Why men need to be patient and let women come to them at their own pace instead of always trying to force a relationship, or force women to spend more time with them than they are ready to spend.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who started dating a woman who had just recently broken up with her boyfriend when they first met. They were on and off for about six months. She said she felt like the man in the relationship due to his smothering, over pursuing and needy behavior. He did most of the pursuing and was constantly acting like a gushy woman talking about his feelings and “being there for her.” She told him that she needed space, but he did not listen and continued to try and force himself into her life.
The second email is from a viewer who has been dating his girlfriend for about eight months. He’s tired of her needy and insecure behavior. She gets angry, bitchy and tends to try and punish him when he does not return her messages right away, or he is unable to spend time with her when she wants to see him due to other commitments. The third email is from a viewer who is displaying classic passive aggressive behavior by breaking up with his girlfriend every time she pisses him off to punish her. A week or two later he calls her, apologizes and they get back together. The most recent time he did this to her she would not take him back. She has grown tired of his immature and tiresome routine. She said for her the relationship is over. He tried begging, pleading and reasoning with her to no avail. He wonders what he can do now.
“Women want men to be the leaders in relationships and act more like men than they do. Anytime men start calling excessively, acting needy or desperate, trying to spend more time and force more dates than women are ready for, trying to force a commitment too soon, etc., women will feel like they are losing their freedom and start saying things like, “I need some space… I need to find myself… I need to get my head together… I’m not sure where I’m able to be at this point in my life… I’m not ready for a relationship… Things are moving too fast… etc.” Men should never do more than 20-30% of the calling, texting and pursuing. If they do, they will get friend zoned, get dumped or never get women to fall in love with them. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free. If you try to force women into your life, they will force you out of theirs.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne