Why pushing for a commitment from women you are dating who are recently divorced or out of long term relationships is a quick way to get rejected. What to do instead so they feel safe and comfortable enough to ask you for a commitment without you bringing it up.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was dating a woman for two years after her divorce. The whole time they dated she never invited him to get to know her children and recently told him she wanted to see what else is out there. She basically dumped him due to low interest, but he thinks it’s just a temporary break.
He told her that he wasn’t interested in being friends only. He’s also going nuts over the thought of her hooking up with another guy now that they are not together. It also sounds like he is deluding himself into waiting around for her to “sow her oats” and come back to him. He does not seem to realize that he got dumped.
“The purpose of all relationships is that we go there to give. Not to possess or control the other person out of our own feelings of inadequacy, neediness or insecurity. We must allow the other person the time and space to feel free to love us and be loved by us. If the person we love feels like we are trying to make them commit to something they are not ready for, they will quickly leave the relationship. Allow love to happen instead of trying to make it happen.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne