A realistic breakdown of the numbers and successes you can expect to have when approaching and trying to pick up women and get their phone numbers successfully.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a viewer who has kept a log of his success rate at getting phone numbers over the past thirty days. He set a goal for himself to approach at least 1 woman every day for the past thirty days. He admits it was not the 100 women I suggest to attempt per month to get over your fear of approaching women, but his numbers and success rate perfectly illustrate how well this small goal works. He also has noticed that his sensory acuity and ability to read a woman’s level of attraction to him has increased dramatically, including his ability to watch other guys approach women and determine if the women are into them or not and accurately predict whether or not they’ll be successful.
It’s a small success for him, because he says he has asked out more women in the past 30 days than he has in the past 15 years. It’s another great simple success story of how setting small, achievable goals eventually will lead to the big successes that you want to achieve, as long as you keep grinding day in and day out. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
Hey Coach Wayne,
I wanted to send you a progress email. I purchased your book the week of 6/15, 2017. Currently, I am on my 3rd reading, 12 more to go.
Before I read your book, I was totally, at least I thought, incapable of approaching women.
(That’s obviously the story you told yourself. Since you told yourself you were incapable, you never approached any women. If you’re not talking to women or going out on dates, you’re not going to be hooking up, and you’re not going to get a girlfriend. It’s just the way it is.)
After my first reading, I set up a “30 Day Challenge.” Since I work and have other projects, I told myself to approach at least 1 female every day for 30 days. Granted it’s not 100 women, but nevertheless, I needed to get rid of the fear of approaching women.(When you become fearless of interacting with total strangers, women and men, you will gain confidence. You can walk into the office of a potential employer, shake their hand, look them in the eye and sell yourself. It’s the same thing, in essence, with selling yourself to somebody you want to date.
Remember, attraction is not a choice. They’re either into you or they’re not. Women that like you are going to be enthusiastic, they’re going to smile a lot, they’re going to want to carry the conversation, they’ll usually start to playing with their hair, and they may get a little close or touch you. With women that aren’t interested, it’s going to be next to impossible to get them to to crack a smile, and that’s okay.
Think of approaching women as a compatibility test. Does she like me enough to warrant me blocking out valuable time being on a date with her and then progress it from there? The reality is, when you approach enough women, you go out on enough dates, and you get more experience, you’re going to get to the same place I got to, which is, I only like going out with women who are really into me from the get go. Why would I want to to work extra hard or spend two or three dates getting them to like me more and more? Why should I have to sell myself? If they don’t recognize my value right away, why are they even worth my time? When you meet a best friend for the first time, you just click right away. It’s easy. You don’t have to force it. It just kind of flows effortlessly. The same thing goes for dating.)
Long story short, in less than 30 days, I have approached 38 women and was given 5 phone numbers. My average is for every 7-8 women that I approached, I received 1 phone number.
(Out of 8, you’re failing 6-7 times. Look at baseball. If somebody’s got a .250 batting average, they’re striking out 70% of the time. You’ve got to get okay with failing. If you’re not okay with failing, it can cause you to be risk averse in everything in life. When you’re risk averse, your fears are running your life, and it keeps you from everything you want. The reality is, you’ve got to get through the no’s in order to get to the yes’s.)
I was trying to get my average to 1 out of 5. Considering I’ve approached more women in less than 30 days than I have approached in the last 15 years, I feel like I have had a major breakthrough and achieved a lot of success in a short period of time.
(That’s a huge accomplishment. That’s a decade and a half of not living the way you want to live and not going for what you really want. The reality is, the more you do it the easier it gets, until it’s like going to a drive through and ordering a happy meal. It’s not a big deal. It’s like breathing. Why should you take it personally when somebody else doesn’t recognize your own value? It’s like Wayne Dyer said, “Other people’s opinion of you is none of your fucking business.” You’ve got to be willing to flame out. It’s like, who cares?)
For the first 30 days, I only wanted to focus on approaching and getting phone numbers, not setting dates. My next “30 Day Challenge” is to approach and set definite dates, as well gauge her attraction level before I approach. That way, I am only approaching women that have at least a 5 or better attraction level. That will pretty much eliminate rejection, as long as I approach, set the date and move on, as opposed to doing what I have noticed most guys doing, which is running their mouths for 15-20 minutes.
(That is absolutely a true statement. The idea is to work smarter, not harder.)
I’ve even noticed that I can gauge a women’s level of attraction to other men that she gets approached by.
(What’s beautiful about the stuff I teach in my book is, even if you’re to the point where you’re not ready to start talking to women, if you just sit there and observe other guys doing it, and you start to look at the body language and the physiology, see the patterns I see, that builds your confidence. You’ll see it really works.)I find myself saying in my mind, “Nope. She’s not attracted to you dude.”
The process that you outline in your book is evergreen and will never change. It’s almost magical. I feel enlightened. I feel like I am a part of an elite club of men.
(The 3%, it’s a small club.)
I’ve also started reading “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida.
(Great book. I highly recommend it.)
Thank you Coach Wayne. I owe my success to you. Not only has your book changed my life, it has caused me to focus on other areas of my life that I need to get a handle on.
(When you lose your fear of women, especially as you start having relationships with the kind of women that you’ve always dreamed about, your confidence fucking skyrockets. Because most of the men you’re going to encounter, you can look at their body language and their physiology and they don’t know shit. This really helps with negotiations. It gives you an upper leg. It makes you feel more enlightened. The more certain and confident you are, the more attractive you’re going to appear to women.)
I finally believe that I am capable of having the very best and most beautiful women that I desire, in addition to creating and living the life that I want to live.
(Great job R.J. I think that’s awesome. You’ve approached more women in 30 days than you have in the last 15 years. That’s fucking fantastic dude.)
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“In sales, success comes from knowing your product or service, creating rapport with your potential prospects, meeting their needs and asking for the order. When it comes to dating, successful guys are simply willing to fail and get rejected more than the average guy who wants more success with women. The harsh reality of life is that most employers will not want to hire you, most people you meet will not become your best friend or even an acquaintance, most women will not want to date you, but accepting the reality that you will be rejected way more than you succeed, in every area of life, will help you to accept the truth that life is most often a simple numbers game. You must be willing to get rejected and get through the no’s in order to get to the yes’s.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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