How to deal with rejection, feeling like an ex found someone better, suicidal thoughts, feeling inadequate & unattractive and overcoming tremendous pain and loss when you feel like you simply don’t measure up or have what it takes to get what you want.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a guy who is so afraid of failure, rejection and looking stupid, he makes excuses and bullshits himself into believing that he can’t do it. Therefore, he does not even try to approach or talk to women.
He also says that he sometimes has suicidal thoughts. The second email is from a woman who is struggling to get over a recent breakup and the fact she spent four years of her life with a guy who is trying to friend-zone her.
“Life can be really difficult at times. When we experience failure, setbacks, rejection, heartbreak or fear that we don’t measure up or have what it takes to succeed, our mind will start looking for evidence to back up our negative thought patterns. When we sometimes feel like all hope is lost and that life has become hopeless, our despair can lead to thoughts of quitting or suicide. These thoughts at their core are driven by our natural instinctive human desire to do more to avoid pain than to experience pleasure. Fear only exists in the mind. Life and our circumstances almost always never changes overnight. Sometimes getting from the unpleasant excruciatingly painful place of where you are right now, to the positive elated state and place where you want to be in the future, is a process that may take many days, weeks, months or even years to accomplish. To persevere, recover and ultimately succeed, you must find a way to focus on what you absolutely must do right now in the present moment to accomplish the little daily goals that will ultimately lead to big goal accomplishment in the future. You must take the time to suffer and experience your pain authentically for it to dissolve, because what you resist will persist, but you can not allow it to overwhelm and hijack you to the point that you take no action at all. Taking no action is quitting. Imperfect action is better than no action at all.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne