My Pregnant Girlfriend Dumped Me Because I Became Red Pilled, Angry & Mean

What you can do if you got dumped due to becoming red pilled, angry & mean.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who says he became too red pilled which made him angry and mean towards his girlfriend. She found out she was pregnant right after dumping him. They are still hooking up, but she plans on getting an abortion and is appalled by his behavior that hasn’t changed. She doesn’t feel safe & comfortable enough to have the child with him. He wants her back & to have their child together. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “My Pregnant Girlfriend Dumped Me Because I Became Red Pilled, Angry & Mean.”

That’s a bad way to go my man. So this particular email is from a viewer, I guess he got into the Red Pill. And I don’t know if he got into the Red Pill before or after he was into my work, but he says even though he read the book ten to 15, or 15 times, as he said, he said in his words, quote, “I failed to change my shit behavior.” And so you could tell part of the way the reason why he behaves the way he behaves is because he’s fearful. He’s worried that he’s going to lose this girl.

And instead of being calm and relaxed, because masculinity is calm, he tends to get upset and blow his top and be angry at her and basically behave like a guy who’s got mommy issues, like he’s pissed off at his mom. And so since he’s pissed off his mom for whatever reason, she didn’t love him enough. She didn’t treat him well enough. Maybe she wasn’t around enough. He gets mad and angry and pissed off at women, which is a lot of what you see in the guys in the Red Pill Community. They’re just angry, miserable unhappy dudes.

And they just hate on women all day long, especially single moms. And they’re just pissed off. And you can’t be a dick to women and expect them to stick around. Women want to be in a love story. Now, there are plenty of low character women out there that will make your life a living hell. Women that you shouldn’t marry and a lot of guys do anyways because they only focus on how much they like the girl and they don’t really do any vetting. It’s like if they like her and she says yes, then they’re happy to have somebody, despite the fact that they’ve got a lot of shitty character traits.

And then after the fact, when the relationship goes sideways and it’s a big shit show, they want to say, “all women are the same.” Or “it’s all modern women are like this.” Or “Social media has ruined women.” That’s ridiculous. That’s a cope. It’s a way to say, “hey, I don’t have to take accountability. I didn’t screw up. It’s just modern women.” That’s just the way they are and there’s nothing you can do about it. However, you’ve got to control the controllable, which is your behavior. And in this case, this guy understands it, admits he has failed to change it.

He promises to change, but he doesn’t. And so now, after his girlfriend broke up with him within a couple of days, she found out she was pregnant. And because she doesn’t feel safe and comfortable with him and he’s like, “make a decision already!” He’s not really giving her the space to do it. And then he she’s not making a decision whether to keep the baby or get rid of it in a time frame that he’s okay with. And so he gets upset and angry. And so he’s good for a couple of days and then boom, he blows his top. And so you just cannot behave this way, especially if you’re around kids or even animals.

If you’re blowing your top and you’re getting angry. The animals the kids will “poof”. You’ll notice, they’ll flee from you. That’s not a good thing. Because not only are the kids and the animals not going to feel safe around you, women are not going to feel safe around you. And it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy if, “all modern women suck and they’re all messed up and social media has ruined them all”, and you’re angry and butthurt all the time, you’re going to be angry and confrontational with women, and they’re going to feel that. They’re going to feel that you’re not safe to be around, and you’re going to repulse them. It’s a bad, bad way to go.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

I appreciate all that you do and have done to help young men such as myself to navigate the dating world. I’m 23 I just got dumped by girlfriend we were together for one year and a half. Despite reading your book around 15 times I failed to change my shit behavior.

Well, the good news is, with that statement, you admit your fault, your flaws. Because what I see over and over with the Red Pill guys, it’s not their fault. There’s not for them to change. It’s just women’s suck. It’s a bad attitude. Those guys that behave that way and have that attitude, they just got mommy issues.

I used to be Red Pilled so I did things like continuously threaten to end the relationship when I didn’t get my way.

So what’s interesting about that is there’s a 95% chance that your relationship is going to end if one, or both of you constantly threaten to end it as a way to get them to change their behavior.

And whenever she tried to communicate how something I did made her feel instead of making her feel heard and understood.

So more than likely, when she brought up her concerns or things he did and said that hurt her feelings, he took it personally and tried to use logic and reason to justify why his behavior was okay. And all the woman here is when you do that is, “hey, nothing’s going to change. I’m going to keep mistreating you the same way.” And eventually every woman has a limit where they give up. One of the most famous ones in recent couple of years is look what Gisele did to Tom Brady. He wasn’t present. He was too focused on his career. They had countless talks about it. He always promised to change and to fix it, and he never did.

And eventually what happened? She spent a lot of time with the jujitsu guy, and he made time for her. And as I say in the book, if you don’t date and court your girlfriend or your wife, eventually some other guy will. And that’s what happened. The jujitsu guy came along and he did. He was willing to do what Tom was unwilling to do. And so therefore now Giselle is with him and she has a baby with the guy. It was a you know, we got to look at that and go, it’s really shitty that how she publicly dicked Tom down because she said she was a ride or die.

She always knew he wanted to play football till 45. And those last couple of years, she was trying to get him to retire early because she figured if he did that, he would be more present for her and the kids, and he retired and then he retired. And then after he retired, she’s like, that’s it. And she tapped out. But at that point, she had already lined the jujitsu guy up. And that’s just that sucks. It’s sad. Especially, you know, imagine being a public figure and having all your dirty laundry aired out like that.

I always I would see it as an attack and get defensive or see it from a negative head space as in she’s trying to manipulate me.

Because again, that’s the way the big thing the Red Pill Guys focus on is “all women are manipulative, they’re all terrible, they’re all shit. They all suck.” If you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch. Plain and simple.

I did other unattractive things such as judging her past and body count shaming.

That’s another thing the Red Pill Guys always focus on is body count. Just obsessing over it, which the reason they focus on how much women have sex is because they’re not getting enough sex. The hot girls never wanted to fuck them when they were younger, and for the most part, they still don’t. And they’re pissed off about it. And they don’t like how easy he is for women to hook up and get laid.

I fully understand why she left and saw it coming a mile away despite all the knowledge I know on how to make things right I lacked the discipline to do so and kept making mistakes like losing my center and making snarky comments.

So your girlfriend just being a woman caused was triggering to you. It just kept causing you to lose your shit and overreact and make snarky comments, which basically all come from the place of, “mommy doesn’t love me. I don’t get enough hugs and I love you’s from mommy.” It’s like the little boy that throws a temper tantrum when he keeps putting candy in the shopping cart at the grocery store, and mom keeps putting it back and saying no. And then he has a meltdown and aisle five, laying face down, banging his fist and kicking his feet on the ground and bawling and whining. That’s basically what you look like when you do that with the woman. You can’t handle a woman being a woman.

You’re supposed to be the strong one. You’re supposed to be the rock. You’re supposed to be the mountain. But instead you’re constantly losing your shit over things your woman does or says because you take it as a personal affront. Because this really goes back to your issues, your childhood trauma, whatever you want to call it, your mom and your daddy issues. Mom and dad didn’t give you enough hugs, and I love you’s, and you have to have an awareness of it, of how your parents raised you and how it affects you and your behavior. Because you’re not so much reacting to your girlfriend. You’re reacting to what you didn’t get in childhood, and you’re triggered because you fear that your girlfriend, deep down, is not really going to give you the love that you want.

Because again, the Red Pill, there’s so many guys doing it, and it’s such a big community now and so many people watch and follow it. It’s extremely negative and it just reinforces, hey, it’s not your fault. It’s just the world sucks, man. It’s biased against all of us. Women are evil. And if you have that worldview, if you’re predisposed to that, you’re already pissed off at women because you’re pissed off at your mother. Well, you’ll be like, oh, I found my tribe. This makes total sense. It’s hard to do the things I teach. It’s hard to read the book and apply it and be disciplined. As this guy says, it’s easier to just lose your shit and just keep going over and over, back to your patterns and reacting the same way.

Something that would really help this guy is if he did the Consciousness Exercises three times a week. They’re on the home page of my YouTube channel if you just scroll all the way to the bottom. There are Stages 1 through 12 with Doctor D’Anna and Gracie, put it on your big screen TV. Takes about an hour, an hour and a half, depending on how much you do each stage, and you’ll feel better to help you feel more masculine. It’ll help you feel more disciplined. It’ll help you feel more relaxed and more peaceful and more centered. And it’ll be way harder for your girl to freak you out. If you do the work on yourself. Because you’re constantly getting emotionally hijacked by your woman just being a woman.

I broke up with her because she hung up on me for making a snarky comment. I apologized but she was done.

So it’s like, again, if you constantly threaten your girl with dumping her and breaking up with her, then you do break up with her. And then a few days later, or an hour or two later, you apologize. It’s like you do that one too many times, and she’s just gonna be like, that’s it, I’m done. And she’s gonna be ready to tap out.

Three days later however we discovered she was pregnant. She was losing her mind because she already has a child and we both still live with our parents. I maintain my cool and I told her I plenty of money saved and a good job we can figure it out together.

So notice what she says next.

She said she didn’t trust me, and she didn’t like how I treated her in the relationship so imagine having a child together.

Yeah, he already was abusive towards her and acting immature. And again, he’s like a five year old kid constantly throwing a temper tantrum every time he doesn’t get his way or things don’t go his way. So you can only do that so much. Whatever a woman feels when she’s with you is what she’s going to associate with being with you. And so it’s pretty clear at this point nothing’s changed. You knew what your issues were, but you just kept doing it. You chose not to. You chose to be emotionally hijacked and you allowed yourself to do it. Again, the Consciousness Exercises would really help you.

She didn’t want to being the child into that kind of environment.

Well, you know what? You can’t blame her. Because if she’s not having a good time with him, just imagine throwing a kid on top of that and all the stress that comes with having a kid. It would be ten times worse, and the relationship would just end up blowing apart anyways.

She was going back forth and her decision as to whether she should or shouldn’t get rid of it.

Well, this is normal. If you act masculine, she’s going to want to keep it. If you act like a bitch and lose your shit, she’s going to want to not keep it because she doesn’t feel safe. She doesn’t trust your masculine core. She doesn’t trust that you can control yourself consistently. Because so far as you admit, you’ve been unwilling to do it. As you said, you didn’t change your behavior.

I told her I support her either way.

So if you tell her, you support her either way. And then when she doesn’t give you the response you want, you blow your top, it’s like, your words don’t really mean anything. You say one thing and you do another. She does not trust your masculine core. Because she can’t believe the things that you say because you don’t follow through. A woman’s got to be able to trust your word. If you tell her you’re gonna do something, you gotta fucking do it. You can’t bitch out on it and just say, “well, I got mad. She pissed me off”

After a couple days of her texting or when we’d see each other, her going back and forth on what she should do I lost my patience.

This is a, “you” issue. You losing your patience is a, “you” issue.

I told her make up your mind it’s starting to get annoying.

This is how women are. They vacillate and they go back and forth. So you shouldn’t be like, “oh no, I think I want to get rid of.” It’s like, “no, you don’t. You’ll be a great mom. You already are a great mom. We’ll be great parents.” You should be focused on the positive and the vision that you want for both of your lives. Instead of just getting pissed off and going, “make a damn decision already, Women!” Well, they are women. This is the way they are. We’re the ones that are supposed to be direct and decisive and get to the point and make a fucking decision, and you’re getting upset that she’s not acting like a man.

So she decided not to have it and thinks we should just stay dating. She says she wants me to show her I can change and be the man she wants me to be.

We know you’re capable of it. You just simply choose not to just demonstrate that on a consistent basis. And no woman, whether you stay with her or not, say this relationship blows apart. Say she has the abortion, and she rides off into the sunset. The next time you get together with another girl, you’ll behave the same fucking way and she’ll leave you for exactly the same reasons. So if you’re okay with that, well, then keep doing what you’re doing and chase her away. But if you’re not, if you finally want to get a handle on this, you’re going to have to actually apply what’s in the book, because again, you’ve read it enough to know what to do, but you’re just choosing not to do it.

I told her I’d support her either way but deep down I was heartbroken because of the abortion.

Well, again, you’re saying one thing and you’re doing another. So how is what have you done demonstrating that she can actually count on you?

Especially because I knew that if I’d been doing things right. Things would be different.

Yep. As Jocko Willink says, “take extreme ownership.” In other words, everything that showed up in your life, that’s on you. If this issue is here, if you’re faced with a challenge in your life, your relationship, you either attracted it through the level and the tenor of your thoughts or your actions. So at the end of the day, it’s on you.

She hasn’t had the procedure yet, but I sent her the money and me her are just dating. I didn’t want to date other women because I was afraid, I’d fall out of love with her and move on. I wanted to get back together and fix the relationship.

Sorry for the mess Coach I appreciate all that you do. I know you’ll have a great time ripping me a new one.

Well, the reason I do the ripping is because it’s painful to hear, and it’s a little negative. And people do more to avoid pain than they do to gain pleasure. And so what I’m doing, whether you realize it or not, and anybody else is watching this video that’s doing the same fucking thing, is I’m associating painful behavior, painful outcomes with bad behavior and pleasurable behavior and good outcomes with good behavior. Again, people do more to avoid pain than they do to gain pleasure. So you’re going to have to correct this. And again the Consciousness Exercises can really help you.

And if you got a good Network Chiropractic Doctor and your City and your Country wherever you’re at. That would be helpful as well. You can go to www.besimplywell.com, go to Doctor D’Anna’s Website, maybe shoot him an Email, call his office, find out if there’s a good Level Three Chiropractic Practitioner in your area that can help you, because your physiology is stuck in this position. And Network Care is the only thing I’ve ever found that can help you get out of it, because it will literally change your reality filter. It’ll change your perception because it’s easy to get angry and it’s easy to get pissed off.

It’s easy to lose your cool, but it’s hard to exercise self-control and be calm and be relaxed. Remember, masculinity is calm, so every time you want to lose your shit, what you’re doing is saying, I’d rather act like an insecure little girl and throw a temper tantrum that’s not masculine at all. And if you don’t fix it with her, you’re going to lose the next woman for exactly the same fucking reasons. So this is all on you, my man. You know where you’re at and what you need to do. The question is, are you willing to do it?

Are you willing to potentially keep your family together, or are you just going to continue to allow yourself to lose your shit and fail to exercise self-control? And then you’ll be single again, and then you’ll have the weight of having your kid aborted because you didn’t want to act like a man consistently. You want to act like a five year old and lose your shit all the time. That’s on you, dude. That’s definitely something to think about.

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