Men who are weak, needy and do not understand women are the type of guys who become stalkers or violent when a woman they care for does not act the way they want. What is always behind anger? Fear. Fear of what? A guy who becomes violent to a woman during an argument is fearful he won’t get what he wants, won’t be accepted or won’t be loved. His fear of losing his girl or her love and acceptance, causes him to try to force what he wants with violence. In reality, by not controlling his emotions or learning how to understand women, will cause him to act in a way that guarantees that exactly what he fears most, losing his girl, will happen. His fear of loss and violent behavior destroys what he wants most to save.
In the George Lucas Film “Star Wars Episode III: Revenge of the Sith”, Anakin Skywalker’s character after he becomes the evil Darth Vader, chokes his love Padame with the invisible hand of the force when he is consumed by anger and fear of losing her. This causes her eventual death from a broken heart. She loses the will to live.
The first time Master Yoda meets Anakin Skywalker when Anakin’s just a little boy, he senses great fear in young Anakin. Master Yoda says, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”
When we fail to let go of a limiting belief, false mental construct, a relationship that no longer serves us, when we wish things to be other than they are in our life, we suffer. Acceptance of what is, is the only thing that releases us from what is or has happened that you can not change. Sometimes things happen in life. Sometimes things end. But there is a purpose and design in every experience. Each hard time is given to you as an opportunity to grow and become more. To realize you were stronger than you ever thought possible.
This is an email I got from a reader, my comments are in (bold brackets like this) in the body of his email:
Dear Coach Corey,
In 2009 I wound up getting involved seriously with a girl named Denise, and she wound up being my first love… we were mostly on and maybe all together we had a month apart. I even traveled to Delaware to meet her father…. well in April I wound up getting a domestic violence and battery charge over her (not cool-men are supposed to be a woman’s protector, not her oppressor!). Got arrested 3 times in 6 months over the whole ordeal (the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting to get a different result) and spending a month in jail for violation of probation the third time and being convicted (nice job. I bet that was a lot of fun).
My problem is I am still in love with her no matter how hard I try to move on I can’t (yes you can, you just choose not to. Plus, you need a good plan to follow that will give you hope and make you feel like you can move on and find someone better). And plus I’ve never been good with finding a date (you just need to learn the knowledge and skills you need to succeed with women. My book “How To Be A 3% Man” is the answer. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships. The whole world is about to open up to you. You’ll be able to get the kind of girls you’ve always wanted. You just need the knowledge. Read my book at least 10-15 times and listen to all the audio lessons 10-15 times. You MUST get to know the material so well you could give a seminar on it. You need the knowledge and there’s a lot of it in my book. If you know the material inside and out, you won’t have to think about it. You’ll always know what to do in every situation. If you don’t know the material very well, you will make unnecessary mistakes and blow it with chicks you could have had) I have always been the lonely one (and you will always be the lonely one unless you learn the material in my book and apply it). I have had 1 girl since her and that was a year ago (so what. Today is a new day. Today is the first day of the new you. The past does not equal the future). Me and Denise still talk and we still love each other even though I moved out of Texas to Arizona. I really miss her, but just want to move on (smart man. Maybe someday, once you’ve mastered this stuff and you are strong, maybe she could come visit you. But more than likely, once you learn how to apply what I teach, you will be too busy with way hotter women who are dying to see you. Women will give you everything you want. They will love you, and fuck you in any way you like once you know how to treat them, communicate with them, love them, support them and nurture them. Women are the most amazing creatures on the planet! Learn to understand them, and they won’t leave you alone! For now, you need to focus on learning and becoming a better man).
In the old Eagles hit song “New Kid In Town” there is a line in the song singing about losing a love that goes… “they will never forget you til somebody new comes along”, so the best way to forget about her is to find somebody new and better. So the good news is: I’m going to help you attract someone who is hotter, more balanced and a better fit for you. That way you can have an effortless relationship. We’ll do this by helping you become a better and more balanced you. You must become what you want to attract.
We’ll also focus on your purpose and career so you can start doing the things in your life you’ve always dreamed about. When you do things you love for a living, for fun and with those who you love and who love you, life is pretty effortless and amazing. You are filled with gratitude and have long since left behind the guy who got himself thrown in jail because he did not understand women. Now hit play on the video player below and listen to the beautiful Eagles song “New Kid In Town” as you finish reading this article and signing up to read my eBook:
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Nothing can sabotage winning, except for fear of losing. Success usually lies just beyond failure.” Cortes