Sex, Seduction & Sexual Anticipation

How to use humor, patience, charm, playful banter and sexual anticipation to successfully seduce and have great sex with women you are dating or in a relationship with.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who did a masterful job of seducing a woman he met one evening recently at a nightclub. He says he has read my book ten to fifteen times, is thirty years old, in great shape and makes a six-figure income. He shares how he used the non-attached approach I teach in my book and videos, the principle of abundance and like attracts like, to interact with three different women all in the same evening.

Two of the women are roommates and bisexual. He hung back and let things happen naturally, instead of trying to force things. He details exactly what he did and said to build sexual attraction and anticipation, which resulted in him going home with one of the women and having sex with her twice that night, once in the morning when they woke up, and a fourth time when she took him back to his place after breakfast. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.

Coach,

I wanted to take a minute to reach out and detail the success I’ve had over this past weekend. I’ve read the book at least 10 -15 times, and this should be evident in what I’m about to outline. I’m 30 years old, fit, pull close to $100k, and just started my own business on the side. I’ve been following you for about a year. I know this email may seem long, but I had to share this success story, and I hope you find this relevant enough to share in a YouTube video, because I think there are a few tricks in here some guys could use to have in their arsenal. (I think it’s wonderful you want to share what you’ve learned with your community.)

I got a girl’s number the previous weekend, and set up a date with her for Friday on Monday. She reached out Thursday and mentioned she got sick at work. I’m not an idiot and could read between the lines, so I cancelled the date on the spot and gave her a hard time about not wanting her germs. (That’s a great, humorous, playful way to tease her.) I told her I’d reach out sometime the following week to see what was good. (I would have hit the ball back into her court, instead of telling her you you would follow up with her the next week, because you want to make sure she really wants to spend time with you.) Friday night I was out at the club and low and behold, she texted me telling me she was at the same club, was “feeling much better” and wanted to hang. She’s 22 years old, and is an absolute smoke show. We hung out most of the night — a lot of making out. We went to an after party afterwards, and I let her leave on her own accord. I wasn’t too pressed about sealing the deal, as I found she was kind of annoying, ha-ha. I was honestly having more fun with the 42-year old woman I was with earlier in the night, but lost her in the shuffle. The difference in maturity level and personality really makes a big difference on my level of attraction towards a woman. (She’s young, so she probably doesn’t have as much life experience.)

The following night represented even more success. I was able to meet two girls I hadn’t met before, who are roommates, through a Facebook group I started in my area for music events that has close to 500 people in it. Through Facebook Messenger, I told them to come to me, instead of me going to them. (Perfect. That’s exactly what you’re supposed to do.) They did, I recognized them instantly, and introduced myself. We ended up hanging out most of the night, and I really hit it off with one of them. We’ll call her Player 1. Whenever her eyes met mine, I would never break her gaze, and I was always being flirty and fun, winking and raising my eyebrows every chance I got. (Hang out, have fun and hook up. You’re in the having fun phase, which makes her feel safe and comfortable.) Nonverbal communication and owning your shit is everything. Her and I were having fun, but come to find out, her and her roommate, Player 2, are bisexual, and before you know it, I was having to split my attention between the both of them.

Eventually, Player 1 and I went back to her place. Player 2 decided last minute to drop out of the game and go somewhere else, so no threesome this time, but I was told that would certainly happen at a later date. It didn’t bother me either way. (You have a take it or leave it attitude. You are with the woman who resonates with you more.) I was going home with the one I wanted from the get go, so what happened next was really interesting. Player 1 and I got back to her place, and the conversation was just flowing so naturally, and it had been all night. We spent some time just hanging out and enjoying each others company, making out here and there and shooting the shit. It felt SO comfortable. I’ve never had that happen with a woman. (That’s your birthright dude. It’s the way it’s supposed to be — easy and effortless.) I told her jokingly that I don’t think I had ever drawn out the sex so long with a girl, but she was so cool, I couldn’t help but to keep hanging out and talking with her because her personality is just that awesome. Eventually, we did go to the bedroom and had two rounds of the Olympics.

We woke up in the morning and hit the Olympics again. She drove me 30 minutes to my apartment, and we stopped to get coffee and breakfast. I paid, and again we spent more time just chatting and enjoying each others company. We got to my place, and I showed off a few of my hobbies, and again, of course, another round of the indoor Olympics. (It’s easy and effortless, and just naturally happening.) I know you say you shouldn’t set up dates while you are on a date, but I broke this rule and here’s why. I occasionally have a hard time getting off when having sex, not a bad problem to have, and not one time in the 4 times we played I did not get off. (That tells me you’re probably jerking off too much dude.) This was driving her wild. She wanted it SO bad, (Women think, if a man doesn’t come, he’s not into her. It’s a challenge for a woman to get you off), and I wanted to give it to her, so I challenged her to no masturbation for the week for either of us, so the next time we did play, I would be able to give her exactly what she wanted. (At the end of the day, she probably had several orgasms. Women like guys who are good in bed and know how to get them off.) She IMMEDIATELY accepted the challenge, and we have plans to go on a date this Friday. I did this to ramp up her attraction and make her think about me every time she wants to masturbate. Additionally, I added to the challenge that there will be no sex until AFTER our date on Friday, (You’re building sexual anticipation), so I can ramp up and escalate things even further while we’re out and about. The stream of events made it feel like we went on a TON of dates… meeting at the club, going to her place, going to breakfast, and then heading to my place. (I talk about that in my book. If you go to two or three different places with a woman, it feels fun and she’ll feel more comfortable.) That added to me not feeling out of place about scheduling a next meet up on the spot.

As I’m writing this, she’s sending me sexy photos of herself in sexy lingerie, and reminding me that I’m not allowed to touch myself until Friday. I also had additional success with more women at a bar on Sunday, and got 3 different numbers, but I won’t bore you with all those details. (You are in a place of abundance.)

Things with Player 1 were amazing in the bedroom, but just as amazing, or even more amazing, outside of that. It just felt so effortless, easy, and comfortable with her. Real recognizes real, and like attracts like. Coach, if this is the kind of shit you talk about in your videos, I have to say I’ve finally experienced it. (Yes, this is how men and women are naturally supposed to interact together. It just effortlessly flows.) Thanks so much for your work and helping me take myself to the next level.

Cheers,

Bob

“When human beings have to work really hard to obtain something they really want, or have to wait for something they really desire, they tend to appreciate and value it much more than something that comes easily. When it comes to sex, seduction, sexual attraction and sexual anticipation, waiting and taking your time always pays enormous dividends and makes for a much more memorable, enjoyable and fulfilling experience. When you really take the time to make a lover feel like you care about them, desire them, are infinitely patient and enjoy every delicious second of making love to them, you can create a sensual experience and memory that will last a lifetime. The better your experiences are in life, the more satisfying your memories will be when you look back on your life as you get older. Great memories and experiences make it impossible to have or feel anything but gratitude for the delicious gift that life is.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne