In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who successfully seduced a woman several months after she canceled their first date and basically disappeared from his life. He initially was racking his brain after he only read my book once, trying to figure out why she disappeared suddenly after displaying high interest when they first met. He later found out that she got serious with another guy she was already seeing and had a history with, but he correctly assumed after reading my book that she would be back eventually since there was a 97% chance the other guy would screw things up and she would reject him. Four months later, she randomly showed up at his apartment after his roommate told him she had been asking about him, explained why she disappeared, apologized profusely and obviously did not want to leave. He seduced her successfully that night, and she even contacted him a few days later. He now is looking forward to seeing her on their second date. This is just another example of how expressing your desire for a woman, extending your invitation for a date and being unattached to whether or not she accepts it or keeps it, can cause her to chase you down later if she’s involved with another guy and presently unavailable when she becomes single again. This is a prime example of why you never burn a bridge. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
I wanted to share with you a cool experience I recently just had by following your advice and coaching. During my first year of college, I met this one girl through a couple friends, and we immediately hit it off well. I was thinking, dang I’ve got a hang of this stuff, after reading your book only once. (Pride cometh before the fall.) Things were going well, and I was doing almost everything right, or so I thought. I proceeded to ask her out about a week or two after we met, she agreed and the date was set. I didn’t contact her at all afterwards and didn’t hear anything from her end until the morning of. She canceled on me, and I couldn’t understand why. (The good news is, she cancelled instead of blowing you off.) I found out through her friends that she was hanging out with other guys that night. At this point I was thinking, shit this sucks. What did I do wrong? (You’re brand new, so you don’t have a lot of leverage for her to choose you over someone else yet.) After her canceling the date on me, I didn’t contact her at all for about four and a half months. I practiced infinite patience, but wrote her off as a loss after two months. I later found out that there was another guy in the picture who she ended up dating during this time. (When the other guy screws up, she’ll call you if you set it up properly by extending an invitation. You’ve communicated your interest.) I remember thinking to myself, be a part of the 3% Bob! I had the confidence that this guy would eventually screw up, and sure enough, he did.About a week ago, my roommate told me that she had been asking about me a lot. I was thinking, okay this is strange. The other night, she randomly showed up at my apartment! (There was another guy in the way when you two met, but you did the right thing and left the door open.) She went on to tell me what happened between her and this other guy, and she apologized for what happened between us about 10 to 15 times that night! (She was remorseful and wanted another shot. She has high interest in you.) I acted as if it was no big deal, and that I wasn’t bothered at all by her canceling on me. (She was seeking your approval.) I was still very suspicious of her intentions though. She told me that she really wanted to go out with me before, but I scared her by not contacting her before the date and not giving her much information about what we were doing on the date. (That’s BS. She knows what she did, but didn’t want to take responsibility.) When we were alone at my place, I realized that she would not leave, and it was 2:00 am. (Women vote with their feet. If she’s with you, that means she voted for you.) We ended up sleeping together that night, and it blew my mind. I even spoke to her again! I just set a date with her for tonight.
Thanks Corey for helping me be a stud. (You followed what I teach and didn’t have to run after her. She just showed up.)
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“The principle of being non-attached to the people, things and circumstances you desire in your life allows the universe to effortlessly and easily manifest them into your life in unexpected, sudden, mysterious and magical ways, and in time frames that do not always make sense. The key is to continually move towards the vision of what you want, express your sincere interest, extend your invitation to spend time together without attachment and let the chips fall where they may. Sometimes, what and whom you want is not presently available, but with a little time, if it’s meant to be, the universe will magically and unexpectedly send them to you. True love is freedom. Love is about giving; it’s not about taking or needing.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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