How you can resurrect yourself from your beta male image and become an alpha male in the eyes of the women you desire.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story update with some additional context from a viewer whose email I answered in my previous video newsletter titled, Finally Escaped The Friend Zone, But Was It Worth The Wait?
He goes into extensive detail on how he completely changed the dynamic in his peer group from being perceived as an unattractive beta male to a desirable alpha male and shares extensive details on two success stories that became possible because he successfully applied what he learned from my work. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
What’s cool is he goes into a little bit more detail on the success that went into the first video newsletter that I did, and it’s a great email because you could see how everybody in his peer group, especially the women, formed an image of him as this beta male. And so, he shares some of the cocky things that he said to two different women in particular and how effective it was. Even one of them who basically got kind of an attitude and is like, “No way. I’m not going to do what you want,” but she eventually came around on her own without any kind of prodding, just because he gave off the right vibe.
So, it’s a great success story, because I know lots of guys come to my work and they’re wanting to kind of right the wrongs of the past or to kind of turn some of those failures that they may have had, especially when they involve women that are in their peer group or their social circle, and turn them into victories. Because the greatest way to silence your critics and the greatest medicine for failure is winning is having successes.
Hey Coach Corey,
I wanted to give you two success stories on how I basically resurrected myself from the beta image that I showed off to countless women while being stuck on one chick, but two in particular that had high interest in me in the past that I managed to successfully turn the table with.
So, obviously, these women really liked him, and because he didn’t know any better, he talked them out of liking him. But he turned that around.
So, to paint the picture for the audience and viewers, you recently did my email story titled: Escaped The Friend Zone, But Was It Worth The Wait? A little more context for timeline purposes, that whole ordeal took place between 2015 and 2019.
So, we’re talking four years. That’s a long time.
In 2019, I was 23 going on 24 years old, now being at the age of 25 is when most these events occurred. So, in the previous email newsletter, I explained how I was glued to the one Honduran chick. We were in this fitness organization at the time, where so many beautiful women resided – many who would compliment my physique at these workouts.
Obviously, that means they find you attractive.
I even had a few try to shoot their shot with me, but I was so zoned in at the time with this one girl, I turned down several experiences, (that I regretted until recently).
And so, I talk about this a lot. When a guy, or girl for that matter, gets fixated on one particular person that’s not going anywhere, and especially if they’re telling themselves that they don’t deserve to have what they really want — like in this guy’s case, he’s in good shape and women are coming up to him shooting their shots, so to speak, and it’s just kind of going right over his head, going right by them because he’s so fixated on somebody that it’s not going anywhere with. The interesting thing is, when you’ve got somebody that it’s not progressing with and then you have other opportunities, you just simply go where the other opportunities are.
And oftentimes that other woman, when she wasn’t interested, sees that you’ve just moved on and other girls are showing you attention and affection, she tends to come back and make a little bit more of an effort. And you’ll see that as we get further in the email. That is part of what helped him succeed with this other woman, because he was indifferent. Whatever, it didn’t matter that she wasn’t interested or wasn’t paying him any attention. Other women were, and so he focused his attention on the women that were.
And then he gets a tap on the shoulder, and guess who it is. It’s beautiful how that works. That’s why being attached to anything is so detrimental to you moving forward and taking care of the opportunities that are there. That’s a true abundance mindset. And if you love and you value yourself, then you want somebody that’s excited to see you, excited to spend time with you, that jumps at the opportunity to be with you.
Women that can’t find the time or aren’t that interested, they can go pound sand, and you’ll just go find somebody else. You just have to move on and treat them that way. That’s deep down what they really want anyway. Even if they don’t come after you, at least they respect you as a man, because you didn’t stay engaged when they weren’t making any effort. You just simply move on to greener pastures. It’s like, you go to where the crowd is more favorable to what you’re offering.
So, the first female is a gorgeous, fun-sized, petite mom of two, currently, who takes care of her body and is a hard worker, but in a relationship with a guy who’s out of shape and you can tell his ideology doesn’t align with hers off of just looking at them together. Back then, this was a woman who always was overly friendly to me, complimenting my body and how I smelt, even gave me those extra-long hugs, all subtle key indicators of a girl with interest.
But she had a boyfriend.
She shot her shot once on Instagram after seeing me post on my stories a fun arcade bar I had went to, and she replied “Oooou, that looks like fun. I want to go.” At the time, I wasn’t knowledgeable of your work, but knowing now, I would have taken that as a girl who’s interested in me, reaching out and turned it into a date. But that didn’t happen and instead responded with you should go, (face palm).
Fast forward to the end of 2020, I’ve been focusing on my business and just working on myself and recently posted on my story an event that was held at her former school. She responded stating, why was I at her old school, Lol. I viewed her comment and left her on read. Keep in mind, this woman has over 10k followers on IG, has guys throwing themselves at her in the comments and DM’s most likely, so that probably doesn’t happen at all, a guy leaving her on read.
Yeah, so she’s got lots of guys throwing their dicks at her, so she has lots of choices and lots of options. And she’s shooting her shot with him, and he’s kind of indifferent to it.
So, a couple weeks later I see her at a fitness clinic, and she made eye contact with me, but quickly turned away, and it was obvious because we were the only two people there besides the workers. It was interesting seeing her reaction after, as she quickly took her products outside to her car without speaking and came back for one more bag and was about to leave and I called her name. She then said “Oh hey” to me like we didn’t already make eye contact and came over and greeted me.
So, she was acting like she didn’t see him.
She brought up that she DM’d me and I left her on seen, and instead of apologizing about it like the old me would have, I responded “I know” which she looked at me crazy for saying, and then proceeded to ask her original question, why I was at her school. She then asked me about the old chick, stating I was always glued to her and following her around.
Obviously, like a little puppy dog.
I told her that TV show ended, and I won a Grammy for it, which she seemed to love that response.
So, he’s playful. She’s kind of calling him out about the fact he was following some other girl around like a puppy dog. And instead of getting butt hurt about it, he uses it as an opportunity for some self-deprecating humor, like “Hey, I was acting and I won a Grammy for that.”
Fifteen minutes passed, and during those 15 minutes, she was ultra-close to me, touching my arm and complimenting my shoes and everything.
So obviously, when a woman is complimenting you, whether it’s your shirt or your shoes or your appearance, it’s obvious she’s expressing that she’s interested.
So I proceeded to ask what she had planned for the rest of the day and she responded nothing, which I knew was a lie based off the products she bought. She had to deliver those to her clients, so I asked her if she wanted to come to my place to try some new shakes, which was 5 mins away from the location. She agreed no hesitation, and the rest was history.
Hang out, have fun and hook up. A man’s job, as I discuss in “How To Be A 3% Man,” is just simply to create an opportunity for sex to happen. So, this woman comes over, the past doesn’t equal the future, she’s expressing interest. He’s like, “Hey, would you like to come over and try some shakes out? And maybe we’ll shake something else out.”
The second success story took a little more work. This girl was much younger than I was at the time. She was a part of my social circle, being the youngest, and was my best friend’s girlfriend’s sister. A beautiful, Latin, petite brunette with a voice so seductive and laugh that would turn any guy on.
She was showing me interest no girl had ever showed me before, and she was in a relationship at the time. She would do numerous subtle things that your book eventually pointed out to me, like ask me tons of questions, always in my orbit, wanting to sit next to me at our social events, even fixed my plate with her boyfriend being there!
Might not be the most faithful and loyal type of woman if she’s hitting on and flirting with another dude in front of her boyfriend. Even if she doesn’t have a lot of respect for him, that’s not good behavior.
During the time, I involved my social circle in the mess with me chasing the Honduran chick, which they became aware of all the weak behaviors I was showing for this girl. This became evident to her and would present a multitude of tests from her when I eventually asked her to hang out. She agreed to a burger joint, but would end up flaking on me twice, one of the times 10 mins before I was supposed to pick her up with her excuse – one of the worst flakes I’ve ever heard, which she texted not called, “It’s too cold outside,” even though we planned on being inside for the date.
So, ten minutes before they’re supposed to go on a date, she said, “Oh, it’s too cold. I’m going to stay inside,”
From then on, I never reached out again, and she eventually asked to hang out for the third time.
If a woman flakes on you ten minutes before the date, even if she reaches out a few weeks later and continues to reach out, you don’t ever bring up getting together again. She has to bring it up first. Otherwise, one of two things will happen. She’ll either quit calling and go away, which that solves the problem, or she brings up getting together, and since she brings up getting together, it’s her idea. And you don’t have to worry about the flake, because it’s something she wanted to do, it was her idea. If a woman’s chasing you, she’s not dumping you or getting rid of you.
This being the final straw, as she tried to change the time of the date from our agreed upon time to an hour later, and instead of holding frame, I became butt hurt and I made up an excuse not to go.
The craziest part of this story is, after that happened, we had another social gathering at her sister’s house, and she eventually would tell all of us she had a date with a guy she didn’t even want to go out with, and literally, she had to be convinced by all of the girls in the circle not cancel on the guy, because he was already on his way. The whole time I’m looking at her like, what the hell is wrong with her. She eventually gave in and decided to go, but this was a slap in the face, because we literally had three dates canceled.
Over the next year and a half, we had several social gatherings, one that always fell on the wrong time because of my business work, so finally I was able to attend one where a few of her friends were present at this gathering as well.
This is coming up to the part I talked about earlier about when a woman is treating you like a second class citizen and there’s other women there, just go hang out with the other women. It’s interesting what happens when you’re not bothered, and then you just go put your time and attention with somebody else.
One of her friends was high key hitting on me, and it was obvious she didn’t like that. On top of that, I wasn’t paying her any attention whatsoever and talking to her friends.
Hey, may the best girl win. If she didn’t see your value, you just move on and keep looking until you find somebody who does see your value.
She eventually caught me alone making my own plate and would ask me awkwardly why I had been ignoring her, instead of answering her question. I answered with, “Aww, you want some attention too?” I asked her to come here, gave her a bear hug, kissed her forehead and said, “Does little sis want some attention too? How sweet.” She began to blush, and said, “Oh, I’m your sister now?” and said, “That’s not a title that I want.” I followed with “What title do you want then?”
Whoever is asking the questions is the person that’s in charge of the conversation. You should always remember that in every social interaction, every job interview, every negotiation, any time you’re trying to influence somebody. If you’re asking the questions, you’re running the conversation. Just keep that in mind.
She bypassed the question and asked, “When can we hang out,” and this time I responded to her with saying, “We can hang out at my place and order some food. When are your free?” She didn’t like the idea of coming to my place saying, “I don’t go to guys’ houses on first dates.”
Now, keep in mind, this is a girl who has canceled three times on him, one of them ten minutes before he was supposed to pick her up. So, somebody like that at this point in the timeline, it’s like, no, you’re not meeting her out, you’re not picking her up, you’re not going out on dates. The only distance that you’re going to be willing to travel is the distance that it takes to go from wherever you are in your house to your front door to let her in.
I responded jokingly saying, “Well, you’ve canceled on me numerous times in the past, so you have to earn me taking you out to dinner.”
That’s a great response.
She responded negatively to the wording “earn,” stating I don’t have to earn anybody’s time, and I smoothly responded with, “Well, I’m not just anybody, so if you decide you want to enter the race,” (hinting that there’s competition), “let me know when you change your mind. You’ve got my number.”
So, instead of her being sweet and being flexible and going along with what he wanted, in a playful way he’s like, you got my number. In other words, guys who didn’t know any better would have agreed and changed the plans, but this is a woman who’s jerked him around and disrespected him multiple times. And if he’s got plenty of options, which obviously he does at this point, then he’s not interested in meeting her out or spending money on her. She can come over and make him dinner and make it up. He’s got the attitude, “Hey, you can make it up to me for the fact you’ve canceled several times, and I’ll still give you a shot as long as you’re nice to me.”
Later during the gathering, one of her friends that came over and who showed interest in me earlier came and sat in my lap during the bonfire, letting everyone know how handsome she thought I was, and we exchanged numbers on the spot.
The man is an equal opportunity seducer. Because he’s got one girl he’s liked for years, and she’s jerked him around. And quite frankly, he’s got history with her and the history is pretty negative. As 3% men, we like women who are nice to us, and who are flexible, and who are givers, and who are excited to spend time with us. And this girl had a crummy attitude.
And so, you’ve got another cute girl, who has no history with him, who sits in his lap and is letting every other girl in the party know how handsome she thinks he is. This is the right way to handle things. If somebody treats you properly, they get the greatest gift you can give them, which is a gift of your time. And if not, they get the gift of missing you. And when they cop an attitude and don’t want to do what you want to do, then you politely say, “No, thank you.”
The same night, on my way home, the girl who claimed she didn’t have to earn my time texted me asking for my address and asked me what I wanted to eat.
Notice how flexible she became. I had similar stories I wrote about in “How To Be A 3% Man.” It’s amazing having other women who want you, how it causes other women who have a bad attitude to all of a sudden mysteriously have an attitude adjustment.
So, not only did she come over, but she brought takeout dinner as well.
Remember, this is a girl that’s blown him off three times. And when she brought up getting together, she still didn’t have the right attitude. He pushed her away and another cute girl sat in his lap. So, what is she seeing? She’s like, “If I don’t snap this guy up, one of these other girls is going to.” It’s obvious, it was happening in front of her.
When she came over it’s like all the sexual tension that was built up over the years was released in one night.
Hang out, have fun and hook up. You can get these mugs at Spring in the Coach Corey Wayne store. I think Teespring is now Spring. For whatever reason, they changed their name, but you can get them at the same place.
She came in the door, laid the food down and then I motioned for her to come to me…
Very masculine. Nicely done.
…and grabbed her by the waist, and pulled her in close, and asked her, “What was that title you wanted, since you don’t want to be little sister?” and immediately you could see the shock in her face, followed by the biggest smile, and we began going to pound town where the sprinklers went off a several times that evening.
So she came like a waterfall. You got that “chocha.”
To no surprise, after only two times of coming over and one date, she’s already asking for a relationship, trying to lock me down.
But you didn’t ask for a relationship, you just hung out, had fun and hooked up. Hmm, interesting. And it’s exactly the opposite of what Hollywood and TV shows us to be doing. Isn’t that interesting?
She told me she liked me for the longest time, but I was so hell bent on one chick, she gave up the interest. Old me would have agreed, but the new me declined, because I want to experience more women before I decide to be monogamous.
Oh, I bet that made her even more frisky, because now she’s got to try even harder to get you. Even though she gave up the box. You’re like, “I’m going to take my time.”
Thank you so much Coach. Never in a million years would I have said some of these daring things that most would consider disrespectful…
Well, it’s just masculinity. It’s what being a man is about. Men are naughty. We’re sexual beings. We all got here through sex, so don’t be embarrassed or ashamed of your desire. Be proud of it, and don’t apologize for it ever.
…set up a date on the spot, or remained calm after a girl’s shit test and not panicked. Your book tells us things are 10x easier when a women’s interest is high, and that is evident in these stories.
Hope to send you more success stories in the future!
Well, great job, dude. Thanks for sharing that detail, because it’s cool to see the progression, how the evening winds and turns. And then you’ve got a woman coming back into your life who had jerked you around a bunch, and you were calm, and how you reacted to it. You weren’t in a rush. You weren’t like, “Oh my God, now I finally got my chance to get in your pants!” You were like, “I am not too sure about you yet. And I think you should come over to my house. I’m not coming over to your house.”
It’s just like, right out of the James Bond movies when the women say, “I’m not having sex with you tonight, James. There’s no way I’m sleeping with you.” And he just smirks, he smiles, because he knows how it’s going to end. He knows it’s going to end in hang out, have fun, hook up, the magic formula.
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