She Asked If I Was A Male Feminist. Should I Date Her?

How to know if a woman who says she’s a feminist is worth the trouble to date.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who got approached on a multiple occasions by a woman who claims to be a feminist at a bar he frequents. She seemed to be trolling him and asked if he thought men could be feminist.

He thinks she’s interested, but he wonders if it’s wise to try dating her because he’s had bad experiences with feminists in the past. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Sounds like this guy ran into a woke woman, or maybe she was just trolling him. He sounds kind of robotic and very clinical in the way he writes. Like, very matter of fact. He sounds like somebody that used to be in the military.

So he’s got a bar that he frequents. Multiple times, this woman kind of came up to him. He thinks she’s interested. So she was kind of asking about if he was a feminist or a male feminist, or if he believes men can be feminist. Obviously he said no, I guess he dated some other women in the past that claim to be feminist, and that didn’t go too well. So he’s like, “Is this chick even worth the trouble?”

There was a video that I did, it was probably several years ago at this point. The title of it is I Was A Man Hating Feminist, But Corey Wayne Changed My Life! This woman actually wrote in used to be the green haired girl, the feminist. I guess she was involved in some kind of a legal proceeding, and the guy, I guess the detective, he’s a conservative, I think he was. She said they lived in California, and I guess he always thought she was attractive, but he waited until the case and all that stuff was over, and then he asked her out. So over time, because he was so masculine, he was so centered that she gave up her feminist B.S. and she got rid of the green hair, grew it out and just became extremely feminine and attractive because she felt safe, because she was actually dating a man.

So it is possible in some cases, because you’ll see that the biggest problem with liberal women is they complain that all the guys are very girly and not masculine and the only guys that are masculine tend to be conservative, because they don’t like the male feminists, because the male feminists basically are acting like another chick. They say they’re a feminist because they think acting like a feminist and claiming to be a feminist is what’s going to get a girl like them. Then women don’t want to sleep with them because they don’t act like men. Then they’re pissed off because the guys that act like men are all conservative.

So if a woman’s raised right, she typically is not going to fall for that woke bullshit, but maybe she got kind of brainwashed by her commie professors. I had two of my cousins go into University of Florida a few years ago, hardcore conservatives, and they come out as woke idiots, basically, and now they lean left. Even though they’re pro-gun, they’re voting for people who literally want to ban them from the guns that they use and train with, but it just shows the power of propaganda and the Marxist professors that are teaching most of the classes. You know, you send your kids to school and they come out with a completely different value system that’s basically anti-American.

Viewer Email:

Hello Coach,

There is a woman who always initiates interaction with myself. It started when we locked eyes. She smiled, I half smiled then shook myself free of the gaze.

Well, you should break eye contact first. That’s right out of the book. So it sounds like you looked away first, which is beta. An alpha stares where he wants. It’s up to the woman to submit and look away.

I had to leave before we could speak. The first time she came up I was silent. The second time she came up I explained my voice is still damaged from ICU.

So I guess that means he was intubated at some point.

The atmosphere was extremely loud and she could not hear myself properly but she was almost touching my skin with how close she came. None of this was a problem.

Well, it sounds like she probably found you attractive. Women who are getting that close, they’re physically bumping into you or almost touching your skin and you can feel the warmth, it’s usually a sign of attraction, but it’s just one sign.

The issue I have right now is the third time we spoke. Everything was smooth – Atmosphere was quiet so we had a good talk.

So I assumed by this point his voice is better now.

Now, she asked if I am a feminist. I said, “I don’t think men can be a feminist.” I explained a lot of feminists want to destroy men. She said, “No, not feminists but misogynists (dyslexia alert) want to destroy men.”

Well, part of feminism comes from Marxist-Leninist collectivist ideology. The girls can do everything guys can do. I mean, all you gotta do is look at all the superhero movies. It’s like they’re trying to show us that the girl is going to beat up the bad guys, and this chick with like, stick arms is going to fling some 300 pound steroid monster across the fucking room. Kind of like Queen Latifah, who’s an obese lesbian on the show. That came about after Denzel Washington’s great Equalizer movie series.

So I’ve seen a few of the fight scene choreographies. I don’t think the show is still on, maybe it is, but to see this obese lesbian just flinging bulky, masculine dudes that are bigger than her around like rag dolls, you’re like, “Come on, it’s so fucking ridiculous.” It’s just like, “Oh, women can do everything men can.” Well, how many female Navy Seals are there? Are Army Rangers? I think there might be one or two Army Rangers, but any of the other special forces, there’s no women because they just can’t physically do the job. That’s why men and women sports are separated, because men have physical advantages that women don’t have. That’s just a fact. That’s why they got separated in the first place. You see what happens when you have somebody that transitions and goes into those sports. It’s like they just basically beat the shit out of everybody.

Her friends arrived and she demanded her friends tell me a man can be a feminist.

So it’s like she’s trying to get you to comply because she thinks the magic pussy is going to cause you to go, “Sure,” but what causes her to stick around is you’re like, “Yeah, men can’t be feminist. That’s ridiculous.” No man with actual testosterone is going to call himself or refer to himself as a feminist, because women have plenty of freedom to do whatever they need to do. They’re not a victim class, but that’s what Marxism does, is everybody is the oppressed and the oppressor. You’re one or the other. You’re either a victim and therefore oppressed, or you’re the evil person that’s oppressing people. That’s why broke people are the oppressed and rich people are the oppressors. Women are the oppressed and men are the oppressors, but at the end of the day, good men sleep peacefully in their beds at night because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.

The friends did not battle with me. I said I believe in equality between men and women, between whites and blacks. She then did a chink with a cigarette on my bottle.

So is that like a toast? I assume that’s what he means.

She is often one to expect a man to pay for stuff.

Well, the beta males do that.

So if she asks you to buy her drink, say, “Why don’t you buy me a drink? You say you’re a feminist, that girls can do everything guys can do. Well, if guys often buy women drinks, if you call yourself a feminist and girls can do everything guys can do, then you should buy me a drink.”

I do not believe I should reward a woman with anything unless the woman is invested before money is demanded.

Well, like I said, if a woman says, “Hey, buy me a drink,” or “Why don’t you buy me a drink?” Especially when she’s calling herself a feminist, you should have fun with it. I say, “Well, you’re the liberated woman. Girls can do everything guys can do. Buy me a drink.” Then if she says, “No, guys are supposed to buy women drinks,” it’s like, “Well, you said you’re a feminist. So you’re liberated from the patriarchy. If you’re liberated from the patriarchy, then you don’t expect men to hold doors for you or buy you drinks. You can do that yourself. If you like a guy, which you obviously clearly like me, you should buy me a drink. Show me how liberated you are.”

Her male friend took on the payment and I did not contest the action. I explained I would be leaving after my bottle was finished. I did leave whilst the girl was at the hole in the wall with the male friend.

What’s that? The hole in the wall? I don’t know if you’re referring to the bar or there was an actual hole in the wall.

Now, this woman is fearless. I know her name but not her age. She was stunned to find out my birthday recently put me at 39. She said I only look 30.

Well, I think she likes you, and she probably likes the fact that you were willing to say, “I’m not a feminist,” because probably the guy that paid for the drink says he’s a feminist because he’s open to get laid.

I have been a long time reader/listener. My experience with feminism is rather negative.

Yeah well, I’m not a big fan of woke idiots. All you do is go on Twitter and they’re just screaming about something. I mean, I have friends and people that I’ve known over the course of my life.

I was on Facebook over the weekend and I don’t go there very often, just kind of looking through my personal Facebook and seeing what’s going on with some people, and there was one woman in particular that I knew from back in Tony Robbins day, and she actually used to work for him, and I was just like, “Holy shit.” I looked through her feed because I hadn’t seen it in a couple of years. It’s just every single post is her freaking out about, “Oh Donald. people are dying. Kids are dying. People are starving. He’s cutting all his days,” and just freaking out about every single thing that he does. I was like, “Jesus.”

It really wasn’t much on her social media other than her freaking out at everything Donald Trump does, and I wouldn’t have thought back in the day that she was a woke idiot, but I guess she was, or she turned out to be.

Do you think I should overlook the feminist movement when she approaches again…

I think you should have fun with it because she obviously likes you. She keeps coming over and she’s trolling you and you didn’t take the bait. So next time you see her, she’ll probably come up to you.

Another thing that can be fun with the feminism is, if she’s talking to you, you should also say, “Well, since you claim to be a feminist and girls can do everything guys can do, then do you ever kiss guys first? Do you think women should be the ones to make the first move to kiss a guy first? It’s like I’m willing to let you be liberated and you kiss me first, because you say you’re a feminist,” and have a game with her about that. “You look like you want to kiss me.” “No.” I would be like, “Well, you said you’re a feminist. You’re liberated. So usually it’s the man kissing the woman first. Prince charming kisses Snow White and she wakes up,” at least in the old version. The old cartoon from like the 30s or 40s, whatever it was from.

“So why can’t the woman kiss the guy first? You’re liberated. You say you’re liberated for the patriarchy. If you’re liberated from the patriarchy, then you shouldn’t be waiting for the men to kiss you. You should be kissing the men that you want to kiss, because you say you’re a feminist.” If she says, “No, I’m not going to do that,” I would be like, “Why? Are you not a very good kisser? Well, we can practice. I got some time.”

…Or tell her I Googled whether a man can be a feminist and got a yes?

Thank You,

Bob

No, I would not say that. I would have fun with it, because you can treat it as like a play on words. If she’s liberating, girls can do everything guys can do, then you should tease her and tell her to do the things that men normally do. Like making the first move, being the one to kiss, be the one to pay for drinks, that kind of thing. That’s the fun with it. See what she says. Then you can say, “Well, if she’s not willing to do any of those things, well you don’t really seem like much of a feminist to me. If you’re not willing to do all these things, you claim to be liberated from the patriarchy, but it seems like you like the patriarchy. If I look at how you’re operating with a smile on your face and a smirk like that.”

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