Neediness, Desperation & 2nd Chances

The importance of waiting to hear back from a woman after you have sent her a text, email or left her a voicemail, and how not waiting makes you look needy, desperate and creepy.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who asked out a woman he barely knew via email. That obviously comes off as being creepy and weak. She said she was busy and offered no other day or time to get together. Six months later he ran into her at a mutual friends wedding. He starts paying attention to her and she also shows attention to another guy. He gets frustrated and angry because he feels she is giving him mixed signals and jerking him around. He walks away giving her the finger. She runs after him apologizing.

A few weeks later they see each other at a dinner party for their mutual friends. She asks for his number. Instead of letting her contact him since she never responded first time around, he asks for her phone number. He asks several guy friends who are obviously clueless about women for advice on what to do. He first texts her. She does not respond right away. He becomes impatient and then calls her. She texts him back a few days later, mentioning getting together in a group setting with their mutual friends when she gets back in town. It’s been two weeks and he still has not heard from her. He wants to contact her again. He asks my opinion.

“Women want to feel safe and comfortable with men before they will go on a date and be open to kissing and touching. When a man calls, texts, emails or leaves a voicemail, and then he does not wait to hear back from her by contacting her again, it makes him look needy, desperate and like a creepy stalker. This will cause a woman to lose all feelings of safety and comfort with him and lead to her rejecting him. Once a woman puts you into the needy, desperate, weak, creepy, stalkerish category, it’s almost impossible to get out of and recover from. Why? She will literally fear for her safety and well-being when she thinks about being with you in public or in private. Men should only leave one voicemail, text or email message and wait for women to return it.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne