Why chasing and pursuing someone who dumped you or friend zoned you is a bad idea and what to do instead to have any chance of getting them back romantically. Why you should never agree to be friends only after being dumped thinking you can sneak under the radar and resume your romance later.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four different emails from four different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who was dating a woman who dumped him and told him the reason was because she was starting to have strong feelings for him, and wasn’t ready to have a boyfriend (yea right). He said he was ok with being friends only (bullshit). Days later he started to chase and blow up her phone which obviously got him nowhere. The second email is from a viewer who met a woman at a social gathering for young professionals. They started making out, but she declined going home with him; but to definitely call her the next week so they could see each other again. He got in touch a few days later, but she never responded. Two months later at another meeting, the same thing happened. After a few drinks they were making out again. She once again declined his invitation to join him at his place, but to surely call him the next week so they could plan a date. He did, but said some inappropriate things and she ignored him once again. He asks what to do now.
The third email is from a viewer whose ex is now starting to contact him more and more, many months after their breakup. He shares some of the humorous and playful comebacks he came up with on the fly to her resistance and testing. He asks me what to do going forward to continue to escalate things physically and increase her chasing. The fourth email is from a viewer who has completely turned his professional, dating and personal life around after being depressed, insecure and needy after he got dumped by his girlfriend of several years. He says it’s an excellent feeling of confidence, peace and certainty that he feels right now in his life since everything is going so well. The cherry on top is the fact his ex recently reached out to him with a long mushy email after three months of no contact.
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“It takes two people who have mutual interest, respect, desire and empathy for one another, in order to make a relationship happen or to rekindle a romance. If someone no longer wants to make the effort to keep you in their life, it is demeaning, unloving and disrespectful to yourself to continue chasing, begging and pleading with them to change their mind about you. The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. The self loving thing to do if you have been dumped is to seek out a new lover who will appreciate you, not staying stuck in the past wishing things will change. Not accepting the reality of what is, only leads to suffering. You were not put on this earth to suffer, but to create magnificent things and a magnificent life for yourself. Therefore, the only option is to keep moving, keep searching and keep taking action to make your dreams, goals and desires a reality.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne