In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is dating a beautiful, successful, high status woman who could have any man she wants. They’ve been on 7 dates now, and she’s really into him. She’s the kind of woman he’s always wanted. He’s done the work on himself to become the kind of person he wants to attract. She’s constantly telling him how she doesn’t want to date anyone else, and it’s obvious she is starting to fall in love with him and push away all other potential male suitors. He shares what he’s learned and how he approaches dating such a confident, beautiful and successful woman due to successfully applying what he’s learned from me.
I’ve been following your work for about two years now, and we did one phone session about a year ago. It’s taken a lot of practice and patience to get to where I am now, but I’ve finally met someone that “knocks my socks off!” (It’s important to practice patience. You have to become the kind of person you want to attract. Do the work in your life, and create the space for someone to come in and fill it.)
This woman exudes all the traits of a perfect partner, and she could literally have any guy she wants – but she’s choosing me! Through your work, I’ve learned to be extremely observant of women’s behavior, and that has allowed me to navigate the dating world with open eyes. This woman is very confident, and her reactions to my behavior let me know immediately whether or not I’m being alpha. (Alpha females won’t tolerate beta behavior.) Luckily, I haven’t made any major mistakes due to the practice with many women over the past two years. Knowing what to say and how to behave in the right moments has allowed our connection to flourish rapidly. (When you diligently apply the fundamentals, the seduction process becomes effortless.)
On our very first date, she was asking me what I want out of a woman. I mentioned some of the traits I’m looking for and then said point blank, “I have high standards, and I’m not ashamed to admit that. My time is my most valuable resource, so I’m very selective with who I date. So far, sweetie, you qualify in a major way.” (He is matter-of-factly stating, he won’t settle for anything but the best.) The look on her face was like I shot her with cupid’s arrow. She was instantly addicted to me.
We’ve gone on 7 dates now, but we feel like we’ve known each other forever. I just consistently make her feel beautiful and wanted. I let her know I love hearing from her, but I set up the next date, and then wait to meet her in person. My old self would be so worried about where we stand at this point. But being overly patient, and just being very consistent with my behavior is allowing our attraction to grow out of control. (He’s focusing on patience. Take time, and make sure the other person is making the effort to win you over as well.)
She keeps mentioning how she doesn’t want to date anyone else, and how she’s turning down other opportunities. I always let her know that is very flattering, and she’s a special woman, but I never mention if I’m doing the same. (Those things are irrelevant until the relationship evolves.) On our last date, she said she only wants me, and so I said “Are you asking me to be exclusive?” and she rambled off like 3 questions in a row – “Are you dating other women? Are you sleeping with anyone else? Do you want to be with only me?” I let her finish, and very calmly I responded, “Sweetie, this relationship is young, and I’m exploring my options like any single male should, but none of the other women make me feel like you do. I have special feelings for you.” (He’s making her feel as though she is more special than other women he is dating.) With that, she just hugged me and we continued joking and sipping our cocktails.
Sexually, she lets me dominate her in every way. She just can’t wait to jump in the sack and let me have my way with her. We’re always whispering dirty things to each other while we’re out – building the tension throughout the evening until we get back to my place and begin the “bedroom Olympics!”
I’ve realized that by knowing your principles very well, I feel like I can handle any situation. Read my book 10-15 times to learn the fundamentals and practice.) Instead of trying to be prepared for certain questions or situations, I can be free and have the confidence that no matter where we are or what we’re doing, I’m in charge, and I’m making her feel like she’s the best woman in the world.
Thanks for what you do, coach. If only my friends would wake the fuck up and read your book, they’d be able to realize that relationships can be effortless and magical, like I have. (This is proof that with time and repetition, you will get results.)
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“Attraction is based upon mutual respect and admiration, especially having self respect and valuing yourself. People who value and respect themselves demand that other people treat them with respect and appreciation, and won’t tolerate anything less than what they know they deserve. When you allow other people to walk all over you and you don’t stand up for yourself, you will cause others to not treat you with respect because you don’t respect yourself. You’re literally inviting others to treat you with disrespect and place a low value on your presence. People who love and value themselves are repulsed and will walk away from people, circumstances, and situations where they’re not getting the respect and appreciation that they deserve. Being able to walk away forever, not look back, and mean it, is always the strongest and most powerful negotiating position to take in order get what you want in life. You don’t get what you deserve, only what you negotiate.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne