Reacting Vs. Responding

Why it’s always better to take the time to contemplate all possibilities and then slowly respond when members of the opposite sex do or fail to do things you expect, or they do or say things that are disconcerting, instead of emotionally and irrationally reacting and therefore say or do something that just makes your situation worse.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who I had a recent phone session with. His ex is now contacting him again to say she misses him, but when he tries to set a date to see her, she always has excuses as to why she can’t. He wonders what his next move should be. The second email is from another client I have done a few phone sessions with who is having problems with acting too emotional, being too unsure of himself and thinking that things are worse than they are in his relationship. He’s also learning to master the art of effective communication with his girlfriend.

The third email is from a viewer who is doing really well with what I teach and a lot more women are paying attention to him now than ever before. The only problem is that he is hung up on a woman who lives with her boyfriend of six years, but he realizes now that he’s been using that as an excuse to avoid a relationship altogether.

“It’s always better to carefully contemplate all of the possible outcomes and consequences of your actions, and then respond after careful consideration while in a peaceful and relaxed state. When you allow yourself to become hijacked by your fear, neurotic tendencies, paranoia, worry or doubt, and then react while in an irrationally emotional state, your actions and words will have undesired consequences that are the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish. It’s always better to sleep on something than to impatiently react and make things worse without thinking through the consequences of your actions and words.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne