No Contact Success Story Living Happily Ever After

How to use no contact & the time away to become more attractive to get her back.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer who says he found my work after a 6 year relationship ended and used it to turn his life around. His wife died suddenly, and he became a single dad with 3 kids to raise on his own. He shares all the success he had with other women and how this helped to re-attract his ex who dumped him due to too much unattractive behavior before finding my work. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “No Contact Success Story Living Happily Ever After.”

Well, this particular email is from a viewer who shares a success story that he says all kind of started after a six year relationship ended, and how we use my work to turn his life around. So his wife had died suddenly, and then he became a single dad with three little kids to raise all on his own. Which you can imagine, that’s a difficult task to do. Holding down a career, you’ve got three kids, and now your wife passes away. So my hat’s off to this guy.

That’s just a difficult situation to deal with. So he started or e was dating somebody else I guess, for about six years after that happened. And then he ended up getting dumped. And so he shares the process of how he completely changed himself and his life around. Became an attractive man. And eventually he got back together with his ex, and I think they’d been together about a year and a half now.

So because a lot, I’d say probably 80% of the guys that come to me, had a relationship end of not of their choosing, and they wanted to stay together, but the woman did not. And so they were hoping to get another chance and attract the ex back.

So let’s see what he did to turn his life around.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

I simply want to share my success story with you. After a long term relationship of 6 years ended, I found your work and used it to turn my life around. I will always be forever grateful for the pain and hardship you preserved through to get to this place of understanding relationships and to share it with the masses.

Thank you. I appreciate that. It was a motherfucker, that’s for sure.

I have shared your work with countless young men, middle aged and seniors and while the overwhelming majority think they have relationships figured out and ignore my recommendations.

Like, yep, that’s the way it is. Most people major minor things.

While those that do heed your advice are transformed. 

Yeah, most guys are egocentric, and it’s only when they’re like really, really deep pain that they’re kind of even open to it. But, you know, if you gave ten copies of the book to ten other dudes, you’d be lucky if one of them reads it. It’s just the way it is.

But I am a true believer that most men will never get it because they are lazy, complacent or just brainwashed so the 3% Man title is dead accurate.

Well, that 3% number is really amazing because when you look at that in like advertising or direct response advertising, or when you look at society as a whole, people that succeed at the highest level, or you take into account this great democratic constitutional republic, the United States of America that we have, is something like 40% of the colonists wanted nothing to do. They were loyal to the Crown. They were interested in a new country or anything. They wanted the status quo. And it was only 3% of the American colonists that fought in and supported the Revolutionary War.

So all it takes is an irate, tireless minority, keen to set brushfires in people’s minds. I think that was Thomas Paine that said that one of the founding fathers said that, and that was a paraphrase of that. It wasn’t the whole quote. But it’s true. So in other words, 3% is the best of the best of the best. And just most people, they’re not cut out for it. Just like most people are not cut out to be an entrepreneur. Most people are not cut out to be 3%. They’re just not willing to do what it takes. Day in and day out, week after week, month after month, year after year.

I was married for 10 years with 3 young kids when my wife passed away suddenly due to an undiagnosed heart arrhythmia more. We met right out of college and started to plan a family right away. Therefore when she passed, I was close to 40 with really no experience dating and I spent the better part of the next 7 years until 45 years old taking care of my 3 kids who were all under 8 when she died. So from the age of 22 to 39 my adult dating. years, I really only dated two women. It was a lot to take on but lucky for me ex paratrooper Veteran.

Thank you for your service.

I just took it one day at a time until my kids were more independent and I could start having time for myself. During those years I always worked out hard at 5 a.m. and ate right so I have always been in 6 pack shape and under 8% body fat.

Good job dude, that takes a lot of discipline. And as Jocko Willink says, “Discipline equals freedom.”

I have a great job working in educational technology and I live in Long Beach, New York, so there are plenty of hot women here to meet both in education and on the beach. After a while I tired of the dating scene and met someone who matched me desire for healthy living, work balance and had her own children. We had a great 6 years together. To make long story short for sake of your time we dated for 6 years. In the year before the breakup my middle son was diagnosed with a PTSD Trauma based disorder from finding his mother deceased at 5, DPDR, and it’s been really difficult situation dealing with him with hospitalizations.

That coupled with my mom in her 80s deciding to divorce her husband of 15 years, and an eviction moratorium during covid making it impossible for me to keep my head above water for a long time. Eviction in Bronx, New York took more than 3+ years with tenant disappearing during covid, arrested for fentanyl trafficking then killed someone in jail. 

Jeez. Yeah, that really sucks. You know, all those rich, rich landlords, will just, you know, “you don’t have to pay your rent. Screw the landlords.” Meanwhile, you’re still going to make your mortgage payment and pay your property taxes and everything else, or they’re foreclosed and take your house. But the tenant can stay. Makes sense. That’s how socialism works. They hate property rights so they try to make it miserable for anybody that owns property. That’s how the Marxists think. They want to discourage it. Well, I guess they’re going to get a free trial of socialism because they’re about that close to electing a socialist.

After a trip to Iceland with me and then upon a trip with her son to Spain she blindsided me with the we need a break conversation at the end of the summer break.

Well that sucks.

She cited that she just wasn’t feeling it she was not happy she deserved to be happy and that I had a lot going on and it was affecting me for a long time.  In retrospect she did raise concerns and suggested me getting help, trying coping strategies to deal with my son and other issues. I just did not see it until afterwards. I was crushed did not see it coming like most guys. Tried all the bulls shit about staying friends in the beginning for a few months until I found your work. As soon as I read the 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back I was hooked. Read the book and Audiobook 15 times at least. Played the Audiobook at the gym on 2x speed. Still do two years later. 

Yeah, well, good students always, like, once or twice. Typically, like, every six months is ideal. You go through it. Because remember, whatever you observe, you participate in. So if you’re constantly consuming traditional media, and movies and TV shows, you’re brainwashing yourself.

I would run into her at the gym a lot and on the boardwalk in my town and church. Hard not to run into each other a few times a week. About 3 months later, she reached out to me about her taxes, and I told her I’m not interested in being friends this is not working for me and recommended her a good accountant. 

Good job.

She said she hopes that things change and that someday we can be friends.

Fuck that shit. Never, ever agree to be friends. You might as well get yourself a cuck chair if you agree to be friends. That’s what it basically is. You’re putting your needs last, and you’re not man enough to stand up for yourself in what you want.

Told her I was not interested but take care if thing change let me know if things change and left it at that. I spent the next 8 month working on myself, getting back to the gym, playing pickleball, there’s lots of hot and fit girls playing that sport by the way.   

Yeah, well, that’s how Erica tore her rotor cuff, fractured her humeral head, and now has a tear in her bicep and jacked up her shoulder. She did a flying leap (playing on the intermediate courts) to try to hit a ball and fucked herself up. It’s not a completely safe sport. Just ask Erica. [As the editor of this article, I, Erica, do not regret playing pickleball, but it was an epic pickleFALL. I will have more updates from my Orthopedic Surgeon as to next steps of treatment, PRP Injections, Stem Cell Injections, and lastly, Endoscopic surgery to remove scar tissue. Dates to keep you all posted soon.]

I got my Concealed Carry License.

Nice. Good job.

And worked on getting my son more stable that he was in a long time. I also went through trauma therapy for my loss. It really helped me understand a lot of things about myself and my healing. My ex girlfriend approached me at the gym and would talk to me and while I was not cold to her, I kept things amenable, friendly and fun. Made her laugh about her fans at the gym, the male orbiters. I would joke around about how she doesn’t need to add me to her fan club, and I had to go, my fan club was waiting.

Nice.

I made it my business to talk to the hot chicks at the gym in front of her laugh with them and just not give a fuck.

Well, the difference that makes a difference is indifference.

One day she asked me who this hot 20- year old was that kept flirting with me, I simply said, “Her? Oh she is just auditioning for the fan club president position.” 

Good response. Gentlemen don’t kiss and tell, but they are playful. Playful innuendo. Let the girl, let the woman fill in the blanks.

This kind of stuff went on for several months. We would occasionally cross paths on Boardwalk on my bike with my shirt off and we would talk about kids and family and say goodbye with a smile. I felt things changing after every interaction, but I kept dating practicing, and hooking up with chicks during the year we were apart.

Good job. See, he’s getting better. He’s getting other choices, other options. He’s losing his attachment that he had this six year relationship. He’s getting to a place where he could take it or leave it. Because he’s got other choices now.

I did all the things that made me happy, and it showed in my disposition my happiness was evident. One day I was with this very attractive woman in my town, and I ran into my ex girlfriend daughter at the hair salon. 

There it is. It’s amazing. What an attitude. Oh, mom. You’re never gonna guess who I ran into. Boy, you should have seen who he was with. She was really beautiful, mom, and she was all over him. It’s like he seems to be. They seem really happy together. Fucking light switch. We were talking about this in the podcast the other day. Jocelyne’s, like, very in love with her, the boyfriend that she’s got now. And they knew each other, they were kind of friends. But as soon as she saw him with another girl, a switch flipped, she went for it. And now they’re happily ever after, and she’s totally in love with him. It’s really beautiful to see. I’m so happy for Jocelyne.

I knew that her daughter would run home and tell her mom and sure enough the next day I go to the gym at my regular time at 6 am and coincidentally my ex girlfriend is there.

What a coinkydink.

And she mentions to me that she wants to get her concealed carry license.

Nice. A woman that likes to pack heat. Nice. I like that. It’s good for the whole family.

I casually shared that I’ve had mine and I’m going to the range this weekend. 

And range dates or putting a gun that explosive force, it’s like, man, it makes women wet. It really is a good date idea, but you gotta know what you’re doing before you go there. Don’t be an amateur taking a girl on a date to the gun range.

She said she would like me to take her. I said that’s good to know but I have plans this weekend. I was not sure I wanted to try and get back with her. This went on for about another few weeks and then she was basically begging for me to go to the range and let her come. I said look If we go to the range, I hope you know that you’re not gonna just seduce me and take me home tonight and that got a big smile on her face. 

Nice. women like a guy that’s a challenge. She’s having to work for you, and she sees and or heard about you with this other hot girl. Complete attitude change. Just exactly what happened in my book. Girls don’t really care one way or another. As soon as they find out you’re fucking somebody else, it’s hot. It flips the switch, Man.

I really was carefree about it but I made it clear that we were not going as friends. I know I didn’t get her to my place for dinner. It turns out that she started dating some guy about 2 months after we broke up, he was probably a member of the fan club. Things didn’t go well with him never married at 50 guy guess she saw a better opportunity no drama no baggage. But the grass is always greener.

Well, the reason she left is because she lost interest and attraction and respect for you. Because it didn’t matter what a good guy you are or what a good dad you are. All women really care about is how they feel about you and how you make them feel.

When she heard I was with some talent by her daughter, she became obsessed with the new me.

It’s amazing. That’s why I always say you guys got to go out and start dating other women and move on with your life, because you need practice with what’s in the book. Because if you don’t practice, then she comes back, you’re still basically the same guy, and it’s a lot harder to do things right with somebody that rejected you, because rejection breeds obsession. Then having other women you can practice with and master this with, and especially in this case, she didn’t seem to care until her daughter runs into you with your new girl.

She said that I was calmer, not hyper, composed no all over the place.

Well, masculinity is calm. So good for you, Dude, you did it. Good for you.

It made her feel safe and comfortable. I really needed the time to work on myself, and I am better person for it. In the end, we hit the range, hit dinner and brought her back to my place. We have been back together for a year and a half and sometimes I sense that I am drifting she lets me know and I grab my book and get back to being a student. 

That’s what you’re supposed to do, because you’re going to slip up. Because the longer you’re away from the book and you’re watching movies and TV shows all the time, you’re getting brainwashed. And so that’s why it helps, especially when you’ve gotten to this stage, maybe once every six months, to go back through the book just to recognize where you’re kind of starting to get sloppy and get lulled back to sleep. And plus, you can see it in your girl’s behavior. You’ll notice her behavior change.

For all the naysayers, everything you teach is accurate. I have yet to see anything contradict my experiences with women now that my eyes and ears are open. I just want to say thank you for changing my life. 

You truly are a great coach.

Bob

Well Bob, thanks for the great success story and congratulations to you and your blended family that you guys are all together and happy, and you did what you needed to do to become the man you were capable of being. And I’m sure you had a lot of fun exploring humanity. And then until this girl came back. So it’s great, man. Good fucking job. I’m really proud of you. It’s awesome. Thanks for sharing that success story.

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