I have a question I’m not sure you could answer, but any guidance would be appreciated. I’m a gentleman, very busy, busy getting desired results in my career, and I’m devoted to lifelong learning. I do attract very loving people, which is great! However, the only women I attract also seem to be at the other end of the spectrum, not concerned with their career or education. What am I doing which attracts to me these sorts of women?
Here is my response to him:
Thanks for your question. That is definitely something for you to contemplate, “What am I doing which attracts to me these sorts of women?” Why do you think you attract these kinds of women? Here are some thoughts for you to consider. Many Fortune 500 CEO’s and high income and high net-worth, achiever type men attract and marry women who tend to be less career and success minded/oriented. They tend to like women who are more comfortable being playful sexy women, wives and mothers. The men tend to go off and slay the dragons, so to speak, during the day, while the women stay at home and take care of the kids, go to the hairdresser, gym, and spa to keep looking and smelling yummy! When the men come home after a stressful day, these very feminine and playful wives get the men to loosen up, relax and just have fun. One reason you attract these kinds of women is because masculine energy has to do with achieving, success and building things. Feminine energy is about fun, joy, playfulness and experiencing ALL of the emotions. Think about all of the women you have met and felt attraction for. Are you normally less interested in women who are also high achievers? These women, in order to compete have to get into their masculine energy, which ironically makes them less attractive. Feminine women are so sexy and alluring because we men can just lose ourselves in a sexy playful woman who is amazed by our achievements. More masculine women tend to be less feminine and playful, and thus less attractive. Very few women can be in their masculine energy during their time at work and then come home and switch back to being ultra feminine to be the sexy vixen we want to have sex with constantly. Find a way to enjoy the beauties you have drawn into your life, and accept them as they are.Women are more comfortable and attractive when they are in their natural feminine essence. We are not supposed to be the same. The bottom line is, we want a lady in the streets and a whore in the sheets. It’s nice to have a woman who is educated and can carry a conversation. However, like the old Cyndi Lauper song from the 80’s goes…girls just wanna have fun! Why do we love the hot, young, sexy and sometimes ditzy, playboy women? The reason you probably attract so many of the less career-oriented women into your life is because you like those kinds of women. True or false? You accept and encourage those type of women to dance in your life and your world. When you make a woman comfortable at being herself around you, she will stick around if her interest level is 51% or higher in you to start with. Why not just be grateful she is there, instead of being frustrated that she is not showing up the way you think she should be? We suffer when we do not accept the way things are or the way people are. Learn to just say yes to these types of women. If you want to date a smarter and more intelligent woman so you can have deeper conversations, then hang out in the types of places and social events where those type of women are. Just remember, the more of an achiever she is, the more masculine she is going to be, (usually), and the less you will find her interesting and appealing. Look at politics. Look at Sarah Palin vs Hillary Clinton. Who is more attractive, feminine and sexy? Are there more women like Sarah or Hillary in politics? Most are like Hillary. Masculine, hard, wearing phony masks and not revealing who they are in public. They act more like men than they do women. Look at Danica Patrick the race car driver. Gorgeous! But she also sounds a little “butch like” when she talks. That’s her masculine achiever coming out.
Something to think about.
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