How to respond to negative, insulting or weak people who question the new you, after you’ve made major changes to your life that have enabled you to become more successful with women, and life in general. How to deal with shit-talking old friends who are intimidated by your new confidence & success with women. Imagine going back to your old town where you have friends and chicks who knew you back when you were weak and not as successful with women as you are now. How would you act? How would you respond? Would you feel a little insecure around them? How about running into an old chick you blew it with years ago after having made a total jackass of yourself?
You never really will know how you will respond if something like that happened to you, unless… you are prepared and ready for anything because you have practiced what I teach so much that you don’t have to think about it. You’re on autopilot. Here’s an email from a reader who is going back to his hometown after living away for 3 years. He feels he’s a changed man with a lot of confidence, but he still has some doubts. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his email:
I am developing the mindset detailed in your book, and your videos. I am living more with a purpose now than I ever have before, so thank you. My query relates to friendships formed in the old mindset. I have lived away from my hometown for 3 years, and now I am due to return in a few weeks. (Game on!) I feel a lot more composed, confident, and willing to tell it like it is than I have ever before, (Good job!) but when I left my town 3 years ago I was passive and introverted. This is how the friends from back home will expect me to be. (The past does not equal the future dude.)
I expect to make a lot of new friends due to my more outgoing and driven nature, but how should I deal with “old” friends who I assume will not like my new found confidence. If they act like dicks, do I just keep centered, treat them with humor and just be indifferent, much in the way with women, (Yes! Absolutely! No one can ever diminish you unless you decide they do. You may not always be able to control the circumstances of your life, but you can ALWAYS control the meaning that you give things; you control your inner dialogue and beliefs.
Ask yourself how your struggles and attacks from other weak people can help you become a better man; what can it teach you, etc. Only you can diminish yourself; therefore, choose not to be diminished by anything! Besides, at the end of the day, people who attack you are simply looking for leadership. Why? Because they don’t believe in themselves. Remember, 97% of the men you will encounter, don’t know what you now know about women. You already have the upper hand brother! Plus, their fucking opinion is irrelevant! Does James Bond, ever come unglued around weak people? I think not.) or should I just be assertive and tell them how it’s going to be from now on.
(Decide you’re going to have a good time no matter what. Bust people on their grumpiness, and tell them they need to take a shot of Jack Daniels, switch to decaff coffee, take a bong swat, get laid, chill out, relax, etc., or any other more colorful metaphors you like to communicate that you’re only interested in laughing, having a good time and hanging with some cool people who are looking to do the same. Your life is effortless, and a drama-free zone. Fuck em if they can’t take a joke 😉 You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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