In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four different emails from four different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who was dating a woman he made some definite “maybe” plans with, when she was coming into town with her brother. She tells him she is on her way into town. He never hears from her. The next day he tries calling her and only gets her voicemail. She contacts him a week later apologizing for blowing him off. He wonders what he should do now. The second email is from a viewer who is getting divorced. His ex-wife to be calls him one night while he is hanging out with his new girlfriend, and basically threatens to take him to the cleaners in the divorce. He immediately leaves his girlfriends place to try and deal with the situation. His new girlfriend gets pissed and despite his apologies, she tells him to fuck off. It’s now been over a month since he has heard from her. The third email is from a viewer who got blown off by the woman of his dreams two years ago for being needy, over-pursuing and generally acting like a woman. She contacted him six months ago and things are going better now that he mostly has been following what I teach. She is now talking about marriage. He wonders if he should now start calling and pursuing more and if he should ask to see her more now that things are going way better than they ever have. The fourth email is from a viewer who was dating a woman who he was seeing three times a week. She started backing off and told him she was not ready for a relationship. He walked away. She called him a few weeks later and set a date. On the date he kissed her cheek and missed several opportunities to escalate things physically. She recently ignored his latest phone call and attempt to set a date. He wonders what he should do now.
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“Causing other people to respect you is one of the hardest things to earn, and one of the easiest things to lose. You should never make “maybe” plans where you keep your schedule wide open until the last minute, hoping someone wants to spend time with you. People who value and appreciate you will be happy to make definite plans where you have a definite day, place and time to meet up, without any instructions to verify the plans once again at the last minute. When someone asks you to verify plans at the last minute, the self-respecting thing to do is to withdraw the offer and make plans with someone else who is eager to make definite plans to see you. When you agree to be a “maybe” option for someone, you open yourself up to being someone’s backup plan. Never agree to be a backup, only a priority.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne