Why continuous circulation and approaching new women is the key to building your confidence, making progress, creating a great social life, and being happy.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer whose previous email I discussed in my video coaching newsletter titled, “Problems Are Signs Of Life.” In this follow-up email he discusses his continued success and progress, and how he’s starting to create a great social life for himself. He discusses how continuously approaching and interacting with new women on the dating app Tinder, other online dating sites, and in person is helping him to maintain a non-needy abundance mentality.
He’s no longer driven by fear since he has so many different women contacting him on a continuous basis. He describes how this is helping him grow his confidence and give him plenty of romantic options to choose from while he perfects his pickup, dating, and relationship skills. By treating all women the same, by using charm, humor, respect and playfulness, he’s getting lots of practice and rapidly increasing his skills.
It’s interesting to see the progress I’ve made in about a month’s time after going out, meeting people, and using Tinder and online dating. I met a beauty queen, which was awesome, in just my first week on my own, but didn’t have a lot of other contacts who were interested after that. (If you’re constantly out there meeting new women, you will increase your opportunities for success. Watch my YouTube video, “Improving Your Social Skills” and practice these skills step by step.)
However, as I’ve learned and adapted my approaches, tested, and found out what works, I’m now starting to have my phone get blown up by women wanting to talk to me. (Repetition is the mother of skill, and this is how you get better at meeting women. Practice your skills at your own pace. As your comfort level grows, your social skills will improve, and you will be making more dates.) Each time I meet one that is beautiful, I remind myself to keep circulating, and not get hung up on just one woman. That advice is paying off huge! (Circulation is the key to the universe. Everything stays in balance when you circulate.) By doing that, I’m always seeking and looking and never feeling needy. If a woman doesn’t text back right away, there’s a large pool of others to talk to. I’m happy to say that I feel progress happening in this area, and now there’s a couple of really high quality women that are entering the mix. (As your skills improve, and your confidence improves, the quality of the women you attract will improve. Like attracts like.)
What’s great about this is that talking to them feels just like talking to any other woman now as I’ve done it so much. I’m starting to integrate your techniques in my memory, and it’s becoming second nature — keep text to a minimum, ask for the number after a few Tinder messages, be playful, use banter, hit the tennis ball over, and wait. I’ve had a few contact me after a few days, and I can tell they are thinking about me probably wondering why I don’t text back again until they do. (Remember, it’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.)
I’m feeling very good and am happy about the progress I’m making. (After recovering from a bad breakup, this guy’s doing the work and seeing results.)
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“When you know you are desired and wanted by many friends and potential lovers, you can’t help but feel happy and grateful. Why? This is evidence that you are valued, appreciated, desired, wanted, special, and loved. Everyone wants to feel special and feel like their life has value and meaning, not only to themselves, but to other people. If you want to create a great social life, full of great friends and plenty of amazing romantic options, you need to continually circulate and approach new dating prospects. This will create an abundance in your life due to sheer force of numbers. Think about it this way, any successful long-term business is successful because they have a continuous stream of new and repeat customers. If you want to have a great social life, you need to create a steady stream of new and repeat social encounters.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne