In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss three different email success stories from three different viewers. The first email is from a viewer whose last email I discussed in my video newsletter, “New Job, Purpose, Girl, Attitude & Life.” In this latest update he details what happened with the two different women he was involved with in his last email to me. The second email success story is from a viewer who details how he met and slept with the hottest woman he’s ever been with at a recent SXSW conference. The third email success story is from a viewer who details how reviewing the chapter in my book on seduction before a second date he was having with a new woman enabled him to overcome her tests, last minute resistance and seduce her successfully. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the bodies of their emails.
First Viewer’s Email:
Hi Corey,I was the second emailer in the video titled “New Job, Purpose, Girl, Attitude & Life.” We had a great date. We went to dinner, then bowling. Bowling was to interact by touching if dinner went well. (The whole purpose of a seduction, like I talk about in the book, is to get closer and closer to a woman until you end up inside of her. The dates are really about bonding, connecting, conversation and creating an opportunity where, as she feels more attractive and more safe and comfortable as the evening progresses, and you give her the vibe that you’re really interested in who she is as a human being, and not just trying to get into her pants, she’ll feel more safe and comfortable and start to get closer to you to the point where she’ll be touching you in many cases. When that starts to happen, it’s pretty easy.)
Everything went well, and she invited me back to her place. You were correct in assessing that she may hook up on the first date. (I would say there was a high level of attraction on her part.) However, over a small handful of dates, her values and mine were not aligned, and I kept to dating the other girl.
I love to hike and drag race. The other girl eventually asked me to be exclusive, and I have been with her ever since. She says things like “this is so easy with you,” and “you are way different than the other guys I dated.” (Remember the quote by Thich Nhat Hanh, “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” That goes with all aspects of dating and seduction, because when you give the person freedom to come and go, they’ll actually want to be around you more.)
She enjoys her freedom with me. I find that she tells me everything she is doing. (A woman who has a high level of trust and who knows you’re not going to lose your shit when she tells you about other guys that may have hit on her, because you’re totally comfortable and confident in your masculinity and your value proposition to her, is going to want you to know these things. And the reason she tells you is because she wants you to know that she’s being loyal.) I never ask. I just say, “have a great time sweetheart.” Everything is going very well. Thank You so much Corey!!
P.S. I still read the book and watch your videos. (It’s all about the fundamentals. When you’re trying to learn this stuff, make it a part of you, so you get to a place where you don’t have to think about it anymore. That’s why I say read the book 10-15 times. And it doesn’t just entail reading the book, but also applying it.)
Second Viewer’s Email:
Hey Corey,I read your book twice, watched several videos and learned a lot from you. I met this super hot woman at SXSW last week. I didn’t let her beauty intimidate me, set a date, let her do most of the talking, made a move to kiss, magic. LOL. All things I learned from you. Hottest girl I’ve been with. (You were looking for the signs she was interested. You just have to look for the subtle cues, and they’re there. When you know what to look for, it makes it so fucking easy. It just eliminates rejection.)
She definitely tested me, a lot at first when she noticed my attraction. Setting the date and not following her, as she wanted, changed the dynamic. I was laughing inside as I saw all the rules and principals working in my favor. (Again, my book teaches you about body language and what to look for.)
Third Viewer’s Email:
I was about to go out on a second date with a really beautiful young woman, so I decided to listen to some of your audio book for the fifth time on the drive over. (Work smarter, not harder.) I never really know what kernel of wisdom I’ll get out of a random chapter, but I wound up listening to the chapter on sex.After dinner and drinks at a second location, I used your “grab a bottle of wine and go back to your place” line. (Obviously, things were going well. In order for a seduction to happen, you’ve got to have some privacy. You’ve got to have a place you go.)
We did so, and watched a documentary on her bed, cuddled up. I was a little confused because she seemed to be a bit shy and reserved when I would make small, seductive moves such as caressing and eventually going in for a kiss or two. (You’re focused on getting laid. The whole point is, she’s got to feel safe and comfortable. If things aren’t moving fast enough for you, then obviously you have to look at it from the perspective of, you’re probably trying to move things way too fast for her, especially as you’re noticing she’s not really that receptive. It takes time.)
There were a couple times when I really thought she wasn’t into it, and I was considering leaving and just trying again on a third date. (At the end of the day, she’s invited you over and you’re in her bed. Well, if you’re in her bed, you should be waking up in her bed in the morning. The long game is, you’re going to be together all night. You’ve got all night with this amazing girl. What’s the rush?)
However, your advice in the chapter on sex was to not rush things. (Two steps forward, and one step back, as I talk about in the book.) Kiss, caress, massage, and then pull away, each time getting a little closer and stirring her up a bit more. (It’s like charging the battery on your phone. The longer you leave it in, the more charge it gets. It’s kind of the same thing with building that sexual tension and sexual energy. You’re giving her the space to come and go, to kiss, to come close, to pull away, just like a cat would. No matter what happens, you’re not bothered. At the end of the day, you’re in her house, in her bed. As long as she’s not kicking you out of her bed, you’ve still got a chance to seduce her.)I did that, and we actually fell asleep a couple times, but each time we woke up, we got a little closer and more passionate. (You took your time. A guy who didn’t know any better would have gotten pissed off and left. He would’ve said, “What’s wrong?” and she would have said, “Well, you can go sleep on the couch tonight.” But instead, you acted like a guy who’s been with women thousands of times. You were okay, because you knew eventually, with enough talking and enough bonding, she was going to open up to receive your strength.)
As you wrote, sex is the man’s fault and so me waiting around for her to make an obvious move or give me an invitation was a mistake. I had to take the lead. (Take the lead, but also, when you run into resistance, be okay with backing off. That communicates to her that no matter what happens, when she’s alone with you, she can put the brakes on any time, and you’ll respect that. That makes her feel safe and comfortable, and it actually causes her to open her legs up to you, versus you trying to force things.)
By 4 a.m. this morning, I had removed each article of her clothing and was enjoying her incredible body. (That’s the beauty of it. You got to enjoy every delicious inch of her body. If you had been in a rush, you wouldn’t. Instead, you spent several hours building up to it.) I just had to take the lead and take it slow. (Thanks for sending in a really great success story that illustrates the point.)
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“The art of seduction is mastered by learning how to read a woman’s body language, resistance, attraction, receptivity and openness to being seduced. A man who is a great seducer is not attached to the outcome of sex, but to enabling a woman to feel safe and comfortable to come and go in his presence as she pleases. When she offers resistance, he knows to slow down, back up and continue conversation and bonding. When women feel heard, understood and valued, the legs tend to open. When they do not, the legs tend to close. Men must lead their interactions, but also be infinitely patient enough to allow women to open slowly to them at their own pace for a seduction to be effortless and natural.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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