Here’s how to successfully use sexual innuendo when an ex contacts you after several months of no communication, and how to avoid communicating you got no game. A lot of guys contact me when things do not work out with an ex-girlfriend or a woman they were trying to date. It’s very tempting for someone who has just started learning what I teach, to want to go back and try to rekindle things with a woman they blew it with previously. The way I look at it, the more women you can interact with who like you and practice what I teach on them, the faster mastery and success will come to you. Just like a professional baseball player swings at every good pitch thrown to him, no matter who the pitcher is, you should take a shot at hooking up with every pretty girl you like who is single and available. Repetition is the mother of skill. If you don’t practice, you won’t get any better. If you’re not in the game, you can’t get a hit and SCORE! The following is an e-mail from a reader who has been fairly successful at applying what I teach for the past few months. A woman who he walked away from after she gave him the “let’s just be friends” speech, has just contacted him after three months of no contact at all. Unless his Spanish to English translation is off, it looks like his attempt at sexual innuendo is a total crash and burn. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I’m the guy who Is dating a woman with the kids who were being disrespectful. Well, not anymore, since I’m managing the situation quite well. Happens that before all that, like one year ago this time, I was breaking up with this other woman named Caroline. I was totally in love with her, but I didn’t know anything about women yet. (That’s what most likely led you to my book and work. Guys usually come to me because the shit has hit, or is about to hit the proverbial fan so to speak, in their personal lives, business, careers, relationships, health, etc. It’s only when the reality of rejection, pain, failure, suffering, etc. hits that we tend to ponder and seek solutions for things in our lives which are not working, or are no longer working in a peaceful, balanced and effortless manner. I teach guys what success looks like, feels like, sounds like, smells like, etc. through my own eyes, experiences and personal successes. I teach the best mindsets, skills and techniques that have helped me to always blow away my competition in anything I have ever set out to be great at. Apply what I teach and you will get the same results over time as your skills, confidence and life situation improves due to daily focus on being at your personal best in every area of your life. It’s a relentless pursuit to be a little better today than you were yesterday. Just give it your best each and every day. Then, you can lay your head down on your pillow in peace each night. You did what you could. Tomorrow is a brand new day. A fresh new start to try and get better again. “Inaction breeds fear and doubt, action breeds confidence and courage.” ~ Dale Carnegie. What you fear, you attract, what you look at and take action in the direction of, will disappear as the illusion of fear that it really is. In other words, you must do what you fear. It’s the only way to conquer your own irrational fears and limiting beliefs about what you think you are really capable of. “If we all did what we were really capable of, we would literally astound ourselves!” ~ Thomas Edison, Inventor of the light bulb. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) When we met, I was coming out of a relationship that lasted 1 year, and she was leaving a marriage of 6 years. I’m 32, she’s 33. We had some friends in common, and started dating after a weekend we spent at the beach by the invitation of mutual friends. I can say that in 3 months I dropped her interest level from 70-80 to < 51%, by being needy, kinda weak and by chasing her a lot. (Chasing women always guarantees rejection.) We had much in common, and I can say we had quite a good time together in every way. Besides me being needy, in the 3 months we were together, she discovered that her ex husband cheated on her for the last 6 months of marriage. That drove her really nuts. And besides that, my ex-girlfriend started to investigate her life and generate drama between her and some mutual friends she had with my ex. (My life is a drama free zone. I don’t tolerate chicks who have nothing but drama and personal problems going on. I love balanced, healthy women who are fantastic communicators.)
After 3 months dating, she left me and started with the “only friends” thing. And then, I found out about you and started to learn something. After months of acting in my center, I believed she was again with > 51% of interest and I set a date at my place. On this date, after we spent some good and relaxing time together, she told me at the end of the date, like at 4AM, that she was seeing another guy. (Comeback: “That’s ok, he can keep you busy when you’re not with me.” Use banter and playfulness to get her to do what you want.) I was kinda devastated. (Why? She was on a date with you. Plus, you got other women you are dating and hooking up with. See no scarcity in your life, only the abundance that is ALL AROUND YOU!!! Love the women as they dance and play into your kingdom. Never chase, that way they’ll ALL chase you. Seduce them when they come around with your charm and humor. By asking her questions and making sure she talks 80% of the time, you remain mysterious. Therefore, she has to ask you about everything that’s going on in your life. This causes her to have to work to get you. Be a challenge.) Some days later, I sent her an email like the one you recommend to get your girlfriend back or move on. I said I adored her, but that I couldn’t live with less than what I wanted, which was totally true. It was January/2012. I never heard from her since then… until last week.
As I said, I’m a Rheumatologist, and she has an uncle with a rare rheumatic disease. She started messaging me during my work time. Of course I didn’t answer right away, but only after all, at night, and very straight. (I have found it’s always best to return their call or text the next day if she calls after 7 pm. Why? By then, I’m either getting ready for a date or on a date. Plus, she’ll assume that when she’s unable to get in touch, and you text her back the next day. I return phone calls with texts. I get right to the point. Make a definite date and then get off the phone.) She asked about where and when I was working, and I answered that. Being strictly professional, but friendly. (Always be a charming James Bond. Love is playful and fun, not serious.) Her uncle came to see me the next week. She has been messaging me, and I have been very straight and professional all the time. (A cold fish, that’s NOT a charming James Bond.) After all, she came with a message saying: “You know, I don’t think it should be so radical that we may not talk anymore. It’s sad. :(” (I would have said, “I agree, I’m looking forward to seeing you naked in my bed again gorgeous ;)” but I’m naughty and always charming like that. Love is ALWAYS PLAYFUL AND FUN not serious!) I finally answered her, trying to be playful: “Caroline, I love when you talk to me. And you may ask me professionally for anything that you desire. (Translation: “I am ready to accept your terms of friends only, because I’m acting like a cold fish instead of a charming James Bond, who has impure thoughts about ALL BEAUTIFUL WOMEN because he is a slave to their beauty and charm. A man ALWAYS playfully communicates his intentions to women who communicate mutual interest, so they can play along, or run off feigning displeasure, but… they always come back… later… when THEY FEEL LIKE IT. So relax, it’s in the bag. All is well.) “If you want as a friend, a man who will use all of his intelligence to try to take you to bed, you are welcome to come and tell me at, (my address). There is a very nice deck there.” (Ok, well, maybe that is just you translating Spanish into bad English, but hopefully it sounded better in your language when you said it, than it did in English LOL.) I don’t know if I went too deep, or if I went too heavy on the sex theme. (That’s why I often recommend for people who are new to my work, to steer clear of the topic of sex or sexual innuendo. There’s a sweet, charming and humorous way to do it, and there’s the “I got no game” way of saying it that causes anything BUT success.) The truth is, this is how I feel. What do you think about it. That was yesterday when I sent it. (Well, what’s done is done. Wait for her to contact you again. If she does, try to set up a date to meet up for drinks. Do things only a lover would do. Cut that friendship talk crap out immediately and forever. Assume if they’re contacting you, it’s because they want you to be a man, and set a nice date, a fun-filled romantic opportunity for sex to happen later at your place or hers.)
Greetings! A friendly hug
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