Men Who Are Pleasers

How to make sure you act like a man to attract women instead of acting like a pleaser which will push them away.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers who are struggling with pleaser type behavior. The first email is from a viewer who got dumped by his live-in girlfriend of three years. She told him afterwards that she was thinking about ending it four months before she actually did it. They are still going on a ski trip together that is work related and staying in the same room. He asks me how he should act to re-attract her when they are together.

The second email is from a viewer who was in a “relationship” with a girlfriend who he never even tried to kiss until four months after they were “together.” She rejected him and then broke up with him when he finally tried to kiss her. Now he wants to get his “girlfriend” back who now says that she does not have time for a relationship. She hardly returned his phone calls, texts and never seemed to make time to see him in person when they were “together.” Ahhhhh, the pitfalls of young love. Ignorance is not bliss. The third email is from a guy who never seems to be able to get his relationships to stick anymore. He got three months in with his latest girlfriend until he found out she was cheating on him with a coworker.

“Women like men who act like men. Men who act more like a man than the woman they are dating. When a man tries to change who he is in order to become what he thinks he needs to become in order to attract the woman he desires, all he does is causes the woman to lose respect for him, because he is not acting like a man. A woman likes a man who makes choices that will make himself happy, instead of making himself miserable by bending himself into a pretzel in order to gain the favor or approval of a woman. Men who do this are acting like a little boy who is seeking the approval of his mommy. Women can’t love men they have no respect for and will fall out of love with a man if they lose respect for him over time due to weak pleaser behavior. Relationships are about dating an equal, not taking care of someone who can’t or won’t take care of themselves, fixing someone or trying to make an imperfect person into the perfect person by changing them or acting like a parent to them.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne