Relationship Dilemma: Which Girl Is The Right One To Choose?

How to know which girl is the right girl to choose to have a relationship with.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email update from a viewer whose ex didn’t want to have sex anymore. Now that he’s been implementing 3% Man, he says it’s worked too well and he has 2 women he’s dating who both want him, but he can’t decide which one to choose as his girlfriend.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Relationship Dilemma: Which Girl Is The Right One To Choose?”.

Well, as they say, one is no choice. Two is a dilemma. Three is a proper choice. And so our viewer has two women that he’s dating. Both of them have a lot of great qualities. Both of them are really into him. And so he kind of describes what each girl’s got going for her. And he’s like, I don’t know how to choose which one to get serious with.

So at the end of the day, until you get to a place where you know for certain you want to be with somebody, you should not commit to anyone, especially if you’re being pressured to do that. So if you’re ready to settle down, have a family, or you want a serious girlfriend, if you’re vetting for a wife, you’ve got to make sure she shares your goals and values.

Ideally, you want a woman who loves and has a good relationship with her father. Her parents have a good relationship. And everybody, all the women in the family respect dad. Dad’s the alpha of the house. You don’t want some guy that’s a beta pushover that the women just manipulate the shit out of and don’t respect.

Because women that don’t respect their fathers typically just don’t respect men in general. And she’s not going to respect you, no matter how much you may have your act together. So the other thing is you want somebody who’s easygoing, easy to get along with. She’s got to be nice to you, communicate like an adult.

No stonewalling, no temper tantrums, no yelling and screaming. You’ve got to be able to talk things out and work through your differences in a calm manner. You want it to be easy and effortless, and at the end of the day, love is allowing. And so as the man you want to create the conditions where it’s the women going out of their way to show you how great things are with them.

So you choose them or you say yes to being their boyfriend. Obviously, after you’ve had your discussions at terms. But if you don’t feel like either one of these girls you want to commit to, then you know, maybe you should consider a third one. Because if it’s the right girl, you’re going to be like, yeah, hell yeah, I want to be with her only. You’re not going to care about anybody else.

So the fact that he’s like, eh, he can’t really make up his mind. I’d say neither one of them are right. He’s not a place where he feels either one of them are right. And you’ll know it’s just like when you when you met your best friend. It’s just like some people you click with. It’s very rare. It’s very special when you have those kinds of relationships.

And it’s especially important when you choose somebody to have a long term relationship with. Because if you don’t jive well, it’s, you know, most of your happiness or misery is going to come from who you choose to spend your life with. And it’s pretty obvious in society that most people don’t make good choices. So the divorce rate is so high.

So this particular email, it’s an update from a viewer who I guess his ex, I don’t know, maybe a year or so ago when he originally wrote in, basically said she didn’t want to have sex with him anymore because she was becoming more religious. Which basically, you know, religion didn’t matter before. It was just her excuse because she lost attraction and respect. And so now, like he’s got these two different girls, they both like him, but he’s like, ah fuck. I don’t know which one.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

Hope you’re doing well. I’m the guy from the email about the religious girlfriend that didn’t want to have sex anymore. However this email isn’t about her. It’s about a very important decision I have to make, 2 women are in love with me, your book is way too effective lol.

Well, my job is to help you get what you want and get choices and options. It’s your job to put your big boy pants on and decide who you want to be with. And if you don’t feel you want to be with any of them, you’ve got to say no to both of them.

And I don’t know who should I choose to be my girlfriend.

Well, if it’s not obvious who to choose. And yeah, it’s just like picking your dream job. There’s a dream company that you’d love to work for you. You know, you can take a job at a company that’s not the one you really want. You don’t want to settle. So if somebody’s not lighting you up on the inside, either one of these girls, that’s why you need a third option.

One makes a lot of effort to be with me, she is easy going and supportive, also we have an excellent time together. She’s family oriented. She’s going back to school this year to get a degree in 4 years from now.

