Passport Bro Gets Burned By Hot Crazy Latina, But Finds True Love At Home

Why being a passport bro doesn’t eliminate the character vetting process from dating.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was once a passport bro who married a hot, but crazy Latina. She cheated on him relentlessly and eventually left him for good. Years later he found 3% Man, and attracted a great woman who is now his fiancée. He shares the difficult journey of becoming a Phoenix rising from the ashes of his previous self. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Passport Bro Gets Burned By Hot Crazy Latina, But Finds True Love At Home.”

So this guy has traveled around the world. He’s in the long distance running. And when he’s in his late 30s now. And when he met this former Latina who eventually became his wife, she cheated on him relentlessly. He was only 24. And so he got involved. You know, this is just a good email because he met her while he was traveling. And because there’s a lot of people on the internet talking about being passport bros.

They’re going to go find a better girl overseas then you can find back home, because the culture is different. They’re more feminine. I mean, anybody that’s been to Colombia or Brazil. Women are, especially in Brazil. It’s like fucking supermodel city. It’s like, I’ve never seen so many hot women all in the same place as in Brazil. It’s just incredible. And you got hills everywhere. So the women are constantly walking up and down the hills, and their tight jeans and their high heels makes their calves and their thighs and their butts just look perfect.

So I can totally relate. But at the end of the day, no matter where you meet the girl, character is destiny. You got to vet for that. Because I see a lot of guys that their attitude is, “oh, I’ll go find a girl in Thailand or South America or Europe, and she’ll be feminine and she’ll never cheat on me. She’ll never leave me. And you know, we’ll live happily ever after like a Disney movie.” Well, if you don’t vet her and you don’t check out what her character is like, you could end up like this dude did. But it has a happy ending after many years of pain, obviously, but it’s a good email to learn from.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

When I was 24, shortly after my mom died of cancer in 2002, I went to Argentina. I can guess you know where this is going. Anyways, I wound up “inviting her” back to the states, and after a year we got married. Things were good three years in, and then infidelity on a likes you’ve never seen kicked in.  At one point, she abandoned our apartment for months.

Well, you obviously enabled her behavior. It’s kind of like, have you guys ever seen “My 600 Pound Life”? It’s like all these morbidly obese people that are bedridden. It’s always the family members, the moms, the aunts, the uncles, the people that are taking care of them, that are bringing them all this fucking truckload of food is the big reason why they’re where they’re at. You know, you see them in the show, they go to the store and they’re FaceTiming their aunt or their mother. “What do you want? Oh, I want some Kool-Aid.

I want some soda. Give me some cheese puffs. I want some fried onion rings.” It’s, you know, just a truckload of the most unhealthy food you can get, which is delicious, but it’ll make you so fat you can’t leave your room like a lot of these people are. And so everybody around them enables the behavior. And they keep buying the food for them, which is pretty sad. So something you got to consider. No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. So if your wife leaves you and disappears for months and is shacking up with other guys, well, she’s not your wife anymore.

It’s pretty clear if you think you’re going to fix that or work with that, well, you’re going to find out the hard way that, you can’t. Character is destiny. You can’t make good wine from bad grapes. So I would assume what happened is she lost interest. She lost attraction. She lost respect for this guy. And plus, she’d been in the country long enough to know that she could still stay even if they got divorced, because now she’s got her green card or her citizenship, probably at this point. So she didn’t really need him anymore.

She was beautiful, petite, 5’3″, with black hair, with a more European Mediterranean complexion, while having an immense degree of fire and Latina sexuality. 

Well, Latinas definitely are passionate, and not always in a good way.

The woman was a femme fatale, and I get the feeling like she ruined many a man’s life.

Well, the thirst is real. No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do.

After five years, she gave a deadline when she would leave, and sure enough on a dismal, cold March 1^st, she took her stuff and I sat in disbelief in our beautiful riverfront apartment in Brooklyn.

Hasta la vista, baby.

I was in my early 30’s, emasculated, my “balls” essentially chopped off by this marriage.

Again, he let it happen. She just overpowered him through intimidation with her looks, her body, her sassiness. And he had no idea what the hell he was doing. And when you take into account what do we see on TV in the movies be nice, put up with her wackiness and you’ll live happily ever after. Be the bumbling, fumbling idiot and she’ll love you and think you’re amazing. That works in TV, but not in the real world.

There was this murky period when we were separated when we would hook up, go out, try to rekindle things. She would play the game of ” walking away” and escaping when she was mad.

Probably because she was used to you to you groveling and chasing after her, which just validated her abusive behavior. In other words, there were no penalties. There were no boundaries. They weren’t enforced. So she was allowed to get away with pretty much everything.

The last time she had a violent temper, “let me out of the car, now!”. In the past, I would have chased and begged.

Well, there you have it. There’s the clue as to what really happened. The power flipped. He gave all the power away, put his balls in a box and handed it to her and she made his life a living hell. What is the old saying go? Life’s a bitch, then you marry one, then you die.

I would have chased and begged, but I was too tired, and let her go.  Inadvertently, this triggered her, and then she wound up blasting my phone with 30 phone calls. 

Probably because you didn’t run after her, but you did enough other things wrong to her. Again, it’s like she’s cheating on you at this point. It’s anytime you take a cheater back, on some level they’re going to think they can get away with it again. They can pretty much get away with anything. The only thing they realize is once you’re gone forever and they can’t get you back, that’s really the only thing that’s that potentially could cause the woman to go.

“You know, every time I screw around on my boyfriend or cheat, I lose the good guys, the shitbirds stick around. The good dudes won’t put up with it.” But unfortunately, there’s so many weak dudes in society that there’s just ten other guys willing to take your place and put up with it because they think, “I’ll fix her. I’ll save her, coach. I can do it. Captain Save-A-Hoe to the rescue!”

The aftermath was rough, and it ate up my early 30’s. I was depressed, going to the psychologist, the psychiatrist.  I had no romantic luck. I was lost, lethargic, and there was little to live for.

So if you’re not having a good time, if you’re not in a happy place and you’re not a happy person, that needs to be the first thing. So as you can see, if you’re not excited about your life, it’s going to be pretty hard to get a lady excited about it. If you’re not having a blast, it’s going to be hard to find women that want to have a blast with you because you’re just not having fun.

You’re most attractive when you’re having a good time, and you’re smiling, and you’re living life to the fullest. So focus on creating a great life and lifestyle full of fun, family, friends, social activities that you really enjoy. Ideally, that you love and you’ll meet a great girl who’s also happy and who loves the same things you do. As a side effect of living your best life.

It was around this time I started delving into relationship/pickup literature.  I started reading your book several times, but during these dark years, there was little impact or change.

And the reason being is he didn’t have an emotionally compelling reason why he didn’t have an exciting, compelling vision for his life. And so he wasn’t really ready for it yet, just because of what he was focusing on. He wasn’t a happy dude. And the important thing is all the stuff in The Book is great if you’re happy first. If you got your life together, or at least if you know what you want, you got a grand vision for your life and you’re taking action to make it happen. If you’re getting up every day depressed and sad and not excited about your life. Women can feel that. They can sense that you will repulse them. They won’t want to be around you.

In my mid-30’s, I started to run in an effort to transform physically, and went from running 3 miles at 11 minute pace, to running several half marathons at 1:47:00 and 1400 miles a year.  I started my own journey, running from Zurich, Switzerland to Vienna, Austria over 5 different runs average 175 miles each. I would do these runs during my summer vacations.

Well, that’s a lot of miles. I started my own journey running from Zurich, Switzerland, to Into Vienna, Austria, over five different runs and averaged 175 miles each. I would do these runs during my summer vacations.

Keeping my mission, staying congruent to my belief system, I found my way forward.

In other words, he came up with a strong internal constitution. You got to have an emotionally compelling reason why you do what you do. Whatever your mission and purpose is, whatever your life’s work is, it’s got to excite you. It’s got to light you up on the inside. Because if it doesn’t, you’re going to be lethargic and lazy. You know, we were watching last night, one of those 600 Pound Life, and there was a new guy, and he’s just fat and not motivated, and, he’s just not doing anything. He just doesn’t care.

You look at his eyes. His eyes are dead and lifeless. And when the show comes on, it says only 5% of the people that get to be six, seven, 800 pounds are able to do something about it. So there’s a 95% chance that they’re just too far gone. They just don’t care. They’re going to eat themselves into an early grave. It’s just pretty gross. It’s pretty sad. But people have no hope. They have no will to live. What are you going to do? It has to come from within.

It has to be a deciding moment where you decide. Enough of this shit. I am sick of this. I’m never going to live this way again. And that’s where this guy got to it. At some point, he got tired of being depressed. He got tired of being lonely. He got tired of being miserable. And he just said, I’m going to do something to shape and change my destiny. And he did. And it gets a little better here in a minute.

When I was 39 years old, I would meet my soon-to-be fiancée.  It is a relationship where we share similar interests, a similar past, and shared commitment to work and build our relationship. As I started my journey and mission, your book made more and more sense. Undoubtedly, the things you teach are not an overnight fix.

Yep, I’m not the quick fix guy.

And honestly, it might not be applicable to the person right out of a disastrous relationship, totally burned. 

But yeah, you got to be willing to do something like, these obese people. It’s a lot of them are just going through the motions. And then when the doctor talks to them a month later, “oh, well, why didn’t you stick to your diet?” “I don’t know.” They just don’t fucking care because everybody around them is just shoveling food into their mouth and bringing it to them, and these people can barely make it to the bathroom. They certainly can’t go shopping and shop for themselves, but their family and their friends are the ones that are enabling their behavior. They’re the problem.

And the doctor talks to them about that. But even the people that are the enablers don’t really oftentimes do enough to change. They still keep bringing the guy 2 or 3 plates of food. I saw a woman the other night. She had like a big bowl, a big giant bowl of spaghetti, the kind of spaghetti that would feed 4 or 5 people easily. And she just sat there in front of that TV and just completely cleaned the bowl. I was like, her stomach must, be the size of my body. It’s just unbelievable. But no one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. Because if that obese person was totally committed, they’d say, “hey, don’t be buying me this spaghetti.

Don’t be giving me three plates of pancakes with tons of maple syrup. I can’t eat that. It’s not part of my diet.” But they didn’t do it. They say they want it, and the other person doesn’t say no to them. Because if the other person says “no”, what happens? They don’t bring the stuff to them. I mean, they could order it online or whatever, but it’s like one of the guys last night was like, he gets really pissed off and yells at his family members and they’re like, “oh, I don’t want him to get mad.” So they go and they buy all the shit and help him continue eating himself to death. It’s sad, but it just shows the power of your mind and a belief system.

But, when at the stage when you can set goals for self improvement, your book was infinitely powerful.

Yeah. It’s like when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. How many of you guys have been following me and read My Book for years and have a great success, and because you love your friends, you get like ten books for ten of your closest guy friends, and you give them each a book. And then six months later, you’re lucky if even one of them has even cracked the cover and looked at it. And you’re like, “hey, did you read that book?” “I gotta get around to that.

Yeah, I gotta get my tennis elbow fixed. And then, yeah, I’m definitely gonna really get into that book because I need to make some changes.” And they never do anything. Most people major and minor things. It’s just the way they are. That’s why it’s like you have to hit the wall. You have to get to the point where you’re just, “that’s it. I’m over it. I’m not going to live this way anymore.” And you decide you’re sick of living the way you were living.

Until you’re like this guy. He got to a place where he was like, okay, he basically had a lost decade of his life it looks like before he finally got serious about himself, his life, his success, and did something about it. And then he kind of became like Forrest Gump, “Run, Forrest run.” Started doing marathons, got in shape. He felt better, looked better, got noticed by women more. So he had a compelling reason to make changes.

But, when at the stage when you can set goals for self improvement, your book was infinitely powerful. It changed me as a man, and for that, I am infinitely grateful. As a teacher, it is difficult to budget a session, but at some point I would like to book a short session for the purpose of verbally recounting my horrors, how I pulled through, and how you helped me pull through.

Many thanks,

Bob

Well, Bob, your email is an inspiration because I know there’s lots of dudes out there that are going to see this video and they’re in a worse place, and one time in their life thought they’d never be there. And the fact that, like a phoenix rising from the ashes, if you did it, then they can do it. In other words, your success will inspire them to have their own success.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen on any page, and book a coaching session with yours truly. Until next time, I will talk to you soon.