How to attract or re-attract the woman of your dreams, your first love, etc., if you have done things to push her away, so she starts to pursue you and wants to make you her boyfriend, instead of always trying to get her to fit you into her busy schedule without much success.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares his success story of how he was able to use what he learned from my book to fill in his knowledge gap, so he could finally attract the woman of his dreams. He knew this girl from high school and always wanted to date her, but he says he was too much of a coward to ask her out when he was younger. At a high school reunion, he was able to use what he had learned from studying pickup skills to start dating her. However, she went from being all over him to backing away and then becoming totally unavailable. Then he found my work.
After reading my book only once and not really taking the time to learn the fundamentals, she started responding positively, but since he really did not know what he was doing, he lost her for a second time. Then after several months of no contact, she started reaching out to him again, but she would not make dates. Since he had read my book twenty times at that point, he knew exactly what to do. Eventually, she asked him out and he did everything perfect from that point going forward. He even took her virginity. It’s now been two months, and he finally is with his first love, the woman of his dreams. He details what he did and said to turn things around. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I want to share a success story that involves a girl who was my first love. This was a girl I knew for eleven years, and now we’re 23. We met in middle school. As long as I remember, I liked her, but was too much of a coward to do anything. After we graduated, I didn’t see her for a couple years. Two years ago December, we met at a class reunion. Back then, I was fluent in the pickup routine, but still had a major lack of experience in the relationship phase, so as you can guess, I fucked it up with over-pursuing, neediness, MAJOR over-texting and the nice guy approach. (Some people don’t change their belief system until they hit a wall.) I got the whole package! At first her attraction was definitely was at least an 8. She was the one to call the most, gave me compliments and was trying to set dates. (She was really digging you, and back when you were younger, she probably liked you too, but you never did anything about it.) She put up with my inner beta for three months. After that, she was gone. So a couple of unsuccessful months went by, and I finally gave up. I walked away. And what a coincidence, after two more months, she called me to wish me Merry Christmas and asked what I was doing. I was shocked and completely confused as to what happened. Needless to say, we’ve started dating again.
Two weeks into this, I sensed her moving away. Then I found out about your work. I reduced texting to a minimum, and all around changed my approach. The effect was instant. I was shocked by how well it worked! At the time, I had read your book only once and had a lot of problems fully understanding your psychology, so I fucked up again! (Confucius said, “Success depends upon prior preparation, and without said preparation, there is sure to be failure.” The guys who have the best success stories are the ones who’ve read the book 15-20 times, because if you’ve read it that much, you know it.) I asked her out two times when she was reaching out, but she wouldn’t make a date. I walked away again. For four months she was reaching out, at least twice a month, with a bullshit text like, “What’s up?” or “I saw a great movie the other day,” etc. By that point, I was treating your book as my bible. I’ve read it at least 20 times. Then suddenly, three months earlier, she brought up getting together. She tried to get me out to meet her downtown, but I knew that she must earn me back. (If she won’t set dates, you only ask twice. After that, end your conversations or text exchanges with, “Hey, I’ve got to run. Keep in touch.” That is discussed in the book and in my article and video, “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back.”) I was pulling back, and she was pushing me on. I forgot to say that, in those months I was sleeping with other girls so much, that I had to plan my budget because of the expanding “raincoat” demand. Oh poor me, I know. Finally she broke and came to my place. She was talking at least 90% of the time and apologizing to me for being so cold, (She knew she shouldn’t have done that. If you had kept on running after her, this wouldn’t have happened), which I playfully turned into a joke. That was when I felt your spiritual guidance, “Seal the deal, man!” We were talking for almost two hours. I gave her the “stare-at-her-lips test,” and was paying attention to her physiology. It was the time. I stood up to pour us a drink, and when I turned she jumped on me like a freaking animal. I took her to my room, and started to progress. (You learned the two steps forward, one step back approach. These are the things in the book that make a difference.) When she backed off, I backed off. When she was rubbing my back, I was rubbing her back, and by the end of the night my “deal” was indeed “sealed.” I forgot to mention that she was a virgin up until this moment. Yeah, I was shocked too.
Now it’s been almost two months of constant dating, and I can tell you, I’ve never met a woman who was so excited to get just a second of my time. I know that was an extremely long email, but you’ve helped me share a life with the woman of my dreams. Thank you again. (Good job for you. The reason you were so successful is because you followed the instructions to read the book 10-15 times. I can see your progression in your email. You filled in your knowledge gap and you even practiced with other women.)
Carry on man!
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