So does that mean that she’s going away? Like, is she going to fly to a different city or a different part of the country or a different country altogether to go to school? Because if that means you’ve got to do long distance, do you really want to do long distance with a girl in college for the next four years? If you’re thinking I want a girlfriend and a relationship, why would you want to have a relationship with a girl that’s getting ready to move away for the next four years?

So if that’s the case, that would de-queue that girl. Unless she, of course, changes her plans and decides to stay. But you’ve got to want her to do that if you really want to be with her. But I wouldn’t do a long-distance relationship for four years, especially if she’s younger. There’s just a lot of temptation. Unless, of course, you know, you guys really click. It’s just going to be hard because there’s going to be so many dudes, you know, especially if she’s hot, trying to get in her pants at college.

And it’s like she’s going to be an all you can eat dick buffet. And there’s constantly dicks being thrown at her. She’s going to be dodging them left and right. So is that something you really want to deal with? It’s really hard to make it through four years of college. So you have to really be committed. You have to really like each other and you have to make the effort. You go see her, the next time she comes to see you.

Over four years, that’s going to be tough. Unless, you know, maybe it’s a half hour or an hour away. Maybe she’s not that far away. Maybe she’s in state. It all depends on the logistics of that. But other than that, if she was going to be close. Sounds like, you know, she’s got a lot of the goals and values and the right temperament that you want.

The other girl we share common interests, like nature, plants, etc. I like her more physically though.

Well, you do want a woman who makes your dick hard, not your life.

But sometimes she is in her masculine because she is career oriented and very driven.

Well, if she becomes a stay at home mom at some point and you have kids, you know, she’ll become less masculine. But the other thing is, is do you really want to deal with a girl that’s got a lot of boss girl energy? Because if she’s got too much of it, you don’t want to be constantly jockeying for control of the relationship.

Because if you get a girl that’s got too much boss girl, it’s like kind of like dating another dude. It’s like she’s going to be competing with you instead of bringing you peace and joy. She’s going to be challenging you. It’s kind of like being in a relationship with a female lawyer. You know, they argue all day. That’s very hard to date somebody like that.

And a lot of guys struggle with those women because it’s just too much boss girl energy. Again, if that’s what they do for a living is argue and wear people down. She’s just naturally going to do that with you and anybody else that she’s close to, because she can’t help it. That’s who she is. It’s her identity at that point.

I can see myself having a prosperous future with her. The sex is very good with both girls lol, but I’m really struggling with deciding which one should I chose to be with Coach. How can I figure it out?

Thanks for everything Coach. 

Well, like I said, the first girl is going to move away. You could date casually and it’s just, you right now just what you told me, if that girl’s going to go away to school for four years, you don’t have enough enthusiasm for her to do what it takes to maintain that as a long term or long-distance relationship. Because you’d have to really be into her, and she’d have to be really into you.

And if things are going so well, she’d want to just, you know, she’ll change colleges to be someplace closer to you. And if she’s not willing to do that, it’s just like, no. Again, you don’t have enough enthusiasm for either one of these girls, in my opinion, to commit to either of them, at least at this point. So if it was me, I would keep dating and look for a third option.

Because, I mean, the whole point of the book is woman of your dreams, not somebody that you settle for that you can’t make your mind up about. You know, it’s like things we are passionate about, we know we’re passionate about because we feel it inside. It comes from, you know, within. It’s like when you decide you there’s a certain car that you want to buy or a house you want to buy or an area of the city you want to live in, it just feels right to you. And so when it’s you’ve met somebody that’s good for a long term relationship that you really jive with and want to be with, it’s easy, it’s effortless.

You just know like that. The fact that you’re going, eh, and you know, that’s neither one of these are your dream girl. I want you to be with a girl that knocks your socks off. So I would be enjoying my time with these girls, but be looking for a third prospect. Treat it like a practice squad. Again, when you find the right girl, you’ll know and you want to be with her. And she’ll really want to be with you. And like I said, there’s just not enough enthusiasm in you towards either of these girls for you to be considering committing to either one of them. You need a third option, dude.

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