Here’s how to properly build or re-build sexual tension so women you’re dating, your girlfriend or your wife starts wanting & chasing you more! When you first start dating a woman, she’s going to watch how you behave and act like a hawk! She’s looking for weakness and the signs of dominant male behavior. If you are weak and unworthy, she wants to find out ASAP so she doesn’t waste too much time with you. When you go out on dates and during the time in between your dates, your actions should be flawless in order to get her to fall for you romantically. The more things you screw up and the more weakness you display, the more you will lower her interest level in you and cause her to back away. You must constantly monitor a woman’s words and her actions on a daily basis in order to determine how she emotionally feels about you. When she seems lukewarm and unenthusiastic about seeing you, you should back off and contact her less. If she’s calling you and blowing up your phone because she wants to see you, she’s chasing you and trying to cause you to arrange more dates because her interest level is going up. It’s the exact opposite of what men have been taught and conditioned to do by society. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He’s realized that he’s been acting dopey and uncentered to the point he’s actually been lowering her interest in him lately. He’s not paying attention to her actions and it appears he’s completely in the dark about how she really feels about him. If he does not clean up his game ASAP, she’s going to reject him! My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Dear Corey Wayne,
I read your article “Don’t Act Dopey Around Women!” This article is pretty much on key to what’s happening with the girl I’m currently dating. My question is, how do I get out of this bind? I guess you could say I screwed up by letting her know I liked her too soon so she already knows how I feel, and what my intentions are. (Giving compliments is not bad or communicating what you want is not the problem. It’s when you communicate that you are unable to deal with or control your emotions to the point where you are run by them, instead of remaining centered like a man does. When you let a woman’s beauty and sex appeal uncenter you to the point where you start acting like an overly emotional woman, acting submissive, seeking her approval, waiting for her to tell you what to do, etc. instead of being a strong masculine man who already has a happy and complete life, you lower her level of interest in you romantically until she loses respect for you and therefore, she rejects you!) Lately shes been a bit more “stand-offish” and seems to be less interested than she was in the beginning, (You’ve communicated low value and that you are not much of a challenge to her. She knows that you like her more than she likes you. You must be patient and wait for her feelings to build SLOWLY OVER TIME!!! Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. If you make it too easy for her, offer compliments while ignoring the fact she never or rarely compliments you, you’ll communicate low value and that you don’t think you’re much of a catch and she will reject you.) but she still wants to see me and date me so I don’t think its too late to fix.
What would you recommend? (Start paying attention to her actions. Get real familiar with the interest level table in my book that starts on page 120 so you can determine what her CURRENT true level of romantic interest in you is. It’s obvious to me you have no idea. That is how you make EPIC MISTAKES that lead to rejection.) Should I give her more space i.e. not text, call, etc. and let her think I’m being less interested in attempt to undo what I’ve done? (You should only be using the phone and texting her to set up dates. Not to chit chat. At this point, she should be doing 70%-80% of the calling and initiating contact. Therefore, you should back off enough so that the ratio gets to the percentages it should be. If you don’t hear from her, only text her once per week to set up a definite date. As you do everything right as the weeks go by, she’ll start calling and initiating contact more and more. Then you go out on more dates per week instead of just the one. However, the difference that makes the difference is by hanging back instead of trying to force things, she’ll start contacting you more as her feelings for you rise over time due to your INACTION. That way, when you see her more than once per week, you can be sure it’s her idea. It’s always better if the woman thinks it’s her idea to get together.) I’m normally not a sucker like this, but she’s so damn cool and she’s the kind of girl I could see myself with in the long run. (KEEP ACTING LIKE THIS AND I GUARANTEE SHE WILL REJECT YOU!!!) I was really surprised how your article described basically my situation. (You should read my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
I hope you answer, thanks!
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