What you should focus on if you are a man, in order to move into your masculine, if you have mostly been in your feminine in your relationship, so you can take your power back, create sexual polarity and cause your woman to get out of her masculine and into her natural feminine essence.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is a fifty-five year old male. He first found my work this past February after his wife left him and moved back to her home country of Mexico. He’s gotten back in shape and grown his business from only himself, into five people in a matter of months. He also moved to a beautiful town full of active people. He is dating several beautiful women who are much younger than he is. One of them is only twenty-two! He and his ex-wife to be have had almost no contact with each other for the past sixteen months. Recently, she came back to Canada to get her things. However, he is not the same “pussy” that he used to be.
Now she wants to salvage their marriage, since she has noticed his masculine transformation. He is open to this, but the problem is that she has always been in her masculine, since he was previously in his feminine most of the time. He wants to know what he can do to get her to move into her feminine and do the same kind of work on herself that he has done on himself. Until she does, he has no interest in rekindling their romance since her being in her masculine is so unattractive to him. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I found your work last February, and I’ve now read your book 6 times in its entirety, re-read some parts countless times, and I watch your videos daily. DAMN, IT WORKS!!! Every time! I’m a 55-year old male. I’ve gotten back in shape. I’ve changed my one-man business into a 5-person show. I’ve moved to a beautiful town full of active people. I can now walk through a bar or mall or wherever and ‘see’ interest. No drama, easy. I’m dating several women, including a knockout 22-year old. Physically, she has what I like, but the connection probably won’t be a forever one, LOL. (Most guys get to their 50’s and think that it’s all over for them. I salute you for being one of the rare guys who is willing to do whatever it takes to make changes.) A beautiful young mom of 2 precious little girls has shown interest, and so far, I’m letting her come to me! What a feeling, so easy. She is everything on my list! (Good for you. Keep doing that, and keep dating other women.)My question is regarding my soon to be ex-wife. She left me and moved back to her home in Mexico 16 months ago. (As I discuss in my article and video, “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back,” since she is the one who left you, she has to be the one making all of the effort to rekindle things. She has to do all of the calling, texting and pursuing to earn another chance with you.) We had almost no contact during this period, except for two attempts to salvage things last spring. Last week, she came back to Canada to get her things and see her friends. We met twice while she was here. And now she is very confused. Apparently she saw a huge difference in me. (You’re a completely different dude now.) Thanks again, Mr. Wayne! She wrote me that she wants to save our marriage, but with my new knowledge of what a healthy relationship must be, I can’t entertain that idea. She needs to change how she is. (You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. You can’t force it upon her. You’re in the strongest negotiating position, because now she wants another chance with you.) To be brief, she carries herself completely in her masculine, and of course, I used to be in my feminine. Now I am not that pussy. Basically, there are 2 men in the room, and that kills any attraction for me. (Yeah, there’s no sexual polarity. It can be incredibly unattractive when a woman acts like a man.) Where can she go to learn and understand femininity? (Get her a copy of “The Way Of The Superior Man” by David Deida, and a copy of my book.) I’ve suggested she read your book. (At the end of the day, it’s not your job to fix her.) Is there a similar book just for women to learn how to be women? (There’s a great website by Christian Carter, Catch Him & Keep Him, that helps women create attraction. Also check out Matthew Hussey’s work.)
Thanks again for your advice and help. It has actually, completely changed my life! (You need to spell out, very specifically, what your terms are and what you expect from her in order for you to even be willing to give her another chance. Some women are not going to be open to change, and if that’s the case, don’t waste your time dude. Again, it’s not your job to fix her. She’s got to participate in her own rescue.)
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“In order to create sexual attraction and polarity in any adult sexual relationship, one person must be in their natural masculine essence, and the other in their natural feminine essence. Without it, sexual attraction, polarity and interest in sex will evaporate. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself and being in your natural essence, you will make yourself more attractive to your lover or potential lovers.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne