Secrets To Cuffing Season & Why Women Come Back

Understanding the secrets to cuffing season & why women come back.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who provides an update. He was talking to girl he works with and made a date. He proceeded to text her for several days after and then a male friend of hers cockblocked him with her, and several other women he talked to at an event. He also wonders why women from his past start reaching out every year in October & November because it’s happening again.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Secrets To Cuffing Season & Why Women Come Back”.

Well, us 3% men know women are like cats and they always come back. So, this particular email is from a viewer who is providing an update. The last video newsletter of his that I answered was “Why Women Love Jerks And Sleep With Them Anyway”. So, he hasn’t heard from that girl. However, one of the things he said is that every year around October or November he has girls that maybe ghosted him or he was dating and it went sideways. Whatever the reason happened to be, they all seem to start coming out of the woodwork around October and November. He’s like, “I wonder why that is?”.

Well obviously that’s what we call cuffing season. When you think about it, societal pressure, the holidays are coming around, girls are going to be hanging out with their family around Thanksgiving and Christmas. Grandma and grandpa are going to be there, and they’ll be like “So are you dating anyone?” Women don’t want to deal with that. Their family is like, “Are you getting married? Are you going to have any kids? What’s going on?” Women do this in order to have somebody, so they can be like, “Oh, look, here’s Bob. Well, I’ve been seeing Bob. We’re kind of hanging out.” In other words, it keeps grandma and grandpa or your parents from giving you shit.

So, they usually stick around and then after the beginning of the year, everybody kind of goes their separate ways. Because the reality is it’s much nicer to have a cute snow bunny to go with you through the holidays and then you go back to your normal life. That’s why you’ll notice that every year around October and November, it’s the holidays. People don’t want to be single during the holidays. People feel sad and lonely at that time of year. So, girls start going. “Who do I know? That’s a great guy. We could go out. He’d be great to introduce to Mom and Dad or Grandma and Grandpa to get him off my fucking back for the holidays.” But who they don’t have to really seriously commit to or anything. So, that’s why they tend to keep showing back up.

He writes in about something else that happened. There was a girl that he works with whom he ends up making a date with, and then he proceeds to constantly text with her over the next few days because she had called in sick. But apparently there’s a male friend of hers, she’s like, “Oh, say hi to this dude.” and she’s talking to him and so he kind of is not very James Bond like in the way he handles things. He kind of rubs other women in her face, which doesn’t go well. Then on top of that, the male cock blocker who probably likes the girl is acting like a white knight.

So her male friend talked a bunch of shit to this girl that he had the date set with about, “Oh, he was flirting with all these girls there.” and then on top of that at this event, the male friend is going to these other women whom our viewer was talking to saying “Oh, hey, that guy, he’s just trying to get laid. He’s talking to all the girls here and getting numbers.” Because I guess he wasn’t very James Bond like when he got the numbers and instead of recognizing that this guy was a potential bond villain and not a fellow James Bond or secret agent, he was an enemy if you will, that was going to get in the way of his seduction plans. He should have handled things better.

He does write an interesting email because there’s some things that he needs to clean up in his game. Because again, gentlemen don’t kiss and tell. If you’re at a place and you get three different numbers, you don’t want to see the other two girls that you’ve got numbers from seeing you getting a number from a third girl, it’s just best not to rub it in their faces. The sly way to go about it, the James Bond like way is to get those numbers and nobody knows that you even got the numbers. Women love a guy that can be discreet and so if you’re doing things out in the open, especially when you’ve got a bond villain in the room with you, it’s not going to end well.

Think about it from this perspective. As soon as you’ve got a date set with a girl and she says, “Oh, say hi to this male friend of mine.” you’ve got to go, male friend, my ass. That’s some beta male that’s trying to ingratiate himself with her. Who is probably going to keep an eye on you and report back to her, because he desperately wants to sleep with the girl. He’s one of those dudes. It’s not a good friend.

He wants women and he likes women, yet he kind of hides his attraction. Tries to fly under the radar. He’s like a little Judas goat. He’s sabotaging your success in hopes that by tearing other dudes down, that he himself is going to get laid. Which all he does is get blue balls in the friend zone, and then other guys fucking hate his ass and don’t want to hang out with him because he’s a little Judas goat. Kind of like a Mike pence type of person, if you will.

You will definitely encounter men like this. There are dudes that are okay to have in your inner circle, but a guy like this who has no game, again, he should have been assuming that this guy is there to spy on me. To cock block me. What you really need to do is make him an ally, get him to like you. Maybe you can help him meet other girls and then he’ll think you’re awesome. Meanwhile, you could still be getting these other girls’ numbers and when he’s away you can be laughing with the girls at his bad pickup artistry. Because the girls will come and tell you what the guy said and, it’s like “Well, I tried to help him out. I introduced him to you.” And then on top of that, the girls are going to be like, “Why are you not hitting on me? Why are you introducing me to this guy that’s got no game?”

So that’s the way you should be looking at it, because he will talk all the other girls out of dating and sleeping with him. He’s going to think you’re his buddy because you’re trying to help him meet all these other girls there. Meanwhile, when he wasn’t looking or paying attention, you secretly got those girls numbers because they actually will become more attracted to you. Wondering why you’re not hitting on them and why you’re trying to set them up with some dude that’s got no game.

So that’s what should have happened here. But like I said, it’s a good email to learn from because you want to tighten your game. You want to literally be James Bond like. You don’t go rubbing other women in other women’s faces. You’re trying to date and seduce. You want them to wonder if it’s happening or if it’s just rumors. Especially when you’ve got a cock blocker there, that didn’t go over too well. And besides, if you know the book backwards and forwards, you could look at the guy and go, that dude ain’t got no game. He doesn’t know what he’s fucking doing because you hear the shit that comes out of his mouth.

Then when you’re talking to the girls that he’s trying to hit on, maybe you even introduced them, and then walked away to talk to somebody else. When the guy comes up to you, it’s like, “Well, how’d it go?” He’s like, “Well, I got her number.” it’s like, “Oh, that’s awesome. Fist bump.” Meanwhile you’re not going to tell him later on that you’ve got the same girl’s number, because you might have been talking to her an hour or two after and she’s like, “Oh, I gave him my number, but I’m not going to go out with him. He’s just a creep. He’s weird. I just wanted to get rid of him.” You’ll hear things like that.

Women help you when they like you because again, they’re going to wonder, like, why weren’t you hitting on them? And it’s like, “Well, okay, I’ll take your number. We just have to make sure as I’m getting it that, that guy doesn’t see us because I don’t want to deal with any grief. I don’t want him to think that I’m cock blocking him or whatever, because at the end of the day, he ain’t going to listen. We can’t help that guy. We can’t reform his game, but you are kind of cute and we should get together for a drink sometime. It’s just don’t want him to know about it. So, I want to keep things on the down low. So, you can let him think that you’re going to potentially go out with him and he can see that I was trying to help him.” Even though it’s like, hey it’s not my fault he sucks with the ladies. That should be your attitude.

So he says,

Viewer Email:

Hi, Coach.

No update on the girl discussed in the before mentioned video, Why Women Love Jerks And Sleep With Them Anyway,  although in the past I have noticed women who reject me or I reject often come back around in October/November strange the patterns that repeat.

Well, again it’s cuffing season. They don’t want to get shit from their friends and family. Maybe they have a work party, and they want to take a date to the party because they don’t want to show up by themselves. They bring a guy that they like hanging out with, that maybe they like having sex with. Because it’s again, it’s the holidays. They’d rather have somebody to go through the holidays with than nobody at all.

That’s why your exes or girls that dumped you or that you didn’t really click with. They show back up or girls you went out with a few times and you never called again. They just all of a sudden get back in touch. So, you should take that as a compliment and what’s beneficial about this is that it helps put you in an abundance mentality. Because when you’ve got girls coming out of the woodwork, it makes you feel attractive, you feel good about yourself, you smile more, you walk with a little bit more swagger and a little bit more of a spring in your step. Which makes you even more attractive to women and they notice you more. Which when you get one, you can get two and if you’ve got two, you can get 3 or 4 more.

So it makes it easy unlike when you’ve got none, it’s like a pussy embargo. So, these are all good things and again, we’re heading into that time of the year. So, this is why girls are reaching back out to you, whether you rejected them or they rejected you. We’re at the end of October 2026, about a couple of days away from November, so things should really heat up soon, but it typically happens all before Thanksgiving, so you can do Thanksgiving through Christmas and New Years, and then hasta la vista baby at the beginning of the year.

I was recently the lead for a charity event and two days before the event, a girl in my team texted to say she was ill and wouldn’t be able to attend, so I asked if there was anyone I should watch out for who might cause issues or flirt too much. She responded, “Oh, are you planning to flirt with everyone?”

“Well, no, of course not, because I only have eyes for you. But I don’t know, maybe some of these girls are really aggressive, and you need to warn me about them so you can protect me from them. Because I’m an innocent child of God and of course, I only have eyes for you.” That’s the kind of way to handle it. She’d say. “Oh my God, you’re just saying that.” It’s like, “No, seriously, I’m looking forward to seeing you. Too bad you’re sick.”

So he says,

I set up the date and

So I assume it’s a few days later.

She agreed and joked about going on holiday together and after we were texting throughout the weekend when I was free, and her replies were almost instant and she mentioned her friend was the photographer and I should say hi. (He’s a guy)

I’d say, “Well, are you saying you want me to be his wingman and help introduce him to some of the ladies there and help him get a date?” Because again we’re in cuffing season, “Maybe I can help him get a snow bunny. Is that your special request? Are there some girls there that you want me to introduce him to or help him with? Let me know.” Because if you say things like that, then she’s going to tell him, “Oh, this guy’s great. He’s a great wingman. He’ll introduce you to a bunch of the girls there.” That would be the way that I’d handle it. Because again, you want everybody on your side seeing you as an ally. You know it’s the old saying, was it from The Godfather? Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer.

So again, if you get this guy on your side, he’ll be like, “Bob was great. He introduced me and I got three numbers there.” Meanwhile, you might have got the same three numbers as well and he doesn’t know it. Then say later down the road, he’s like, “Yeah, that girl never called me back.” it’s like, “Ah, that’s too bad. I thought you guys really hit it off.” Meanwhile, you were boning her that week and it’s like you don’t need to tell him. Operational security. You’ve got to protect the innocent. So again, you’ve got to think about how you handle these things. That’s how I would have handled it, but he didn’t handle it that way.

He says,

During the event, I was getting a lot of attention from the women flirting and one woman kept coming to me about random little things.

Again, if that dude comes over you can say, “Hey, this is my friend Bob. This is Jessica.” And then you introduce them, and they start talking, and you’re like, “Hey, I’ll be back in a minute.” Then you just excuse yourself and go do something else. After a few minutes, you see him get out his phone and he got the number, then maybe she seeks you out and you’re like, “Cool. I saw you’ve got his number.” And she’s like, “Oh, I just gave him my number to get rid of him.” I’d be like, “Oh, it’s too bad. Seemed like you guys really hit it off. What a bummer.” And then when you see the guy, you’re like, “Hey, Bob, I saw you get that number. Nice job dude. Let me know if there’s anybody else here you want to meet.”

Because if you go introducing Bob, who doesn’t have any good game, but he doesn’t know it and then you introduce him to all of these cute girls there. Again, the cute girls will be like, “Why aren’t you hitting on me? Why are you introducing me to that guy?” It’s like, “What? he said, you were cute” and you’re like, “Well, okay. I’ll take your number, but when I get your number, we’ve got to do it in a way where he doesn’t see and nobody else knows about it. So, it’s got to be between you and I. We got to be like James and Jane Bond. So, if we could do that, that’d be cool. So, we need to do it in a sly way and there’s not going to be any kissy poo, at least not out in the open. Maybe there’s a broom closet you want to pull me into. Maybe we could do that, but nobody can know. We’ve got to protect the innocent. I mean, how is that a good thing? I introduced him to you, and you’re giving me your number because you want to go home with me. It’s like I don’t want to make my friend feel bad but if it’s going to happen between you and I, it’s our little secret,” Which is the way it should be.

We were chatting in the main hall while the raffle was being drawn, and I could see some of the other male volunteers watching me from across the room which is normal especially when talking to a beautiful lady. But after the event, the original girl who was ill stopped messaging.

Why are you pursuing? You’ve got a date set. I wouldn’t have been doing that. The phone is for setting dates, remember that dude.

And forty-eight hours later the day of the date, I got the “I don’t think you’re right for me” text.

I would have been like, “What? What are you talking about? I think we should get together and have a drink and see what happens.” It’s like, “What do you mean? Why would you say that?”

I responded with, “That’s a massive change from the weekend, but ok.”

I would have had a better, more playful comeback. It’s like, “I think we’re perfect together. We look great together. Even people say that. So why would you say that? You having a little doubt? Are you worried that I’m going to think you’re not a good kisser?” She’ll be like, “Well, no. I heard you were flirting with all these girls there.” It’s like, “No, I was actually trying to hook your friend Bob up with them. He got a few numbers, but some of the girls afterwards told me they just gave him the number to get rid of them. Please don’t ever tell him that but I did everything I could to help him.” She’d say “Well, he said you were a jerk and you were hitting on all of the girls.” It’s like, “Well, I know Bob, is your friend. He’s not really your friend though. What he’s really trying to do is get in your pants. So, he’s kind of making things up and it’s kind of disappointing that Bob would say that, because I tried to be a good wingman to him.” Again, if you’d have handled it from the get go like I said, Bob would have been like, “Oh, you should definitely go out with Corey. He’s a great guy. He helped me get three numbers!” He would have been totally stoked about that.

Meanwhile, you got the same three numbers, and you went out with all three of those girls, and he went out with none but he doesn’t need to know. It’s a need to know basis, and he doesn’t need to know that. I mean, at the end of the day, if Bob doesn’t have any good game his female friend, she knows it as well and you guys can have a good laugh about it.

These things just come with time. That’s why obviously me going through these emails can be very helpful to see how you deal with these high pressure situations, because you never want to let a woman see you sweat. You never want to get backed into a corner. You don’t want to get upset. You certainly don’t want to go “That is a massive change from the weekend, but okay.” You don’t say anything like that. You say, “What are you talking about? Why would you say that? I think we will make a cute couple. That’s why we should get together. I’m looking forward to seeing you tonight.” And she says, “Well, I don’t think it’s a good idea that we go.” It’s like, “I think it’s a great idea. Let’s go and we can talk about it.” because if you know her and you work together, I assume he had her address and he was going to go pick her up. It’s like, “Great, we can talk about it tonight. It’ll be a lot of fun. I look forward to seeing you.”

But again, if you had handled it from the get go, like I would have handled it, this would have never been an issue. It would never have come up. She’d even be like “Oh, I can’t wait to see you later.” But the problem was he wasn’t very friendly to Bob, and Bob was jealous that the emailer was talking to all these other girls and again, he doesn’t have any game, doesn’t understand what’s happening. He’s trying to cock block him pretty successfully, I must add.

The next day she texted to say, “Why did I think it was okay-

Oh, let me do the girl voice.

“Why did I think it was okay to flirt with others when I was texting her?”

It’s like, “Honey, they were coming up to me. What am I supposed to say? I mean, I was trying to hook your buddy Bob up with them, but, you know, the more I tried to steer them to him, the more aggressive they became. So, I can’t help it if these ladies want my sexy body but you have my heart. Of course I want to see you. We have a date.” But it sounds like this was the day after, so the date had already been cancelled, so the damage was kind of done.

I asked her what she meant but never heard back.

I would have done nothing.

So I reached out to a guy on my team who told me that a guy had gone around to the girls and told them to be careful, because apparently I was just there to get laid.

So you had some Judas goats out there. Again, this is why you want to be discreet. You don’t want to be seen getting numbers. Everybody can see you talking to the girls and you just look like a friendly guy. So, if you’re going to get a phone number, make sure it’s done out of sight. Because again, what happens in the movies, it’s like they leave, they go to the broom closet, they go to a different room, they go out different entrances or exits and then they meet back up somewhere else.

So you’ve got to think about these things, dude. You’re in a public environment. You know there’s Judas goats out there because again, you know about the friend, and you know about all these other guys that were looking at you talking to these girls and they’re probably all getting jealous. You could have handled it the same way with them, you go over and talk to them “Oh, you’re talking to that girl. She’s really pretty.” They’re like, “Yeah, she’s really hot.” Your like, “Well, I’ll introduce you.” and again, the more you introduce other guys, the girls are going to be like, what about us?

That’s why if you’re out or you’re talking to a couple girls from the office and you’re like, “Hey, where’s a great place for a single guy to go and meet some cute single ladies. Who are single and ready to mingle?” You say that to a couple of women, whether it’s at work or out and about, and they’re like, “Uh, what about us? Hello?” Especially if they’re really hot, they’re going to think, “Why doesn’t he think we’re hot? Like, doesn’t he know I have a magic pussy?” That’s the response you want to evoke.

Women like a guy that’s a challenge. Guys that have plenty of choices and plenty of options don’t have to rub other women in their face. You must be mysterious enough to where women are wondering “Is there somebody else? I know he was talking to all those girls.” It’s like, “Well I wasn’t getting any numbers? I wasn’t trying to get anybody’s number.” Now, you may have given your number out. You said, “Well, take my number and hit me up.”

He says.

I suspect it was the photographer and he likely wants her, but pretends to be her friend.

Yep. So again, I would have handled it completely differently, but you live and learn. I did the same shit I got burned by guys just like this that cock blocked me. I also got backed into the corner by the girl and I didn’t have a better, more playful comeback. If I could go back in time knowing what I know now, then it’d be different. But that’s life. So, you have the ability to learn from these things, so you don’t make the same mistakes.

So I left it there and obviously she was insecure to cancel a date after hearing I flirted with someone else when we had  been texting less than a few days. But as I’m losing weight, getting into better shape, and not accepting bad behavior, I’m getting more guys who think we’re competing.

Well again, it’s much more helpful if you get them on your side. You make them perceive you as one of their wingmen. Because if you know the book backwards and forwards, you can size them all up and go; I’m going to introduce all these guys to the cutest girls that I like here because they’re not going to fucking get anywhere. Then that’s going to make the girls like me more because they’re going to wonder why I’m not hitting on them. Maybe I have a girlfriend or whatever. They’re going to wonder why. I become more attractive because they think, “Why didn’t he pick me? Why has he introduced me to this douche?” That’s what you want them thinking, but these are just little subtle tweaks.

The most annoying things they do is literally slowly move in front of me to box me out of the conversation, ask me for a girl’s number after they see me get it.

It’s like see, again that shouldn’t be happening. They shouldn’t see you get anybody’s number.

And call me insecure when I won’t give it to them or try to one up me and everything.

Again, if you’re introducing these guys to the cute girls, that’s a better way to go about it and get the numbers discreetly. Then everybody’s going to think you’re awesome. Meanwhile, they have no idea what’s really happening because nobody knows James Bond is James Bond. They don’t know he’s a secret agent. They just think he’s a charming guy that everybody likes except the bad guys, because he likes to fuck with the bad guys and troll them.

So that’s why you’re going to troll this guy. You’re going to be like, that guy ain’t no friend to that girl. He’s trying to get into her pants. He’s got no game. So let me use this to my advantage. I’m going to get him on my side, and he’s going to think I’m his ally and his friend. I’m just going to introduce him to these girls and let him do all the flailing around and fucking up and turn these girls off and drive them all to me. He’ll think, “This guy’s great. He introduced me to a bunch of girls. He’s awesome.” That’s what you want. Then if he saw you talking to everybody, you’re like, “Yeah, I like to play matchmaker. I’m introducing all these guys to all these girls.” You do it with all the dudes there and now you’re like the fucking man about town. They’re going to be buying you drinks and want to hang out with you. That’s what you want.

Meanwhile behind the scenes, nobody knows it because you keep your fucking mouth shut, you’re fucking all those girls or all the hottest ones that you like. Then the girls will do the blabbering and when you get confronted about that, you’re like, “I don’t know what you’re talking about. That sounds like a conspiracy theory. I’m an innocent child of God, and even if I was or did, I would never kiss and tell because again, I’m an innocent child of God. But you look pretty cute in that dress. We can get together later. I’ll give you a chance. I can’t promise anything, but I’ll give you a chance.” That’s the way you should be. That’s the difference that makes a difference, it’s subtle.

Are we seeing more guys who are insecure and act this way or am I in a transition phase and not yet in the 3%, but on the way?

That’s a totally true statement. You’re in the transition phase. You’re starting to see the code of the matrix all around you but you’re not yet moving with ease. You’re still getting tripped up by the Agent Smiths that are in the matrix. So again, you become their ally and wingman, and they think you’re on their side. When you understand women, you’re happy to introduce other guys because it has an amazing effect on the women because they wonder like, “Why the fuck are you not hitting on me? Why are you not asking for my number?” And oftentimes they’ll come up and ask you for your number, which again makes it easier. You’re not going to do this in front of other people. It just happens and it’s between you and the individual girls. If you do it right, even the girls that are all at the party, none of them know that they each got and gave you their number. That’s ideally how you want it.

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