In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who went to a wedding with a woman he has been casually seeing, and later on after she went home, he decided to mingle and meet some new ladies. He shares the story of what he did and said to continue to meet new women and create attraction which has been causing his friends to wonder what his secret is with women, and why he has become so successful with them. He shares how she blew her friends off to spend time with him. While other guys were trying to hit on her and tell her how pretty she was throughout the evening, she continued to track him down and put herself into his orbit. The email is a great example of how a guy can go from very little success with women to creating lots of options with women everywhere he goes to ensure that his flirting and pickup game is tight. This is how you can create choice with women for yourself.
When your game is tight, your game is tight. Today I was the toast of the party. My friends are wondering how I have become so confident and so good with women. I have read your book three times, and I manage to watch as many of your videos as I can. I can confidently say I am on my way to being a 3% man. I continue to read your book, and I can see the progress every day. (He’s focused on the fundamentals and getting a little bit better each day. Don’t focus on the goal so much as the process, by taking small actions steps.)
Today I attended a wedding, and I went with a lady who I had been seeing for a while. We chilled, had fun, and after a while she left, but as soon as she left, I was ready to mingle and practice what I had read and learned from you. (He’s not just fixated and focused on his date. He sees there are opportunities to get better here.) I walked up to the cutest lady I could find, and I asked her for her name. She told me her name, and then she smiled. I then created a conversation around what she does, and before I knew it, she came to sit down by me. I continued to ask her questions, and before I knew it, she was talking and talking and telling me about her 97%’ers and her livelihood. Her friends came over and told her they were leaving, and she was not even bothered. (She had a much higher interest in chatting with you because you showed interest in who she was as a human being.) She stayed with me, and the conversation became more intense. She then took my phone number, and called me immediately to make sure I had her phone number. (This is what women that have a high level of interest do. He revealed her interest by being interested in who she was as a human being.)
My friends were so impressed. They continued to tell her how cute she was, and they were shocked to see that I had her attention totally. (They were kissing her ass and trying to buy her attention and bribe her for sex with bullshit compliments.) She was clearly having fun, and I continued to lead the conversation. After about an hour, she said she was going to meet her friends at the after party. She then said, “If you come, please find me. If not, you have my number.” (She’s focusing on getting his number and making sure he has her number. This is what a woman does when she’s into you.)
I later went to the after party, and rather than going to meet her, I struck up a conversation with another lady. To my surprise, she came to find me, and she stayed very close to me. She left about an hour later, and said again, that it will be nice to continue the conversation on another day.
My friends were totally surprised, and they were like, how did I do it? Coach, I continue to read your book, and I can see the benefits. I used to have serious relationship problems, but now I have too many cute girls wanting to hang out with me. The funny thing is, the lady I met today does not even know my name, but I already know a lot about her. I guess I will call her to set a date. (If she doesn’t reach out to you, give her a call and make a date. Hang out, have fun, and hook up like I talk about in my book.)
Thank you coach,
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“Men who are successful with women and who have lots of choices and options with women, tend to treat all women the same. They make all women feel beautiful and special simply because that is their gift to them. They never put any woman on a pedestal because they know that if they did, they would be treating themselves as if they somehow have lesser value than the woman they’re interacting with. They view other women as equals and teammates, not fellow human beings who are any better or any worse than they are. They know that women like men who are curious about them and sincerely interested in who they are as human beings. They also know that women want to be understood and heard, and feel like they are the most important person in the world to them. The most likeable people are the kind of people who engage you in conversation, and make you feel like you’re the only other person in the world. A wise sage once said that the reason why we have two ears and only one mouth is because we should listen twice as much as we speak. If you want to develop your flirting and charm skills, sincerely become interested in other people by asking questions, and being a great listener.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne