He continues to call and they still hook up for sex, but she is upset and thinks it’s disrespectful that he is still dating and sleeping with other women. The second email is from a guy whose girlfriend seems to be texting and calling him less and less. Even though she swears everything is ok and that she loves him very much, he can tell that her actions and words do not match. He wonders what is going on.

The third email is from a guy who has been flirty with a female friend of his, who also has a boyfriend. She was definitely showing him some indicators of romantic interest. He started to develop an infatuation with her and started to pursue and contact her more and more. Then he puked his feelings up all over her and things did not go as he expected. He then un-friended her from social media after telling her she was cold-hearted, but he later apologized and tried to re-establish contact. She has ignored him ever since.

“Love is about giving and sharing. It is about mutual appreciation and admiration. It’s about two people who are happy, whole, complete and content with themselves and their lives, coming together to share their completeness. If you feel like you are lacking something inside of you, or that you need someone to complete you or make you happy, you will cause the person you desire to feel like being with you is an immediate threat to their freedom and independence. This will cause them to avoid you, friend-zone you or reject you outright. Extend your invitation for a date, phone number or communicate your desire, and allow the other person to accept or reject your invitation without any attachments to the outcome you want. If your vibration and souls are truly aligned, they will accept it. If not, they will reject it. Be happy and proud that you had the courage to take the risk.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne