Put Yourself First, Not Last

Why always putting your needs, wants and desires behind those who you love or who you want to be loved by, will keep you in friends zone or put you there, and prevent you from getting what you really want and deserve.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who met a woman online. The first two dates went great. She wanted to go back to his place, but since he did not have the logistics worked out so he could have his place all to himself for some privacy, he ended up back at her place in the living room while her parents slept. Sex did not happen obviously and she seemed irritated he did not have this worked out ahead of time. He started to over-pursue and she blew him off. Then after a few weeks she contacted him. Things went well, but he went right back to his bad over-pursuing behavior. She now ignores his calls and messages. He wonders what he can do now.

The second email is from a viewer who got dumped by his girlfriend of two years. He said she is moody, rude, disrespectful and cancels dates on him at the last minute. She broke off their engagement and told him the ring was just a piece of jewelry to her. She says everything is his fault and he is tired of being the only one who seems to want to work on their relationship.

“In all of your relationships, you must put your needs first. Why? If you are always putting your needs last then those who you are involved with will treat your needs as if they are not a priority or important. However, putting your needs first does not mean that the other person has to lose or not have their needs met. The purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give. You’re there to meet each others needs, to help each other grow and become more. Relationships thrive through teamwork. Being too compliant and never standing up for yourself and what you want will cause you to attract people into your life who will use you, take advantage of you and disrespect you. If you don’t act like you are deserving of what you want, people will show up in your life and treat you that way. Being honest with yourself and with others will create sexual polarity and attract the right people, and repel the wrong ones. You should look at rejection as a tool that reveals incompatibility, instead of evidence of your unworthiness or inadequateness.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne