In this article I am going to discuss three things women hate about men & how to avoid being the single guy that women can’t stand. You can do everything right with a woman, but if you do anyone of the following three things, you will ruin your chances with her: 1) Giving up your status in exchange for her attention and approval. 2) Being needy, clingy or insecure. 3) Not understanding how attraction works.
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1) When a man gives up his status as a catch in exchange for a woman’s attention and approval, he’s basically acting like a butler. His whole mindset is “what can I do for her, or what must I become in order to get her to like me?” They let the woman be in control and make all the decisions. Instead of being a man and stating what he wants without any fear of rejection or loss. If you normally curse like a sailor (like I do, I love more colorful metaphors) around everyone who knows you, but become politically correct around women you like because you are afraid of offending them, then you are being something you are not. You are acting unnatural and not being congruent with who you really are. Changing your opinion to match hers is another way men give up their high status as a catch when they are seeking a woman’s attention and approval. Acting this way is acting submissive. That is a feminine quality. Men who act this way are acting like women. If you act like a woman around women, they will love you as their male girlfriend, but never their lover. Women are sexually attracted to men who say what is on their minds without concern of what other people think of them.
2) Acting needy, clingy or insecure is the second thing women hate about clueless single men. Talking too long on the telephone and waiting for the woman to end the conversation acts clingy. Be direct and to the point when you are talking to a woman on the telephone, texting her or e-mailing her. Set a definite date with a definite date and time to meet up, and then get off the phone. When you are too easy and too available it communicates that this does not happen very often in your life (talking to a woman), and communicates that you have a scarcity mindset and are not very successful with women. You treat each woman as if she is the last woman you will ever have a chance with. A man who perceives himself as a catch, is not affected by a woman’s beauty. He enjoys her beauty and celebrates her amazingness, but he is unwilling to settle for a woman who is not exactly what he wants or feels he deserves. He’s willing to walk away if it’s not right, or if she does not treat him right. The only way women will love and respect you, is if they know that if they push you too far, you will walk and never look back. Asking a woman if, “Could you see yourself dating someone like me? Am I your type? Do you think I have a chance with you?” all communicate weakness and insecurity.
3) Women instantly know when they are with a man who gets it. A man who understands how to build sexual tension through playful banter and teasing. Treating a woman like she is your bratty little sister. You’re not mean to her, but you like to mess with her and tease her in a playful manner. Calling her a dork, telling her she has big ears, telling her she’s blowing her chances with you when she trips or does something clumsy, etc. are playful ways to tease a woman you like. It’s good-natured teasing, the kind that boys and girls do to each other when they like each other. Love is playful and fun, never serious. Bringing up potential relationship status, being your girlfriend, commitments, etc. are serious topics for the woman to bring up after you have been dating for several months when she feels it’s time. Therefore, if you are a man, you never need to bring the subject up. Just keep scheduling fun filled romantic opportunities for sex to happen. If you want to be her friend: take her to lunch, the movies, etc. and things a friend would do. If you want to be her lover and sex playmate, then take her to places and do things her lover would do. Always take a woman to three or four different places in an evening. It has the same psychological effect as going on three or four different dates in one evening. Most women sleep with men on the second or third date. The fourth or fifth place you should take her is back to your place or hers, so it can culminate in sex. Men who “get it” always know what to do in each step to continue building the sexual tension. When a woman senses that a man does not “get it” or know how to build sexual tension, she will stop communicating with him on this level, and instead communicate on a platonic level.
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