Why it is delusional and pointless to continue dating or being in a relationship with a liar and a cheater, or hoping that they will come back after leaving you for another lover thinking that they will change their inherently dishonest behavior.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer whose stripper wife is now living with her new boyfriend. Apparently she is also a part time prostitute. She has his young daughter, and he has been unable to talk regularly with his daughter on Skype as mandated by the courts. He moved back down south where his family and friends are, which is also where they used to live.
He has a good paying job now. His wife originally cheated on him with his best friend of fifteen years. He forgave her thinking they could work things out. She also cheated on him with her new live in boyfriend. Despite all of the abuse, lies, cheating and deviousness he has suffered from this woman, he still wonders how he can get her back. He’s obviously not learned his lesson yet. He is delusional thinking she can somehow become an honorable and honest woman.
“Insecure and weak people who lie do so because they have learned to believe that lying is always preferable to telling the truth. They lie and deceive to avoid what they see as inevitable drama that will be the result of telling the truth. They lie to themselves and to others, thereby, creating a prison for themselves. It’s very important in any relationship that you only pay attention to what people do, not what they say. When someone learns to lie as a child and they continue lying into adulthood, they are not going to change. They have become emotionally conditioned to the point that they can’t live any other way. Lying is a way of life for them. They are no longer capable of recognizing truth either in themselves or in anyone else. Thinking a liar will change and somehow become honest is delusional and unrealistic thinking. When people show and tell you how they are, believe them!” ~ Coach Corey Wayne