How to avoid relationship attachments to people and circumstances you want, so you don’t cause yourself unnecessary suffering when they don’t live up to your expectations. A simple solution you can employ in your dating and relationship life to ensure that you don’t suffer from disappointment, and get hung up on someone who does not really want you or make the effort.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a woman who got hung up on a virtual pen pal over the course of five months. It was more of a fantasy relationship than an actual one. They never met in person. He kept promising, saying he was interested and never following through on making an actual date to meet in person.
She made the same mistakes a lot of men make with women, in that she did not pay attention to the fact that his words and actions did not match. She’s very frustrated and angry things did not work out. She wants to know how to avoid this in the future.
“People who get hung up on lovers who are unavailable, married, in a relationship or who simply are not interested, usually get attached to what they can not have because it’s how they subconsciously avoid relationships altogether. It also reinforces their model of the world that they are unworthy and don’t deserve to have what they really want, thus becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Success in dating and relationships comes as a byproduct of becoming your best self, and by only getting involved with people who consistently demonstrate through their actions that they truly care about you.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne