Here’s how to keep a positive outlook when progress towards achieving your goals is slow and you feel discouraged. When you are trying to improve yourself and striving to achieve your greatest goals and dreams, you’re going to have moments of doubt and weakness. If you’re trying to overcome your fear of talking to women, you might chicken out a few times before you get up the nerve to try it. Even though you may be getting phone numbers and have no problem making conversation with random women, you might not be setting many dates even though you feel like you’re doing everything right. Maybe the business that you started three years ago because you had a passion for it, but the fact that it’s still losing you money today is causing you to doubt that it will ever be successful or make you enough money so you can tell your boss to take your job and shove it up his ass when you quit. It does not matter the situation or circumstances you are trying to improve or enhance in your life. Every man must deal with things feeling like they are hopeless, futile, a waste of time, etc.
People who are trying to lose weight often feel guilty they are so big. When they feel guilty they start to feel like something is missing inside of them. So what do they do? Eat excessively to fill themselves up which is satisfying for a moment, but then they get even more mad at themselves because of all the junk they just ate. Therefore, they feel worse which causes them to eat even more making their situation even worse. It’s a vicious cycle. I see many guys doing what I used to do when I was unsuccessful with women. They keep chasing and hitting on women who they have no chance with. Since they’re chasing what they cannot have, or what does not want them, they’re unable and often unwilling to notice, recognize or acknowledge the presence of abundant female goddesses who are all around them. One client I was talking to today fears success. Therefore, he’s been bullshitting himself into continuing to try to make something happen with women who are not interested so he doesn’t have to talk to anyone new. He doesn’t risk anything and does not talk to anyone new, but gets frustrated that his social life is not changing or getting any better as quickly as he would like. You miss 100% of the pitches you don’t swing at in life. The following is an e-mail from a reader who is struggling to get back into shape after spending several years being romantically hung up on a woman who was married. He’s having success getting laid, but not with the kind of women he really wants. How he feels about his weight is affecting his self-image, his exercise habits and his ability to be successful with the kind of women he really wants. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I used to be a super fit guy and because of my looks I got away with many mistakes you talk about. I was married and I’m now 38. I’m doing well with money, etc. I have started to date hot women and want to get back some fitness, but I seem to get emotional about this and lose track quickly. (How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.) I had a bad split up and I spent a long time trying to make a woman love me who was married. So I fucked up and wasted a few years, but it was also positive business wise. Do you think I need a motivational person like a trainer, (Firstly, you need to stop being so hard on yourself and succeed at your own pace. Then, when you have some success no matter how small of a success it is, you must celebrate your victories. Being successful or fit and healthy is a daily discipline. It’s making the right choices on a daily basis to be healthy, go to the gym, etc. instead of making poor choices that push success and your goals further and further into the future. If you want someone to hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself, to help you make rapid progress and if you are coachable, then you should sign up for a phone coaching session with me personally by CLICKING HERE. You should also read my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) or maybe is it more a mental issue? I don’t want to start to feel insecure if I meet the right woman, and it becomes more long term. (That is why you workout for you, not for a woman because you are doing it to make her happy. You need to take care of you first. If you are taking care of yourself, then what women are or are not doing in your life will be irrelevant and have no affect on your health and overall well being.) I’m bedding a few girls that are not to the standard I want at the moment. (By meeting & dating as many new women as possible, this gives you experience and builds your skills. Repetition is the mother of skill. The more women you meet and date, the more women you will have to practice your seduction moves on so you can master the 3 different methods of seducing women. This gives you swagger, which helps you attract even more women by simply being the best version of yourself that you can be. Success with women breeds confidence and gives you choice with women.)
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