She Buys Me Gifts, But Never Offers To Pay For Dates. Is This A Red Flag?

How to know if her buying you gifts but not offering to pay for dates is a red flag.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer from the UK who is living in Brazil. He’s been with his Brazilian girlfriend for over 2 months. She is very feminine, affectionate, often buys him gifts and dotes on him. However, he’s upset that she has never offered to pay for dates. He claims in the UK men pay for the first few dates they have, but then women agree to pay 50/50 going forward. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “She Buys Me Gifts, But Never Offers To Pay For Dates. Is This A Red Flag?”

So this particular email is from a viewer. He’s from the UK, I guess he’s living in Brazil. And so he’s been with his Brazilian girlfriend for about two months now. He says she’s very feminine, very affectionate, often buys him gifts and dotes on him. However, he’s upset that she has never offered to pay for dates. He claims the UK men pay for the first few dates they have, but then the women agree to pay 50/50 going forward. What? And what fucking universe is that? I’ve never fucking heard that.

I’ve been doing this 20 years, dude. I had an English girlfriend. That’s the first I’ve ever heard of that. You’re the first dude from the UK telling me that that’s how things roll. I think more than likely, you’ve probably been listening to some Red Pill retardation, and that’s probably where you get that stupid idea from. But that’s not, that’s not how things go there. I’ve never fucking heard that before. That’s ridiculous. But again, that’s what happens when you listen to incompetent Red Pill Retards.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

I met a Brazilian girl on Bumble in May. She messaged me first. I kept it minor conversation until the day I arrived in her city of Brazil in June. I messaged her that day and took her out for dinner then two other spots. It was valentine’s day in Brazil. She passionately kissed me at the end of the date and even put my hands down her pants outside her apartment. She thanked me for the date and she would always reply to me quick and was effortless to arrange future dates.

That’s because she likes you. She’s into you.

The third date we went to an island for two days and we had sex for the whole first day/night. Our fourth date she brought me gifts a football shirt and wash bag I required for all skin care products.

Oh. Good skin care products are a virtue apparently.

She wrote me a love letter.

That’s, so four dates and she’s already writing you a love letter. So she had super high interest.

On our fifth date I got a hotel with a nice sea front view and during sex she told me she wanted children with my eyes.

Well, you were in the middle of having sex, so just take that with a grain of salt. It could be a little love bombing. She could be overselling it. You got to pay attention to her actions.

After a month of dating and her buying me more gifts we had a discussion about what we were and what we were looking for. I asked her about her culture & the expectancy of who pays for dates.

Well I can tell you from having dated Brazilians, the man is supposed to lead. They’re very feminine and I like masculine dudes. They’re not into some fucking beta male who’s consuming Red Pill retardation content. He’s like, yeah, we should pay 50/50. Come on.

She mentioned the man pays for dates then later on, more serious the woman makes date ideas.

Yep.

I explained in the UK the man pays for the first few dates then typically its 50/50 or sometimes the woman offers to pay.

Again. That is just total bullshit. I’ve never heard that before. 20 years of doing this, having an English girlfriend, having countless of English clients, not a single one has ever fucking told me that. Again, that’s why it looks like you got that for some Red Pill fucking retard. And you know, that’s because he’s a broke ass bitch and he can’t really afford to pay for things. That’s why he saying, “oh, it should be 50/50.” Come on. Get the fuck out of here.

We became official. I had dates with seven other women in my first weeks and none of them offered to pay or said thanks.

Again. You invited her out at your party. I mean, this is right out of the book. I assume you read it. Or maybe you didn’t.

We’ve been together now two months, and it’s got to a point where she would want to see me more and more and addicted to my sex and wanting to see me five days a week to then seven days a week.

Well, when women are in love, they want your attention all the fucking time. They’ll be stuck to you like a suckerfish.

Even if she goes to dinner with her friends, she will want to come straight back to me and it’s a night and morning of sex and affection. 

Well, good for you. That’s the way you’re supposed to be.

She is buying me more gifts, often buys me fruit or even toothpaste if she notices I need it.

This is normal. This is what normal women do in a normal world. Not the world of Red Pill retardation.

She has written me a few love cards and given me framed photos of us together and Polaroids for my wallet with love notes. She is very feminine and affectionate. She will tell me five times during our sex nights or mornings she loves me so much and wants children with my eyes and sees me as her husband. 

Well, if you follow what’s in the book, typically women will be in love after two months and they will say things like that. It’s right out of the book. So at least good job on the courtship. But the 50/50 thing, that’s just retarded. That’s ridiculous.

She wants to do anything with me, she cancelled her personal trainer as she wanted me to train her in the gym, will watch football with me at a stadium or TV.

Well, that’s a definite plus.

She puts me on her Instagram often a photo of us and tagging me in that she loves me or makes posts including me.

See, that’s what a woman does when she loves her man. She wants to show him off to the world. She wants everybody to know, “this is my man. This is my man.”

I’m bring treated like a king, but she has never offered to pay for our dates when we go out to dinner or drinks.

Yeah, but what you’re ignoring is that she buys you shit all the time. A good woman will typically offer to buy a glass of wine or something like that. They’ll do things for you. They will spend their money on you. It doesn’t mean they have to do that specifically, but you’re ignoring the fact that she’s buying this shit all the time, so she clearly cares for you. Clearly loves you. And she’s a giver. That’s what’s important. You got a woman who’s a giver. Because a taker, the taker will never offer to pay for anything. And she won’t ever buy you anything. That’s the important difference. The difference that makes a difference.

Even when she invited me to her church with her, I am expected to pay for the subway. She is a real estate agent and rents an apartment even though she sleeps at mine. I know my UK money goes further than her money but long term I don’t want to be paying 100% for a woman. She is starting to feel more like a daughter than a team mate to me as it’s 100% financially sided toward me. 

Okay, well then then don’t date her and don’t date anybody if you don’t like spending money. Women cost money. It’s expensive. Having friends is expensive. Everything costs money that you do. But like I said, she’s buying you stuff all the time. And so, like, say you down the road, you guys move in and you’re split in a place. Obviously in that point, you’re going to look at how much you make and how much she makes. Add it together, convert it to a percentage, and then based on that percentage, say it’s 70/30. Say you make 70% of the money of the household and she makes 30%.

Well, she pays 30% of the bills and you pay 70%, but you’re only dating for two months. You’re not married yet. So again, as you continue to invite her out and do things, it’s your job to pay for it. This is just, you know, again, if you’re used to being the leader and the provider and the protector, you’re going to do these things naturally, not be going, “I need to pay 50/50” because again, you’re listening to some incompetent incel who has no clue about women telling you “Yeah. It should be 50/50.” It’s some broke ass bitch who’s incompetent. That’s why he’s broke.

I feel mixed because I appreciate the love and affection from her but occasionally, I would like her to offer to pay for drinks at least.

But you’re again ignoring the fact that she’s buying you shit all the time. And again, because this idea was put in your head by some Red Pill retard.

I mentioned this a few weeks back and it’s not changed. Long term it can’t be this way for me. know I am not being used because of her actions and how she treats me, and she has general burning desire for me.

What would be the best way to approach this? 

Regards,

Bob

Keep paying. You’re the man. If you don’t like it, don’t date women. Plain and simple. Just get a hooker. It’ll be cheaper for you that way. But if you’re gonna date. If you’re going to be the head of the household, this is just normal protocol, Dude. And again, saying, “oh, well, in the UK, this is how we do it.” It’s like, that’s the biggest line of bullshit I’ve heard in a while. Again, in 20 years I’ve never had one single guy, and I’ve coached thousands and thousands of dudes from the UK ever say that. And plus I never heard any bullshit like that from my ex girlfriend from the UK. So that’s nonsense.

Again, the only time I hear stuff like that is from the Red Pill Retards, they say that shit all the time, because usually most of them are incompetent, broke ass dudes and you’re listening to incompetent people give you advice on things they clearly have zero understanding of. So like I said, keep doing things the way you’re doing because she’s still buying your gifts and doing things for you. She told you how her culture operates, that the man pays. That’s what she expects. She’s playing her role as the woman, and you play your role as the man.

If you guys move in together down the road, then you can figure out what her monthly income is and what your monthly income is. Convert it to a percentage and then based on the percentages is how much each of you pays towards your rent and your other bills. If you invite a woman out, you pay. If you invite friends over for a football watching party, you pay. You don’t charge them a fucking cover charge like, “Hey, I need five bucks for the Doritos.” It’s like, come on. It’s ridiculous.

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