
Why you should avoid selfish garbage humans with no sense of honor or loyalty.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is separated from his wife for 10 months and says it’s over. He recently started sleeping with a married female friend from high school who really likes him. However, she lives with her boyfriend and they attended his wedding together.
She’s unhappy and he thinks he’s going to have a happy ending with her like in the movies. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
It’s going to be a little bit of a roasting in this video. You never mow another man’s lawn. Like, come on! You don’t want to end up in a Hialeah divorce.
So this particular email is from a viewer who has been separated from his wife for 10 months. He says it’s over and he recently started sleeping with a married female friend of his from high school, who apparently really likes him. However, she has a boyfriend that she lives with. On top of that, she and her boyfriend actually attended this guy’s wedding with him and his now ex-wife-to-be. So they obviously know both these people as a couple, and now he’s boning her. It’s like, “What the fuck?” So she’s like, “Oh, I’m unhappy in my relationship,” and, he’s thinking he’s going to have a happy ending, like in a Disney movie or something like that.
You should never mow another man’s lawn. If a woman comes on to you, you say, “I feel the same way, but you’re in a relationship. I don’t want you to leave for me. I would want you to leave because you’re not happy, and if I’m still single and available and you leave and you become single, we can go on a date.” That’s how you should handle a situation like this, but what does he do?

Viewer Email:
Hi Coach Corey,
I’ve been separated from my wife for 10 months now. I’d say she falls into the “Not stable” category of women, so your advice from 3% Man would not apply to my situation and have given up on her.
Well, it applies to normal, healthy women, not a fruit loop. If you married a fruit loop, well you got a vet better the next time around, and quite frankly, fucking a woman who lives with her boyfriend is really not the best way to start a relationship, because once a cheater, always a cheater. If she cheats on him, she’ll cheat on you when she’s not happy. Doesn’t matter if you’ve known her since high school. Character is destiny, and you can’t ignore things like that.
In the movies, what do you see? This beautiful girl who’s got this jerk of a husband or a boyfriend who doesn’t appreciate her. Then there’s some beta male who comes along who gets to know her, he likes her, she likes him, she tells him about her crappy relationship, they start hanging out together. Maybe there’s a breakup and it looks like they’re going to get together. Then something happens. She goes back to the ex or whatever, he’s heartbroken, and then eventually something happens. She finally leaves the guy and they ride off into the sunset together in marital bliss or infatuated bliss, and live happily ever after. At least that’s what happens in the movies, but in real life, she cheats on him with you, she’ll cheat on you with somebody else when she’s not happy because you validated it. You communicated to her you were totally OK with her being a liar and a cheater.
No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. So by sleeping with her, when she’s with another man, you’re inviting her to potentially cheat on you. Now, typically if a woman, like if you do everything right and you keep her in love, she’ll probably be loyal and faithful, but when you slip up, she’s not happy and it’s been going on for a period of time, she’ll just start fucking somebody else. Again, that’s what she’s doing.
I’ve only read the book a couple times and honestly have not been wanting to pursue women right now, but appreciate your insight and wisdom.
Never mow another man’s lawn, dude.
For some background, I’m a 41-year-old male, six feet, 183 pounds. I’ve focused on improving myself the past 10 months. I weight lift 4-5 times a week, lost 95 pounds and currently at the weight I was at in my early 20s. I’m more muscular, leaner and stronger than I’ve ever been.
Well congratulations, dude! That’s awesome!
I’ve been running a small business on the side that I’m trying to grow. I’m also a father to two young boys, working seven days a week at a full time and part time job. I want to be the best role model I can be for my boys.
Uh, dude, fucking a chick who lives with her boyfriend is not really a good example for your boys. You’re just teaching your boys how to be a ratchet human by doing that. Character is destiny. You just basically are teaching your boys that it’s OK to be disloyal, it’s OK to engage with cheaters and liars. What do you think is going to happen when they grow up? They’re going to model what you’re doing. Would you want your kids getting involved with somebody that cheats? Probably not. You’d probably think it’s probably better that they don’t, but yet you’re doing it. A leader leads by example. So this is the example you’re setting for your boys. You claim that you want to be the best role model you can be, yet you’re mowing another man’s lawn. You’re falling down there, dude. You got to do better.

My problem is, I’ve attracted the attention of a female friend from high school. She’s always been there for me and we’ve been friends for 25 years. There’s been some flirting back and forth during that time, but nothing really ever happened. I’d say she’s a nine or even 10/10 on the level of interest she has for me, especially as of late.
Well, if you’re telling me it’s a 10 out of 10, that means she’s head over heels in love with you, wanting to be your girlfriend and have your children. I don’t think she’s there yet, so you are definitely overrating her interest in you. It might be a seven or an eight, but it’s not a 10 out of 10. That’s kind of delusional.
She lives an hour away but has gone out of her way to visit about five times already the past month or so. She has a boyfriend she lives with and has been together the past eight years, they even were at my wedding.
That’s a shitty thing to do, man. You’re trying to set a good example for your boys? Like, how can you possibly think that’s setting a good example? Come on man! Seriously.
Their relationship, she depicts as not really going anywhere further.
Well, at the end of the day, she still lives with them.
It’s not my place to get in between that and her and I recently hooked up. I’m torn. Part of me feels wrong to continue to pursue this. I also don’t want or feel ready for anything serious, but see myself having feelings for her as this continues.
You’re welcome for the dog bark there…
Well, when life throws you lemons, you make lemonade, right? You gotta roll with the punches. We get drilling on the slab, we get horns from boats, we get all kinds of things, trains when I used to live in Orlando and downtown.
I do love the admiration she gives me and the feminine energy I get from her. It feels amazing, I won’t lie. Quite the opposite that I received from my wife the past couple years. I’m not sure how I should proceed with this. Just play it out day-to-day and see what happens? Any advice?
Thank You,
Bob
Well, I would just say, “Look, I really like you and I like hanging out with you. I like making love to you, but at the end of the day, you still live with your boyfriend, you live an hour away, and I’ve been knowing something and it’s just not right to continue. I mean, I know your boyfriend. So if you’re not happy, you should leave him. Not for me, but because you’re not happy. If you’re not at the place where you’re ready to leave him, then I just can’t get involved. I already made a mistake by getting involved with you. It’s just wrong. I don’t want to get involved with somebody that lives with their boyfriend. That’s not a good example to set for my children.” That’s what you should say, and that’s what you should do. Then tell her that, unless she’s single, it’s just really inappropriate for the two of you to be talking and getting together. It’s just not cool.
So say, “I’d love to explore things with us, but as long as you live with your boyfriend, I just can’t get involved. It’s just wrong.” That’s what you should do. That’s the right thing to do. That’s the honorable thing to do. Just thinking, “Hey, I’ll just keep hanging out and fucking her,” probably what will end up happening is she’ll stay with the boyfriend, probably because he’s paying half the rent and she probably thinks, “Well, if I left, then I’d have to get my own place.” It’s bills, maybe they own the house together, I don’t know. I don’t know what the situation is, but if you keep fucking her, you’re basically her side piece, and more than likely, what’s the motivation for her to leave? She can just drive an hour away, fuck you, then go back to her boyfriend and pretend that everything’s great. Her bills get paid and she escapes on the weekends or whatever to be with you. Eventually the boyfriend is going to figure it out. Eventually, he’ll figure out that it’s you, and what happens when he figures out that your bone and his girlfriend, he’s probably not going to like that. So I don’t want to see you end up in the evening news in a Hialeah divorce. Don’t mow another man’s lawn. This is just wrong, dude. If you keep doing what you’re doing, she’ll probably never leave him and then you’ll get all caught up, wrapped up and emotional, and then you’ll be stuck in friend-zone. Or worse, you’ll be an occasional booty call, and then your personal life will be totally on hold.

Again, that’s not a good example to set for your kids. I would back off, I would politely disengage, tell her that you would love to continue seeing her and making love to her, but only if she’s actually single. So tell her to focus on her relationship or resolve it, and if she’s ever single in the future to definitely reach out, but at this point, it’s just inappropriate for the two of you to be in touch because you don’t want to be the side piece. You don’t want to be a guy that’s fucking some other dude’s girl. You got to have some integrity, dude, because again, you got two boys that are expecting you to set a good example and quite frankly, what you’re doing with her is a shitty example. It’s just not good, because then you’re going to teach your kids to grow up and be dickheads as well, and you don’t want your children or your boys to grow up and become men boning some other guy’s girl and then end up in a divorce. It’s a bad way to go.
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