Low Character Women & The Shady Things They Do

How to spot low character women & their shady behavior so you can avoid them early.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who started dating a woman he initially thought was a great catch while in the middle of his divorce. His ex-wife to be said it was her bosses girlfriend he was dating. He confronted her about it and after denying it, she finally admitted she lived with her boyfriend.

He continued reaching out and seeing her because he was too focused on how he felt about her and ignored all the red flags. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

So this particular email is from a viewer who started dating a woman. He’s in the middle of a divorce and initially he was thinking, “Great catch! Lucky me,” but one day, he’s still living at home with his ex-wife-to-be and their kids, so she happened to see a text show up in his phone, and somehow she put two and two together and she’s like, “That’s my boss’ girlfriend you’re talking to,” and he’s like, “What?” She’s like, “Yeah, she lives with him and everything.” So he later confronts her about it and of course she denies, “Oh no, that’s not me.” He knows the truth because his wife works for the dude and I guess he’s met her or seen her. She recognized the name when she saw it pop up on his phone.

So she finally admitted that she actually lives with her boyfriend, but he continued reaching out and dating her, trying to be Mr. Captain Save-A-Hoe, and because he was focused on how much he liked her, remember human beings, we all make our decisions based on our emotions, and then we use logic and reason to justify that. So in this case, he’s in the middle of a divorce. He’s really hot for her. I think he said he was more attracted to this woman than he had ever been to his ex-wife-to-be.

So for him, physically, it was an upgrade. Other than that, you could tell it’s just a good email to go through because he just totally cannot remain objective. You’re not going to fix bad character with the book, but it will reveal it quickly in the dating and courtship process so you can dip, but even when guys find this stuff out, the thirst is real. They don’t care. They’ll stick around thinking they’re going to fix her. Change her. Save her. “Oh well, she’ll finally leave this unhappy relationship like they do in the Disney movies and then we’ll be together and live happily ever after.” Well, let’s see what actually happens in the real world.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

I wanted to send an email regarding a situation I went through prior to hearing about your book and videos. I’ve read the book/audio-book eight times and still trying to go through it. The situation is I met a girl at the gym who actually initially started talking to me first. After we talked a few time after gym class, we ended up going out on a date.

Now just keep in mind, we know that she lives with her boyfriend. So she runs into this dude, “Oh yeah, let’s go out on a date,” she meets in the gym. You can tell she just don’t give a damn. She don’t care about her commitment. She don’t care that she lives with her boyfriend. Whatever reason, she’s not happy because she’s a low character person. If she’s not happy, hey, just go date somebody else and sleep with somebody else. Solve your problem.

After going out in a few dates and hanging out in the car talking for a couple hours, she eventually kissed me. She did all the pursuing at first. She constant said she has never liked someone this much, she said her ex husband liked her more then she like him.

That’s the thing. So many guys, probably a majority of dudes, get married and their wives are never in love with them, and they have no idea. They have no idea they’re marrying somebody that just kind of settled.

She talked about cutter first…

I don’t know, he misspelled a word here. So I don’t know what he’s saying. It’s helpful when you guys send these emails if you kind of proofread them.

…And that I was the first person she could see having kids with.

Keep in mind, she lives with her boyfriend.

There was an age difference though me 44 and her 34.

So they got a 10-year age gap. No big deal.

Things were going well and I thought I’d met a great girl. My situation was I was just coming out of a divorce, and I was still at home with my kids and my soon to be ex-wife. Well while at home, my ex-wife saw her number and a text from her pop-up on my phone. She told me that this individual was the girlfriend of her boss at work, and that they live together.

Under normal circumstances you think, “Oh well, it’s the end of that,” but we tend to project our fantasies of what we want the person to be, and we just completely ignore reality.

So what happens is he starts creating a story in his head that justifies her behavior and makes it OK so he can continue dating her because again, he’s focused on how much he likes her and he’s not really paying attention to the fact she’s cheating on her live-in boyfriend. On top of that, his ex-wife-to-be knows her.

I was of course, shocked as she had never mentioned this before I confronted her about it…

Big, big shock! Can’t believe it! She’s a liar and a cheater. Zero integrity. This is not somebody you want to have children with because she will turn your kids into lying fucking dirt-bags, and no dad wants to have his kids grow up to be dirt-bags.

…She initially denied it, but after pushing harder, she said yes it is correct and I deserve better.

So she knows she’s a garbage human, basically. “You deserve so much better than me.”

We then went no-contact, but I’ll admit after my divorce, I was in a beta phase and so after seeing her again at the gym two weeks later, I texted and reached out. I told her to let me know when she breaks up with her boyfriend and we can maybe pursue things. She said she wants to meet me and we ended up going on a date that night.

It’s like, “Hey, no problem.” I don’t know where, he must live up north. He doesn’t have the Hialeah divorces like we do in South Florida, which is you mow another man’s lawn in South Florida, especially if you live in Hialeah, and bad things happen. You might make the evening news.

Again a couple weeks later, she told me she broke up with her boyfriend and we ended up dating for about six weeks, hooking up multiple times.

Do we really believe she broke up with the guy and moved out and just moved on, or do we think he continued to bullshit himself?

It seemed like things were going very well, and then all of a sudden, she became distant. She was still living with her ex, but said he had moved to basement.

Sure. Sure…

Remember she broke up with him, right? “Well, I’m actually kind of living with him still, but he’s living in the basement. True story. No boldface lie. I wouldn’t lie to you.”

Of course, again I did all the wrong things and became very beta, and very needy and drove her away she became more distant. To the point where she sent me a text early one morning, essentially saying it wasn’t worth the effort anymore.

So she lost attraction and respect.

Again, being a beta male, I sent the love text back and she said I wasn’t getting the point that she didn’t want to pursue this anymore.

So his response is, “I love you, baby. I love you, Stella. Don’t do this,” and she’s like, “Bro, you’re not getting the point. I’m over it. You dried me up. You made me like the Sahara desert.” She’s like, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

We then went no-contact for about eight weeks, but again I couldn’t take the rejection and I reached out on her birthday. We then texted back-and-forth for about five months until at some point I had enough and stopped texting her. The point where I had enough was when we were dating we had discussed possible places to go on vacation. After she broke up, I went on all those vacations by myself. She then said I stole all of her vacations and she didn’t feel comfortable sharing things with me.

I mean, the reality is, she didn’t respect you. She wasn’t attracted to you anymore, and you’re doing all the chasing and all the pursuing after you talk, text and chased her out of your life. At the end of the day, this woman is not loyal to anybody. This hoe ain’t loyal. She belongs to the streets!

We were not following each other on social media at this point and I have never told her I went on these trips so not sure how she found out.

Well, she probably creeped your social media or your ex-wife-to-be told her. Probably trolling her.

This is the point where I said, “Take care and good luck,” and we haven’t spoken in almost two years. Since this time, I’ve learned about your work and trying to apply the 3% Man to my life. It was an interesting situation because she pursued me and definitely love bombed me.

Yeah, she was laying on pretty thick in the beginning. That’s typically what narcissists tend to do. Narcissists tend to be liars, they tend to be dishonest, they tend to be selfish and they’re not loyal to anybody, and they do a lot of love bombing. They really lay it on thick. If you’re desperate, if you’re needy, or in this case, you’re in the middle of a divorce or you’re a guy that never was really successful with the kind of girls you really wanted and a woman like this starts love bombing you, you’re gonna eat it up like catnip.

She would reach out daily multiple times. She would talk about how she can’t wait for us to meet to get together. She would discuss how she wanted to hook up as soon as possible…

Well I guess for her, the thirst was real. She wanted to get some strange!

…To the point where we hooked up in the car multiple times because we couldn’t go to her house and I couldn’t take her to my house. I think as you would say she turned out to be a low character woman basically cheating on her boyfriend with me and not telling me about it.

Well, didn’t tell him about it either, so there’s that.

I come to find out that she was still with her boyfriend the whole time that we were dating after she told me she broke up and they had gone on multiple vacations and done multiple things together.

See? Character is destiny. So he was her side piece for a period of time. “Oh, I definitely broke up. He’s living in the basement. Trust me, he’s totally in the basement. He’s totally in the basement this time. It’s OK.” It’s like, see how easily she lies? She just don’t care. You gotta vet for character, man. Character is destiny. So she just told this guy what he wanted to hear. You know, that’s just classic narcissist, and she’s probably blowing all kinds of sunshine up her boyfriend’s ass, “Oh, it was a one time thing. It’ll never happen again, baby. You’re the only one I want.” It’s like, sure. Women like this, she’s a fucking mercenary. She ain’t loyal to nobody.

Again, I think I got lucky as she’s a low character woman, but it’s definitely taught me a big lesson as I thought she was definitely one of the best girls I’ve ever met and she checked all my boxes.

Well, you knew this right off the get-go when you were talking to her, because your wife told you that she’s living with her boyfriend and you proceeded to go out with her anyways. Probably because you’ve seen too many Disney movies where this kind of situation, because what do you usually see? You get a lonely guy, a lonely girl, but she’s in an unhappy marriage or relationship and the lonely guy starts hitting on the lonely girl who’s in the unhappy relationship. Some things happen and then eventually she leaves the jerk that she’s with and cheats on the jerk that she’s with to be with the new guy and in the movies, they live happily ever after. You get fireworks, you get orchestras going off, all kinds of wonderful things happen, but in the real world, she just cheats on her boyfriend and continues fucking her boyfriend, lying to you, lying to the boyfriend, continues living with him. It’s like, nothing changes.

I was more attracted to her then my ex wife. I didn’t see the red flags at the time, but after listening to your work I am figuring things out. Trying to apply you principles and be a 3% Man.

Thank you for your work, I am an annual subscriber!

Bob

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