My Girlfriend Went To A Nudist Resort With Her Girlfriends & Male Friends. I Wasn’t Invited

Some things to consider if your girlfriend went to a nudist resort with her male and female friends.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a guy who is new to my work. His girlfriend of 3 years who previously cheated on him, but he took her back, went to a nudist resort and hot springs with her girlfriends and some male friends. He wasn’t invited. She originally told him they went camping, but it slipped out where they really were. She claims they didn’t get nude, had no cell reception and couldn’t FaceTime. He asks my opinion. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “My Girlfriend Went To A Nudist Resort With Her Girlfriends & Male Friends. I Wasn’t Invited.”

That’s not good. So this particular email is from a guy he’s new to my work. His girlfriend of three years apparently cheated on him at some point and he took her back. And recently, I guess she was on, supposedly, a camping trip with her girlfriends. Again, he wasn’t invited. And then I guess somehow it slipped out that she was at this nudist place in California. And so she was like, I mean, he took a cheater back. And, you know, typically liars and cheaters are always going to lie and cheat. That’s just their nature.

In other words, it’s a character flaw. So this woman doesn’t value loyalty, honesty, monogamy, exclusivity as Maya Angelou said, “When somebody shows you who they are or tells you who they are, believe them the first time.” And so she cheated on him. So she already is not loyal. And when you take her back, you’re basically inviting her to do it again because she got away with it the first time, so there’s no consequences. The only people that can really hold these kinds of women accountable or the other men in our society, but unfortunately, there are so many of them that are thirsty, that are willing to put up with this shit.

She continues to get validated that this behavior is acceptable and it’s justifiable. So the fact that he took her back after she cheated on him, and then now here she is going to this nudist thing. He’s not invited. And she was lying about what was really going on and where she was going. I mean, it’s just again, character is destiny. If somebody’s a liar and a cheater, they’re pretty much always going to be a liar and a cheater. She didn’t tell him the truth because she knew he wouldn’t approve. But at the end of the day, she wanted to go and didn’t really give a damn what he thought.

And on top of that, you know, later she’s like, “oh, we didn’t get nude. All the girls wore bikinis.” Which again, we know she’s lying and she’s been caught in several lies, so why should we trust anything she says? We shouldn’t. I mean, if if she really loves this guy and cares about him, she would want him to go. But she knew he was not going to approve of this because he’s more conservative, obviously, and he doesn’t want a bunch of other dudes checking out his girlfriend’s Hooha.

So in other words, she’s going to do what she wants and she’s just going to lie and cover it up. But unfortunately for her, fortunately for him, it slipped out what was really going on. So this is just I mean, it’s one of those stories you’re like, damn. Character is destiny. So with that in mind, let’s go through his email.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

My question is should I break up with my girlfriend for her going to a nudist resort and hot springs with a group of male and female friends? I wasn’t invited and she didn’t even ask if I wanted to come because at first she said she was going camping but it slipped out she was at a nudist resort and hot springs and she knows that I wouldn’t like her going and wouldn’t want her to go so she tried not telling me but she admitted it to me last night that’s where they are.

Love cannot exist where there is no trust. So a woman that behaves this way is a fuckbuddy, friends with benefits, sex playmate. Not a girlfriend or a wife. I mean, he screwed up by giving her a second chance. But I mean, character is destiny, so she’s continuing to lie and deceive him. She’s there with other men. Other single men, probably, that are friends. We have to assume she’s probably hooking up. She’s walking around naked all day. It’s like, come on.

She couldn’t tell me that they didn’t all see each other naked and she couldn’t tell me that she didn’t see dozens of naked men’s penises. She told me that phone reception was probably bad so she couldn’t FaceTime me or keep in touch much during her trip with the group.

He does give the location of where it’s at, so whether that’s true or not, we have to assume that everything she says is probably a lie, because we know that if she thinks he’s not going to like what’s going on, she’s just not going to tell him.

I bought the hard cover copy and audible versions of all your book 3% Man. I am very appreciative. My girlfriend of three years cheated on me before but I took her back before reading your book. She seems to love the shit out of me. Even though she has to move away for work she still drives two hours every weekend to spend the weekend with me. She heavily pursues me doing 100 percent of all the calling and texting which she does daily even calling me during her breaks at work and after work and before going to bed.

Well, that’s nice and sweet and everything, but at the end of the day, she lied to you. Went to a nudist place where she was naked around other dudes and in close contact with them. We know she’s cheated in the past. She was not going to tell you what was going on, but somehow it slips up. So we have to assume that she probably cheated on you again. Because no man that’s in an exclusive monogamous relationship is going to be okay with his girlfriend acting like a hippie, basically.

She tells me daily how handsome I am and how much she loves me and during the week she tells me all the time that she misses me.

Well, I’m sure that’s true, but we have to look at our actions and understand that her character is one that doesn’t value loyalty or monogamy, and she’s kind of selfish and narcissistic in that she doesn’t care what your view on these things is. She knows you don’t like it, but she’s just not going to tell you and hope that she can get away with it, which clearly she didn’t.

I truly believe that she loves me and I love her too which makes this a difficult decision for me to stay with her or break up with her. This weekend my girlfriend of three years went to a full nude nudist resort and hot springs with a group of friends both men and women and camping with them at the resort for several days.

Yeah, this just tells me you guys are not as close as you think you are. It’s like she sold you an image of what she wants you to believe, when in reality, she’s a hippie. She’s a freak. She believes in free love. And you’re not going to be the only guy. You’re obviously not the only guy.

I wasn’t invited. She saw her friends husbands and boyfriends and their single male friends completely naked and they all saw her completely naked. Not to mention the dozens of naked men bananas she saw. It really bothers me and upset me that other men are seeing her naked and she is seeing her male friends and other men naked. Even if she went alone I still think it’s bad she is naked in front of men and seeing dozens of naked men.

Well, the other thing is, she didn’t tell you about it. She just went ahead and did it and said, “oh, we’re just going camping.” She left out the part of, “oh, we’re going camping at this nudist place, and everybody’s going. It’s basically a big giant orgy.”

What makes it worse is she tried lying about it and gaslighting about it saying clothing is optional or nudity is optional when everyone is naked and optional means nothing when literally everyone is completely naked and coed open air dressing rooms and coed open air shower. 

Even a woman who visit there gave a review about getting a massage from a male masseuse saying both her and her male masseuse were both completely naked. She said his naked body came into contact with her naked body but in a non sexual way as part of the body rub.

The rub and tug without the happy finish, apparently.

I know my girlfriend probably got a massage I can just imagine her being naked and the man giving her the massage being naked and him rubbing his body against hers and to me it doesn’t matter if it’s non sexual they are both naked and bodies touching but I don’t know for sure if she got a massage but thought it was worth mentioning. My question is, should I break up with her over this even if she didn’t cheat? Maybe make a video about this as it could happen to other men.

Well, he gives an update. So this is the second email he sent me right after he. I guess he talked to her again.

Update: The place is called Harbin Hot Springs in California. She told me it was with female friends for their birthday. She said no men were in the group. She said she did not know it was a nudist resorts and hot spring.

Yeah, right. Sure. I got a bridge to sell you.

She said the reason she told me where she was when they got to the campground was because she did not know the pools were full nude until they went to the pools and hots springs the next day.

Sure. I find that hard to believe. Anybody can look that place up online and see what it’s all about. And if she knows where they’re actually going, she knew what was going on.

She told that she did not get naked and her the group of female friends she was with did not get naked but they all wore bathing suits. Still she did admit to seeing a lot of dicks of all shapes and sizes. Men there from their 20’s to 40’s. She was in the pool, bathing areas, and shower areas with men who were completely naked.

Yeah. So what does that mean? She took a shower with the other men, but she was wearing her bikini. She’s a liar. She a liar.

She said she did not cheat on me and she said she did nothing wrong being there and told me she averted her eyes trying not to look at the men’s penises. 

Whatever. I don’t believe that for a second. The fact that she covered all this up and lied to you and tried to hide it from you.

I was so upset that she was camping at a nudist resort and hot springs that I decided to block her and break up with her.

Good for you, dude. She’s just not somebody that’s trustworthy. If you want loyalty, monogamy, exclusivity, a family oriented girl. This is not her. This is a hippie hookup girl. That’s it. This is not a girlfriend or a wife.

She said she wants to stay together and loves me. She said she will always be there for me if I want to get back together with her.

Again. Fuck buddy, friends with benefits, sex playmate definitely wear a raincoat. I would not be raw dogging that girl.

She said nothing happened but she admits to see dozens of naked men and women that they were in the pools, hot tubs, showers and bathing areas. Basically most people naked but she said they did not get naked.

Come on, who believes that shit?

I don’t know if I did the right thing breaking up with her.

You did, because your values don’t align and she lied to you. You can’t have a woman like this raising your children. Your kids will be lying dirtbags.

Is it my insecurity or trust issues?

No, not at all. She broke your trust. She cheated on you, which was breaking your trust. You gave her another chance. And here she is at a nudist resort, and she’s like, oh, nothing happened. Just trust me. Trust me.

She said she did not know it was a nude resort or nude hot springs until they entered the pool area.

Bob

I don’t believe that at all. Because again, her pattern is being a liar. Her pattern is being a cheater and she had no intention of ever telling you this and just hope that the camping story would work, but somehow she slipped up and told you, “oh yeah, I’m surrounded by naked people”, like all of our friends that were part of the group. Like nobody knew it was a naked resort or they didn’t tell her. Yeah, right. Yeah, right. She just thought you were gullible enough to believe her bullshit. Which, thankfully, you’re not. And you did the right thing.

I mean, if you want to hook up with her, you just got to understand. She’s not going to be loyal and faithful. You’re just one of the many guys that are. You know, it’s like I remember seeing a video of, I think it was Dennis Rodman. He was talking about Madonna and that they had hooked up. And he goes, I know I wasn’t the first guy she slept with. In other words, she was really experienced.

She really knew what she was doing. So again, this girl is not, I mean, you can’t be with somebody that’s going to lie to you about something like that. I mean, you gave her a second chance after she cheated, and then she goes to a place like this and she expects you to buy her bullshit.

So we know that she has no problem looking you in the face and lying to you. So you can’t have a loving, healthy relationship with somebody that lies about anything and everything. So good job on you dude, for having the strength to finally walk away. But quite frankly, you should have never taken that whore back after she cheated on you the first time. That’s just a fact. And that’s on you. As the old saying goes, fool me once. Shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

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