Recovering Nice Guy Who’s Finally Taking His Power Back!

How to take your power back & become more attractive if you’ve always been too nice.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 54 year old viewer who’s new to my work. He’s been a lifelong nice guy who is used to getting jerked around by women. He details the experience he had with a woman who jerked him around and stood him up which led to him finding my work. He shares some of his progress in changing his mindset and the excitement he now feels about his future. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Recovering Nice Guy Who’s Finally Taking His Power Back!”.

Well, the free Email Video Coaching Newsletter that went over today was a dude that was like a total Debbie Downer. He’s not really enjoying his life. He’s not really excited about it. He’s only 23 and he acts like his life is over, even though his life has barely even gotten started. So with that said, this particular gentleman is 54.

He’s new to my work, and he’s been a lifelong nice guy who is used to getting jerked around by the ladies. And he details the experience that he had with another woman who jerked him around and basically stood him up for his date. And he finally was like, “What the hell is going on?” So that’s how he came across my work.

Because he realized that his approach wasn’t working. He’s been through my book. He’s starting to practice and implement it, and he’s really excited about his future. In other words, he’s in a happy place. And compared to the free Email Newsletter that I did, this guy is in the right mindset that he needs to be in to attract a woman who’s also happy and excited about her life.

Viewer Email:

Corey,

I am writing to let you know how appreciative I am of your content. Everything you say resonates with me, and the world is a better place with your insight and words of wisdom. I am new to your work, but I have been listening to your videos while I drive and in the evenings. Like other people have said, you are describing me in so many of your video coaching sessions. I am now on my second reading of 3% Man.

Well, that’s the thing. All of us guys, we have common experiences because women do and say the same things. And because women are emotionally driven and they don’t want to hurt our feelings they’re going to say things that sound logical and nice and make sense, but in reality, they’re still losing interest. And if you’re trying to get women to give you advice on how to fix that, it’s not going to happen.

Even Sigmund Freud was like the one, despite all of his life’s work into understanding the human mind and the human psyche, the one thing he was never able to figure out is, what the hell does a woman want? Because he would ask the question thinking, “Well, I’ll just get a straight answer.” But women give their answers based on emotions and feelings.

And quite frankly, most of them don’t understand how attraction works, and they’re very contradictory. What they say they want and what they’re actually attracted to. Especially when you ask a woman what she wants and then she tells you, and then you ask her to tell you about the guy she’s been most in love with. And then you ask her questions about the things those guys did, you realize those guys aren’t even remotely close to what she says she wanted.

Women don’t care about what a great guy you are. They only care about how they feel about you. And when you’re too nice and you’re too soft, and you’re not willing to stand up to them and put them in their place, you’re not the type of man that could lead them, that they could follow, that you could educate them and teach them and they can follow you.

So you’ve got to be the leader, and you’ve got to be willing to stand up for yourself, your values, your goals, and what you believe in and put a woman in her place when she’s out of line. Not in a mean way, but in a loving but firm way. Calling her out on her bullshit.

I am 54 and have been “friend-zoned” more times than I would like to admit, and I am your quintessential “nice guy.”

We’ve all been there, bro.

I am successful in my business. I own a farm, and I am in the commercial grain business. I am healthy and take care of myself and have a very full, vibrant life with travel and lots of amazing hobbies and interests.

In other words, you’re enjoying your life, which is great because that makes you attractive and confident.

Through your work, I have come to value myself more, and I am owning who I am and looking less and less for outside approval. I take up more space as I walk into a room, and for the first time in my life, I have really come to love my own company and enjoy spending time by myself.

So you’re in the place where the emailer from the free Newsletter that I did today is the exact opposite. And so good on you for getting yourself to a happy place, because if you’re looking for a relationship, you’ve got to get to a happy place first. Obviously, your game has got to be tight, but you’ve got to be happy as a man and be excited about your life. Because if you’re not excited about your life, a woman ain’t going to get excited about it either.

I am very selective with who I give my time to, and that goes for friends, women, and family. I am starting to have an abundance mentality. I enjoy your little analogies when you speak. Everyone is on probation until they earn the right to be with us; the snowball analogy; the carburetor and ignition timing way of saying there is a sweet spot with women. I used to be the chaser, and you know what happened next.

You chase them out of your life. Have we all been there.

I used to put my life on hold and bend over backwards. I was the car washer guy, the clogged sink guy, the oil changer guy. All that did was get me involved with people who never valued my time and took advantage of me.

So, Harry Honda, we have a recovering Harry Honda. He shows up with his toolbox ready to solve all the problems. And then as soon as the problems are solved and everything’s fixed, she’s like, “Whoa, look at the time.” And scurries him out the door because Chad Thunder Cock is coming over later to beat up her pelvis.

I let them take advantage of me because I never valued myself.

Well, if you don’t value your time, nobody else will either. If you don’t value yourself, nobody else will either.

I came across your work when I was supposed to go on a date with a woman, and she canceled two hours prior. She said, “Let’s reschedule.” I agreed to the following day for coffee at three because that’s what she suggested.

Well, we don’t do coffee dates in the middle of the afternoon. We do dates in the evening that can lead to sex at her place or yours. And by only doing evening dates, you make sure you’re not going out and spending time and money on women who are using you as an emotional tampon, or as their favorite Harry Honda to fix their problems, fix their sink and listen to them drone on when Chad Thunder Cock hasn’t called them in a week.

One hour before our second date.

Which I assume is the rescheduled one.

She texted and gave me the, “Hey, I am not feeling well. I haven’t gotten out of bed yet and haven’t had anything to eat or drink all day. I hope I can make it.”

Yeah, when you hear that, you’re like, “Oh, she ain’t gonna make it.” When you get something like that you do “The Takeaway”. It was like, well, why don’t we just do it another time when you feel better? Because again, she’s texting you right before the date and it’s a BS excuse.

Of course, she didn’t show and never even apologized. I look back at this experience as a gift because, number one, I would never want to be with someone with such low character that they would waste another human’s time. And number two, it led me to your work. The old me would have teed off on her.

In other words, he would have been mad and upset.

But the new me just deleted her number and moved forward. As you always say, “there is a new bus every 15 minutes.”

This is true. It’s the way you’ve got to think. Being stuck in the past, especially when we’re living in bodies that are going to die, is not beneficial to our reaching our full potential.

You’re a great speaker, and your advice flows very naturally. You are teaching us to get back to our natural masculine power, stand up for ourselves, and not be a pushover.

Thanks again, and happy new year. Cheers to an asshole-free and drama-free life.

All the best,

Bob

Well Bob, congratulations on your new attitude and loving and valuing yourself. And getting to a happy place where you’re proud of yourself and you’re proud of your life and you’re excited. That’s the best place to be in. Because typically you attract how you act. And when you’re happy and you’re optimistic, you’re going to attract happy and optimistic people as well. So congratulations dude. And I look forward to a nice success story from you down the road.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen on any page, and book a coaching session with yours truly. Until next time, I will talk to you soon.