Why you need to be happy with you and your life before you consider yourself ready to be in a relationship, or you’ll simply be looking to another human being to make you feel complete and validated; which is just needy insecure behavior in disguise.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is singing the blues because his girlfriend dumped him, he’s broke, he has goals and dreams but he’s not taking any action to make them a reality, and he escapes from life by playing video games instead of participating in life. He wonders why he can’t seem to get over his lying ex-girlfriend or improve his life conditions.
“The purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give. You are there to help each other grow and become more. Two happy, whole and complete people who love their complete lives, but are looking for someone to share their completeness with. If you are single and not totally in love with yourself and your life, do the work necessary to get to the place emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically, where you are happy, content and peaceful being single. Then and only then will you be in a place where you can give to another unconditionally without needing anything in return to make you feel whole, complete or validated. If you don’t, then your happiness will depend upon the love and actions of another. When they don’t meet your expectations you will feel slighted, rejected and hurt. If you have an abundance of happiness and love in your life already, it’s easy to give to another for the simple joy of giving and seeing another happy because of your unconditional loving and giving.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne