Never Brag About Yourself

Why bragging about your money, success or accomplishments makes you look weak, insecure and shallow, and why this will turn women off and cause them to lose attraction for you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was dating a woman for about two months. In his email he seems to be focused on his money and how much material success he has. He made the mistake of trying to bribe her for sex and a relationship by buying her gifts and paying for everything. He even helped her paint her new place thinking it would be a great way to bond with her.

One evening, he hung out with her and her friends but instead of creating rapport, they got the impression he was arrogant, condescending, and full of himself and his financial success. Shortly thereafter she told him that after two months of hanging out, that she did not think they could go any further and friend-zoned him. She still likes his facebook and social media status updates and he wonders if he should start doing the same to help re-attract her. I tell him what to do instead and why he should stop focusing on his success and money so much around other people.

“Successful men who have a healthy self esteem are happy to talk about their accomplishments and successes when asked. Men who are insecure, who have self-esteem issues, or who are needy, desperate or unsuccessful, feel that they lack something on the inside that would make them desirable to other people. Therefore, in order to be liked by others or women they are attracted to, they try to make up for what they feel they lack on the inside by bragging about themselves or their accomplishments, talking about how much money they have, talking about material things that they own or talking about things that they can offer the other person. They also tend to be terrible listeners because they are so focused on gaining the love or approval of others, that they feel they must dominate all conversations by talking about themselves constantly. Women who initially liked them, quickly get turned off and lose interest. Taking a sincere interest in other people, asking questions and being a good listener will always win you friends, enable you to influence others and attract women.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne